Well i have only just subscribed to the payment of this site and sent about a dozen or so long letters to ladies on this site. I think i can read between the lines of their replies basically because nearly all of the ladies replies on here amount to 2 OR 3 lines replies at most.So there is nothing much to analyse.
Basically what she is says may be polite,BUT and what she MEANS in those 2 lines are-is that she is not interested-she is fed up with getting replies from 50, 100, 200 men-and can not be bothered to type a long interesting letter of reply.
I think many of the ladies on here have been spoiled .They can pick and choose any man they want because they have such a great choice of the many many western that write to them.
I myself did use use vip subscription service on fiance.com some months ago.i looked at at how many letters each of these women received and it was typically anything between 50 and 500.
These ladies have become so blase about it all it makes you wonder if they are really serious.When i was a paid subscriber here i did occasionally get a long detailed letter from a lady on here,but it gave me the impression that it was a standard copy and paste reply letter that she had sent out before to many other men and without any reference to my previously asked questions of her.
Guys wake up. Work it out for yourselves. Each of you writing to 20 - 30 girls equals lots of correspondance. If you are going to use these services be in the position to travel to your girl soon. An opening line of Im travelling to the Ukraine in a month and would like to meet you will get a lot more interest than you life story to now.
I agree with Gemini and gregx,
As some may know my wife works for a small agency and they post profiles on various websites, there is one particular free website whereas a good looking lady can receive up to 1000 emails a day, yes, 1000, that is not a misprint and this figure comes directly from the 'horse's mouth'.
I started this process some 8 years ago somewhat tentative of travelling to FSU, the first lady I met in Prague (I paid for her travel etc) and the second lady I met when she came to work in Ireland. After my thereafter first trip to FSU (Uzbekistan) there was no stopping me and I was happy to travel 2, 3 or 4 times a year but a good looking lady will be corresponding with multiple guys so what makes you 'the one'?
In April 2004 I was due to travel to Ukraine to meet with a lady but a little more than a week beforehand she cancelled but I had my non changeable and non refundable tickets already booked. In a mild panic I quickly wrote to perhaps a dozen ladies making mention that I was going to be in Ukraine the next week and would they like to meet for a meal and my now wife decided to respond to me simply because I was travelling and she for one is not into this letter writing 'crap'.
An American friend of mine subsequently pointed out to me that by announcing one's travel in advance it can make one sound like a sex tourist and when I thought about it I realised that he was right thus my recommendation is that one should announce that they are prepared to travel within a given time frame, perhaps 2 months, but not to announce that one is travelling unless one is in a mild panic like I was.
I guess i am bit naive about this .I am interested to know exactly what a "sex tourist" is that you mention. I assume it is some man that goes abroad looking for a shag with a woman. Though if a man genuinely went to say ukraine to do trade with say a business/ factory there i don't how any woman would think he was there for a bonking expedition.
Many a guy who goes multiple dating, that is a few ladies in a short period of time, will cite that he has to leave each lady, to move on to the next, because he is there on business. I know this to be true myself and I have heard it from the ladies and they don't fall for it for one minute.
Now what percentage of guys trying FSU dating are actually going there for business reasons? I would estimate it at being less than 1% thus, referring to my previous post, if a guy wrote that he is travelling there in a month or so for business then this would be even more of a 'blow out' than not mentioning travel at all.
A sex tourist is pretty much as you have interpreted it.
"Just struck up a conversation in English" and "I didn't meet my wife by the internet" hmmmm? Things that make people wonder. But I knew this already. I feel some come here to create and live Larger lives than they really do and that really destroys the truth that other guys seek here. At least the credibility issue.
I don't know how others approach the search for a lady from the FSU, but I sure as hell took it very serious. Some have made it a mockery here. Littered with untruths and how great it is. There is no method or sure fire way to do this. Just be yourself. Be honest and know exactly what you are looking for. Prepare yourself ahead of time about the journey you are going to take. Learn to understand the culture and customs and the idiosyncracies of the ladys country. If your serious about this, prepare way ahead of time before you start writing. Spend a couple of months writing. Then learn to communicate with them in spoken language. Get their home addresses and phone numbers. If they won't give it, move on to somebody else. Learn to circumvent the agencies control. Take time to part her from the unrealistic need the agency creates for her. Meet her in a neutral city, but always impress upon her that you want to go to her home town to visit.
There are also the FSU lades that will accomdate the sex tourists, that will give it up to try to fleece you out of your dollars.
I find it pretty hypocritical to berate Fiance.com and then talk about a free website where there is no "quality control" at all. You don't need to spend your time posting here about the great scammer discoveries, it plugs up the board, and most who have done their research knows what to look for in scammers. Also there have been some ladies I think might of been maligned because they aggravated someone here.
Also be careful of the braggarts here. Their information can be found on almost any google search. You don't need that kind of information. Also the braggarts are pretty useless. Be smart and search out the guys that will shoot you straight.
Reading between the lines is appropriate for this thread. No site is perfect and most are far from it. The one thing intriguing about Fiance.com is at least the possiblity of direct communication with a lady who has her own e-mail. At least you have a chance of cutting the agency out of the equation.
On other sites I have had correspondence for some time with different ladies and all of a sudden you get some off the wall response you know was never written by the lady. It was written by someone in the agency who read your letter and dreamed up a response. I have proven this to happen on several occasions on other sites and no one ever did anything about it.