I need your advice. I will not mention the lady's ID just yet in case I am crying wolf but is this lady a potential scammer?
I received a first letter from a lady here and she had a private email address and she told me to write to her there. So I replied and later that day I received a reply from her and it seemed like an email from a nice genuine lady.
I later logged on to the site and found I had received another letter from her which was exactly the same as the first letter - word for word, EXCEPT the email address she was asking me to write was different from the first. The difference in timeframe between these letters was 1 day.
What do you make of that??? Am I being paranoid or does that sound a bit suspect?
we removed her, and investigating. it looks like she was sending the same emails.
my advice - when you start corresponding send few letters via web site first. do not give your private email right away.
Thank you so much for intervening Olga. I received another email from her today which I shall not reply to and it seems to be very suspicious. For example, she told me what she earns which wasn't much and this was only her second letter.
I will be more careful in future.
Here is an email from what I see as a potential scammer. Her profile has been deleted from this site. This is the 4th email I have received from her in the space of a week and I have decided to play along to see where it goes. Here is the email. I am posting it here in the hope that it helps others from potenially being conned. Notice she signs the email as my girlfriend now, before it was my friend. Any feedback would be appreciated:-
Good afternoon my Rob.
Thank for your new letter. I am very glad that you write me. It is
very interesting to me to read your letters. You see they open you as
persons and I very much like all that you write. You have many
qualities which I I like also which would like to see at my future
husband. In the person to me its honesty first of all is important.
Probably it because I very much frequently to be deceived in people
and consequently I to appreciate this quality most above. You see
anything is not present more important than honesty and ability to
speak that you think and to assert the position. You with me agree? I
to search such person. I am tired that constantly betray me and on
this I am glad that you in the letters are fair. We write each other
not yet long and I to know much about you and to i made for myself
conclusions. It is very pleasant for me to communicate with you. Under
your past letters at me to develop about you very good opinion and I
would be glad to find out about you the new facts which to convince me
of that that I to make a correct choice having written to you the
first letter. I like that that you tell about yourself and to like
that sincerity and an openness with which you it to make. In my
opinion you have the majority of qualities which I search in the
person. And I hope that our attitudes may grow. Still I to want to
tell to you about my dreams. My dreams simple. I to you already told
about them. I want to be happy and to make happy on the Earth of the
person liked by me. I to want to have the family. My family may and
there will be no the idealest in this world but I to want to have
family and it to be happy. You see what at me plain dreams. I for the
present have not found that happiness which I search. Probably is you.
For my 29 years of life I to save up what potential of tenderness and
kind feelings which am not spent yet and I wait for the person to
which shall devote all of. What to search you in the woman? Still I to
want with you today will talk about that as I see a role of the woman
in family. In my opinion neither the husband nor the wife should not
feel that their rights are restrained. In Russia of the woman are
brought up so they should care of family more. All family problems lay
on the woman. She should care of children prepare for food, erase,
keep the house in order. I am brought up in the same spirit. I to
consider that the woman should hold keys from family. But also the man
should her help very seriously. On the first place for the woman there
should be a family. Russian women are able to combine both work and
family and everywhere to be irreplaceable. Therefore here the woman
also works and conducts family. I think that it correctly and am ready
to make all that my future family was happy. How you treat to this
question? I I hope has not tired you the reflections. I wait your
answer.
Your girlfriend <Name Withheld>.
But it is not a personal letter, she is not talking to specifically to Rob, his name has been added to a pre-written letter, she's just bullshitting to fill a page, she hasn't asked him any pertinent questions nor is she answering any questions, she's just waffling
Rob, go back to her in your next letter and ask her about 6 questions that need quite a detailed reply, ask about the work of her parents, has she disussed her plans with them, ask about her city etc. etc. etc. That should clarify if she is actually writing, rather than manufacturing, these letters.
Castawaysailor - I hope you are right but I am suspicious. I have asked her questions in previous emails and hardly any of them have been answered. She only answered one of my questions about her previous relationships. It is like she is working from some form of template. If you look at the beginning of the thread I am referring to the same person here who wrote to me twice on successive days the same message with different email addresses. As a result, Olga removed her profile. Plus, if you notice she is now referring to me as her girlfriend. Come on - a sincere FSU woman would not write this and come on string like this so soon, especially after telling me of a relationship where she was betrayed badly. Once bitten, twice shy!
I am writing to other women from this site and I am receiving some nice letters and none of them are like this. Plus I ran a check on her IP address and it is coming from a different city but in the same region to the one she says she is from. Of course, there is a margin for error when running an IP address check.
Martin_UK - in my reply to this email I have asked her for a phone number so that we can talk. Let's see how she reacts to that.
izifaddag - no it is neither Katia or Irina. I wish to keep the lady annonymous for the moment. She can't harm anyone else here as her profile has been removed. However, I did receive a letter from a Katia which was also suspicious. I chose not to reply to that one.
Robin,
Have you explained to her that you live in Sherwood Forest etc? When the time may come to have some fun!
If you do decide to telephone her then go to www.telediscount.co.uk , about 10% the price of BT depending on where you are calling.
IP addresses aren't that accurate but does she write from the same computer all the time but claim to be writing from an internet cafe whereas she wouldn't be, all the time, using the same computer or indeed claim to be writing from the same computer but with different IP addresses?
I may tell her that my name is really Betty and I am a lesbian :-) But seriously, I am not holding out any hope on this one. I am treating this as a learning experience to see how a scammer lures her victims, and of course I am waiting for the question concerning asking for money.
Thanks for the tip on the cheap calls. With my ex-girlfriend (who was Russian whom I met through a friend) I would call her using Just Dial (www.justdial.co.uk) and it would cost 10p/min weekdays and 5p/min weekends. I will share my expericenes with her on a new thread. I have one hell of a story to tell about her.
Her IP address is the same from all her emails from what I can gather. It is a bit tricky to determine anything accurate from this because she said that she has internet access at work. But nonetheless, I am suspicious. It has all the hallmarks of a scammer.