Before I became a member I had 15 or so emails, now that I am a member..nothing..not even from agency girls,had one write to my personal address,I have a good personality and I am not ugly, does anyone have any advice for a newbie on the site (excluding wisecrackers..lol.) would appreciate any sound advice...thanks
Get some better photos and write to a lot of girls. Some guys here initially wrote hundreds of intro letters, and then settled on a couple girls to focus on.
On a LOT of sites - when you first put your own profile up women will respond simply because and most recent. Some women have a system of writing to the most recently established profiles that even appear halfway what they are looking for. As time goes on your profile is buried by more recent ones.
I've experienced the same thing.
Solutution - update your profile every now and then and get it in front of the pack again.
write more introductory letters. some girls are too shy to write first. they sit and wait when men will contact them. allow some time for them to reply. not every girl has computer at home with constant internet access, a lot of them are able to reply only once or twice a week from the internet cafe or friend's computer. upload more photos, keep your ad updated. that is all that you need for good start :)))
My simple advice is to be proactive in this search. I wrote to only about 80 women in the beginning and actually the lady I have ended up with wrote to me first. Then I started to eliminate the others for different reasons. Towards the end I was only writing three women. Then a year and a half ago after much correspondence with the three I knew the one that was going to be the perfect match for me. I may have been more lucky than smart, but the lady I found is absolutely the most incredible woman I have had the pleasure to write, speak to and spend time with. To me she is a gift from God, and absolutely one of the most intriguing and interesting people I've ever had the pleasure of spending time with on many fronts. I'm one not to believe in soulmates, but if she isn't mine, there is no such a thing.
What I think is : you can read in these agencies pages "Real russian woman never write first" and thats why these agencies must do something to encourage women to write people not to wait prince in the white horse!
Mark,
Use a shotgun approach by writing the same form introductory letter with plenty of basic information about yourself to at least 100 women every week for a month.
Make sure your profile is written in the same manner and reflect much is not all of what you tell them in your letter.
Use humor, good manners and down to earth common sense.
Then sit back, fix yourself a martini and enjoy the fruits of your labor..;)
If you still do not get any responses, maybe you need to adjust the parameters of the women you approach...like age over 19, lol.
Mark, write a real good profile. I still get plenty of letters and i never send intro letters out. Toad is right too. Ignore girls under 21. You're just wasting your time with them.
Do NOT use a shotgun approach. Many of these ladies have to make a great effort, at no small cost, to respond to mail they receive. They don't sit at home with their cheap broadband networks, thankful that some inconsiderate loser, happily blanketing the FSU with speculative letters, is completely wasting their time.