How long does it take, to know if she is real, worthy of your attention, love, care etc? Since time is money, how much does it cost?
I spent more than 15,000 USD last year looking for my mate in Kazakstan, Ukraine, Romania, London and Jamaica. Did it make me bankrupt: No. Did it affect me financially: No. But did affect me pyschologically: Yes.
In the end there are many good woman out there. Many, where ever you live, or in a foreign country.
But in the end ladies from a foreign country are our favourite. Why?
Because we believe in a better world, and given sufficient TIME, sufficient ENERGY, we believe we will change, adapt and that our possible mate will do the same!
I have not found my mate, but then I had many chances. I am difficult and that is all.
It matters not if she is from my native Scotland, my previous living city London or Kingston (Jamaica) or in my present city Bucharest (Romania). In the end it is all about integrity. And women (the real ones that is) take a long time to assess our integrity...no matter where we live - that is after they have fallen for us that is.
So why bother?
If you want to find a genuine lady from FSU, go live where she is - find a job there and do it!
Why is it so hard?
These ladies are expected to do the same when they come to you, why can't you do the same for them?!
And don't tell me that living in London, New York or elesewhere is better than Kiev, Moscow etc, when you can live in these cities at a fraction of cost than at home and with better culture and better life so long as you get international schooling for the kids and international medical coverage.
Get real guys! Many Americans and English people have done just that!
They buy property, do them up, sell them on, or rent them out etc.
That is why Odessa is becoming a property booming city (like others in Eastern Europe)
THE TIME IT TAKES FOR YOU TO BE TOGETHER AS A COUPLE IS PROPORTIONAL TO HOW MUCH INTEGRITY YOU HAVE TO VALUE HER AS AN EQUAL HUMAN BEING TO YOURSELF.
If I have not found my other half-it has notjing to do with the above but to do with external events in my life.
I can at least say I have lived in these various countries, learnt their languages and adapted to their norms, cultures, religious beliefs and behaviours. I at least have not shyed away out of cowardice, fear or feeling of superiority.
The reason I am not doing it, is I earn 50x more money in my own country.
So why turn my life upside down
I dont mind going for a visit but not stay.
Ive been told property there is now very expensive. In St Pete an appartment starts $2000/m2
and goes up to 10x that. If the average wage is 100 a week, I do not know how most people there can afford buy it. Its like 5mths salary per sq meter, compared to a weeks salary here.
Hard to see it going higher but who knows
Not surprising the No1 priority there is RICH
Every expat earns 10-50% more than in his country (tax free of course) plus other provisions (accomodation etc). So in the FSU you are looking at 80k plus (if you are American)...it is generally difficult for companies to account for paying slaries higher than that simply because they have to meet their NY or Lndn share holders.
But remember: US and UK governments had a few years ago considered Moscow a Dangerous city to live (so bonuses went up like it has done in Iraq).
About property: I am not talking of buying, but about selling...
Considering laws on privatised property introduced since 1991, many Ukranian/Russian women have personally made a lot of money from selling their own property, living with friends, then buying another one and reselling etc. I met a Ukranian couple in Odessa like that - and they compete well with the American and British mobs....with holidays in Dubai etc.
People in FSU did not have credit under communist. It all stopped in 1917 and started again in late 1980's.
So obviously women from their have different notion of money. It's normal.
I have never been to St Petersburg but my neighbour down the road (a ruin I bought for 30,000 USD) is the wife of the mayor of Moscow (property is an island bought for 3million euros). Is it normal - no. But its life!
I did say "The reason I"
I do construction in NZ, and asked a few Russian friends, "If I did contracts in Russia, What are the chances of being paid?" Answer "None"
If I was with the Russian mafia, maybe I could do well.
If you can earn more in Russia than you do in the States, then yes go for it. Id be there tomorrow.
My nephew has been working in Prague for 2yrs as a business analyst. He does earn more than the locals but not big money. He loves it.
Adman, speedy gonzales or what. I believe that is too short to know if she is the right one to spend the rest of your life with. And I believe women in the FSU feel the same. But then I took two weeks to propose idea to her a few months ago. Any comments from anyone else? How about 4months, 6months...2 years?
The life is discovery ,the marriage is discovery also...You never know what happened. Everybody changes during the time. But if you are brave and smart you can study your lady...If you don't understand something in her behavior , just ask her "why have you done it this way?" and listen attentively, follow reaction.
How much time would be enough depends of your skills...Good luck!!!
If the two of you share emails every day and are open and honest with each other, the two of you should know if you share the same goals, morals, and commitment needed to make a lasting relationship in a couple weeks. That does not mean you race over with a ring at two weeks and a day, But it should be enough time to decide if the two of you should move forward and meet.