I thought to start a new topic, since the other one became confusing.
i wrote her back, and told her that i was unsure, of love just yet, but
that I was becoming close to that feeling for her(She proffessed to love
me after the 12th letter)She did not respond, and has not for the last 3 days. I guess, I would say I blew it.( 3 Days is a huge lapse, for someone
who wanted me to respond quickly) I'm still keeping the line open, incase
something, happened, but if it did, the timing sucks.
Hang in there. Send her some flowers to profess your mistake. She is looking for a commitment from you. She is investing allot of time and effort for a relationship to you. She felt it was time to profess her feelings (speed things up a bit maybe) because she wanted to be sure she is not waiting her efforts in you that could be used on another that will take actions. If you drag your feet in these relationships chances are you will loose out every time. It would not have hurt you to profess a feeling of love to her. It might not be a marriage type of love but a close love. (She doesn’t need to hear the type of love) She just needed to hear the work love from within you. I would send her some flowers. A Big One. And put a note in it about not wanting to loose her and in the end tell her you love her. You must love her in some way or you would not be here asking how to save this! Some guys don’t know love if it hit them in the face. (I’m not pointing to you) But As I said these woman aren’t here to chat and then 2 years later get married. 12 letters is about right to start talking about feelings (Most guys are talking about it on the 7th letter). But yes make a big investment in some flowers to her. And No I am not affiliated with this site and pushing a sale! I think it’s the right thing to do if you want to salvage this. And Bombard her with letters. You have to make a huge effort here or its lost. She may have been writing to another and was trying to weed out the less serious one. Just MAYBE. 3 days is not to long from salvaging it. She may just be letting you stew a little to let you see how it feels without her communications to get you moving. Whatever it is the ball is in your court to make the effort if you want to save this. MAKE IT A GOOD EFFORT! When I was in trouble with my Olga and even now after 2 years of marriage. I get her the Biggest bundle of flowers I can and get on my knees and beg.lol ya like a dog I beg. She is my whole world and I am hers. So good luck and make the best effort you can. No matter what it takes. I know if it was me and I was in your mess. I would send her flowers and a message telling her I am on my way. I would have done anything to have what I have today. If you love her do it. If you need advice on how to do it let me know how to contact you and Ill walk you through it. It’s all up to you on if you want to save this. Me I would be on the next plane (looking at what I have today) Wish you the best
Code Red, She Finally wrote after 4 days, saying the internet cafe was
had problems. This might be so, I have read that these internet cafe's are not very stable. I barraged her w/3 letters telling her I loved her. She also says it is not possible to call her at the moment.( no phone in apt., no phone connecting hospital to outside city) She said
she would call if possible. Her b-day is on april 10th. I will send flowers and try to get confirmation on her at same time. I will also be interested in contacting you. This doesn't sound like a scam to me.
my e-mail is apatosaur13@bright.net(this is my secondary e-mail)
thank you very much for advice.
ewengog: No her name is natalia, she lives in tver, she is a doctor,
and all i know about her father is that he is policeman. i didn't run,
I followed the wonderful advice, on this forum, and bingo she hasn't e-mailed me in a week.