One of the threads mentioned earlier that a warning sign of a lady is her talking about expectations after marriage. My question is: how do you go about discussing this kind of stuff, or when, with the lady? Should you discuss what kind of house you have, how big it is, how much money you make? Or, do you just show pictures when you visit her in person and hope it all works out? Or, do you just look for warning signs, place your faith in love and the relationship and assume it doesn't matter...it's about how she cares about you as the person (a little far fetched possibly)?
The more she cares about you as a person, the more she assumes that your attitude will be the same. That means that you have to think about future.
Ask how she imagines your ideal future. Discuss how you spend your money and how you are going to spend money then you merry her.
Expectations of girls are absolutely different. But if she conclude that you are extremely greedy that will probably be the end of your relationships or marriage.
Greediness hurts a lot. In my case he make a sick face two times. First time, I asked him for a dessert at the restaurant and second time then I asked him to buy me a $1 battery to my digital camera. It was even not mostly greediness but more a sight – I am the man who pays for it.
This position: –“ I am the man who pays for it.” I hate.
And she also expect the she will be living in “our house” not “in my husband’s house”. She expects to get a job and also to spend “our money” not “my husband’s money”. Otherwise it is not marriage it is a fucking couple.
Good Thread. Actually I didn't take anything with me on my first trip in regards to my home, car etc. until I knew what Larissa's expectations were. I told her I wasn't a rich man, but I'm not a poor man either. I can do things many guys twice my income level can because my debt service is low. So don't let income be a big thing. These ladies cannot realize anything until they come here to live. On my second trip I took pictures of my house, my motorcycles, my cars which, is middle income all the way. I am a disciple of Dave Ramsey, and I became one after my divorce which I walked away with the clothes on my back, because I have a daughter and didn't want to destroy all I had built up in my previous Marriage, now my daughter runs the business I built and she is doing extremely well. Larissa does not have to work, and If I fell on hard times I can sit on my ass for a year before my safety money runs out. I've never been out of work for more than two weeks and I'm not worried about being out of work. I am more concerned with my future and the ability to survive hard times. So trying to impress a lady with the BMW the 4000 sq/ft home, isn't going to mean much if all you can do is to work to be a slave to those items. It will be just as difficult if you are renting an apartment and making 10 bucks an hour. So being rich isn't owning things, it's creating liquid wealth, which many of my friends do not have. Though I have started to invest in gold to hedge my bet against the dollar. Yeah, I have downsized my life from 7 years ago, but I sure as hell sleep a lot better now.