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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > cultural differences Author Post CodeRed Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2003 12:04:35 PM   Since getting to know my Olga I have grown to love the Russian culture and find her outlook on life. It’s fascinating. This brings me to cultural differences and the theme of this thread. I have read a lot of classic Russian literature recently with guidance from my Olga and have found that the Russian outlook or soul regarding love which my Olga agrees with, is fairly pessimistic, the short stories and novels usually feature unrequited love or tortured love often ending in death or suicide of one of the lovers, or at best a sad life. This is the complete opposite to the Hollywood myth of ‘falling in love and living happily ever after’, which going by the ever-rising divorce rate is not the truth. Another difference because of Russia’s period of Communism, was created through repression a completely different view of sex (Communists didn’t have sex) no information was available about sex or contraception. (a bit like Victorian England) Abortion was used for contraception. Resulting in the average woman having several abortions by the time she was in her 30s. Talking to my Olga and other Russians they have no emotional feelings only physical ones around abortions, I don’t know whether this is general. The other big difference is the shortage of men in Russia mainly due a short life expectancy (mid 50s) related to alcohol. There is also an awful lot of hidden physical abuse in Russian marriages, which the police do little about. With life threatening attacks, usually alcohol related, which would not be tolerated in our cultures I feel. Since the break down of Communism things are changing and certainly in the large cities a western approach to life in general seems to be taking over, with more information freely available and lifestyles changing. Woman are getting out on their own now. Living with the parents happens. However its less and less. Woman are highly educated and intelligent. So to sum up I find I am fascinated by the difference in my Olga, the mystery of her, which we have somehow lost in our western approach to relationships. But that apart I don’t have a problem with English women or American women, the few I have met, women are women the culture I feel is only a spin. Ps I think we have to be careful about judging nations by there cities St.Petersburg and Moscow are not Russia, as New York is not America nor London the UK, in the country as a whole they do things differently. Good luck to all... stephen Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/7/2003 6:37:40 AM   Codered, Is the culture a spin? It is a good question or are you confusing those things which women around the world have to grapple with as opposed to the societal expectations that are put upon them. My only first hand experience of the status of women in Russia is in the USSR days of Brezcnev when I did the Trans Siberian railway trip. In a disco in Kharbarovsk, I watched in total amazement as a man went on the disco floor and took a woman by the ear and dragged her off. This was an upmarket venue. My disbelief was compounded by the fact that the management and everyone else reacted as if this was to be expected and nothing was wrong. Nobody did anything. I am sure that such things probably don't happen today (or I hope not) so maybe what you suggest that times are changing is true. But what is culture but a set of expectations based on beliefs that are local to the community whatever it is. Maybe it is the mystery of another culture that makes Russian women most attractive to some men. The idea that you might never know what she is really thinking....but do you have to if you love her anyway? Nonetheless, I think that cultural differences are very real and a sensitivity for them is essential in any international relationship. CodeRed Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/7/2003 9:31:30 AM   Well, Im going by what I have seen of the culture and what my wife has told me. Culture and societal expectations, The state of being cultivated; result of cultivation; physical improvement; enlightenment and discipline acquired by mental and moral training; civilization; refinement in manners and taste. The list of all the items of the general life of a people represents that whole which we call its culture. So they are both one in the same. If its accepted behavior, (The application of the term culture to the collective attitudes and behavior) I doubt if its the mystery of another culture that makes Russian women attractive to men. I think its the desire to change a life situation for the belief that it is better for them. Some its for Love with no prigional intention to change cultures. And you are correct in that cultural differences are very real and a sensitivity for them is essential in any international relationship. I agree. Good luck to all.. CodeRed Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/8/2003 8:02:48 PM   From an artical I found: Many Russian women are looking for western men. There are many reasons for that but probably the most important are: Very often Russian women cannot find the right man in Russia. People in Russia marry early in their lives and if you are a female in your late twenties or early thirties it becomes difficult to find the right guy because most of them are already married. Many Russian women do not like Russian men. If Russian men live in Russia they must behave like other Russian men otherwise they will not have friends and probably will not be successful in Russia. That makes them unacceptable for some Russian women. Men's chauvinism, infidelity and addiction to alcohol are among the most prominent reasons why some Russian women don't like Russian men. For every 100 women in Russia there are about 97 men. In other words three women out of hundred will not find a man and if the population of Russia is 150 million, about 450 000 women will not be able to find a husband in Russia. kicks Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/17/2003 1:24:40 PM   I'm very sorry national ethnic reclassified trends.I live in Korea's any village.We are dislike ourselves in that first sexual ageing system.Therefore I am searching for another partner to alternate with that owned puzzlements.How many people find their living methods various and there exotic wife in exciled that our tricky human! Return to their tomb and live again forever! I am a Korean that native story prefer new to old,renewable man. CodeRed Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/17/2003 4:33:04 PM   Strange?? stephen Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/18/2003 3:04:52 AM   Sounds like that computerised translation software needs a new version....get Bill Gates on the job......... 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