I am a new member. My name is Olga Salem.I am 28 years old, Russian, from Krivoy Rog Ukraine, now living in Folsom, which is in Northern California between Sacramento and Lake Tahoe. I was born and raised in Krivoy Rog. I have a Technical Diploma in mining technology, and a University degree in pedagogy (teaching credential for secondary education). My parents are still alive, together, and living in Krivoy Rog. Thety are here in California this month visiting us. I have an older brother who lives in Novorosissyk, Russia wqith his wife and little son.
I met my American husband, Doug in 1998 via snail mail. I came to the U.S. on a K-1 visa, which he sponsored. We got married in Las Vegas at the end of the 90-day K-1 period, and lived in Southern California (Pasadens and Chino Hills) for the first five years of our marriage. We have been married for 7 seven years now. All seven have been great.
I spent my first five years in the U.S. studying English, computer graphics, real estate, and business at Community College. And, with Doug's help I started my own small business, and a Dear Abby-style advice column on the Internet. At the 5-year mark, I took a break from both school and work to start a family. This was part of the "plan" Doug and I talked about when we met and decided to marry. We now have a little daughter named Lana. She is our biggest joy.
I plan to try and contribute to this and a few other groups now that the baby is getting bigger and I have at least one eye free to read and one hand free to type (peck) with! Please know that doing it this way will take me a long time to reply and I may not be able to keep up with "regular" posters.
Welcome to the forum Olga! You and your husband were lucky to have met in 1998 when the marriage agency business and its girls were still honest and real. Now we must filter through all the scams to find such a real and sincere girl like. It is a pity what the marriage agency business has become. Again I welcome you and any advice or insight you may give us.
it is a welcome relief to have a woman join this forum...because a womans perspective is what a man tries to understand...as deano says...times have changed from when you found your future abroad...i am pleased you are happy and content with your life choices and decisions,and i invite you to introduce the genuine men here to some of your equally honest, sincere and genuine friends:)
Thanks you for the warm welcome. Yes, I do realize things are much different now. I had nothing but bad experiences with "marriage agencies," even back in 1998. That is why Doug and I used snail mail a lot.
I do have some nice girlfriends back in Ukraine, but so far I have also had bad experiences in trying to introduce them to American men who have asked me to do so. The last time it was a very good friend of mine. A very nice and sincere girls who would not put her progfile on the Internet. The guy I matched her up with also seemed nice and sincere. But he did not tell us (or her) that he really could not afford all of the costs associated with gringing a foreign wife into the U.S. and getting her started on a new life. Maybe he just didn't think about it carefully. But it also seemd like he was just lonely and wanted a pen pal. He wrote to her for more than a year. He kept promising he would be coming to visit, etc. And she kept writing him back even though it was a hardship for her because she was working very hard to support her Mom. The guy finally admitted he could not deliver on his promises. It was torture for both of them, but especially her. I do not know if she would trust to do this again.
On the brighter side, I will do what I can here to give you my point of view. I am still very much involved with the business of Russian brides, so I feel like I am still in touch with the latest trends and developments, although I am not directly involved in the "marriage agency" business.
You have a nice personal story that brings a warmth to the heart and I am happy for you. So often on these forums we hear of failed attempts at relationships, guys that venture into FSU without knowing what they're doing, guys that have a very big chip on their shoulder that there are no genuine ladies out there and it is all a scam, and it is nice to hear such a story as yours.
I started this process also via snail mail and around the same time you did, in 1998, oh the good old days of snail mail and before such things as forums and blacklists, we were the adventurers in those days! I didn't meet my now wife until April 2004, well we actually met in October/November 2003 but didn't date until the following April, she's from not far from Krivoy Rog, she's from Zaporozhye and we're very happy together.
It took me some 5 years of searching to find her but I do not regret a moment of it, infact she was born in Uzbekistan and two of my earlier girlfriends were from Tashkent and I visited there twice. Now I joke with the wife, and her mother, that I visited UZ twice looking for her but she didn't let me know that she had moved :)
You seem like a breath of fresh air on this forum Olga so please keep your interesting posts coming and I, and I am sure some others, look forward to reading them.
i can imagine you had bad experience's trying to introduce some of your friend's to other American guy's...nothing personal to the American boy's here...but the better guys live in the southern hemisphere..lol.
Keep your posts and topic's of interest flowing...as Martin say's.."a breath of fresh air" is always welcome...especially in an environment with much negativity.
I like to echo the responces to you. Glad to have your voice of reason. Found it interesting that you lived not too far from my town. I was 20 minutes away, a little north,
near Magic Mountain! You have the life I am sure many people are striving for, congratulations! Sorry to hear about your friend but many people go thru that, too bad it was a friend's personal experience. I hope your advice to her was ...you may have to go thru some apples in the basket before you find the right one. Thanks again!