Are there suttle things one can look for that will help you find a lady that is really wanting to build a family and is looking for marraige? I am serious about this, but I am also nervious as a cat on a hot tin roof. Anyone with good advice and or helpful hints?
This isn't very subtle, but if it helps? the older the girl the more serious she is about starting serious relationship. I think the single girls without children in their early twenties in general are basically bored, curious...they realize the have plenty of time, and most likely hope to meet their soulmate in their own country. The women past 25...and especially if they have a child are very serious about finding a good man...and getting married.
more importantly as you correspond you should be able to feel how serious they are...is she asking questions about you?..answering your questions?...etc. if you communicate with several women in the beginning the one that is right for you, and serious...will stand out
To Jerome: I agree with second mail, strongly disagree with first.
To William: I am turning 36, she is 20. Ukrainian girl of true slavic beauty, natural blond with ocean blue eyes, the softest, fairest skin, 5'7", size 3. Second year in college (engineer), speaks perfect English (studies English since the age of 9), plays piano since the age of 7, she sings, she is into gymnastics. She loves me and I love her deeply and she will be here in a couple of months and she will be my bride in early fall. She loves me deeply and trully. She is trying to find every little situation that I may enjoy and she'll try to make it happen. She cooks my favorite dishes, she does anything she can to satisfy me because of love. She is not only the one that I ever fell in love but also the nicest person and closest friend I ever had. It is absolutely possible, but none can guarantee it will happen to everyone.
Advice: set your goals and targets, know what you want, be determined, take some good quality pictures of yourself, be confident.
I cannot count the number of women I had correspondence with (90% 18-21). With my Yuletska we just clicked from the first letter. She says to me often: "when I saw you pictures and read your first letter, I said to myself, this cannot happen, he's too perfect for me". We found each other, it just happened. We are compatible like two rain drops.
It takes luck, but be upfront with her from the first letter. Tell her what you want from her from the beginning, don't waste your time, she'll appreciate it. If you click, you will know it. If it happens , go see her as soon as possible. In the meantime, talk to her on the phone, don't be tight with the money, send her flowers if you feel like, write to her something nice. If it works, go see her again and again. You need to bond with her before you marry her. You need to make sure, you need to have the chance to look in her eyes and ask yourself if these are the eyes you wish to see the rest of you life.
But, make no mistake: there is a lot of crap out there also, and most girls are looking for a way out, this is not wrong as long as she comes to you because she has feelings. Be very careful.
Also, to Jerome: it's true, young girls are more curious and most place ads out of curiosity. Yulechka placed online ad (individually not through an agency) for fun during last summer when she didn't have school. She ended up on this site (dating-ru) without knowing it. So what, I found her and she found me! Also, you are wrong about young girls not being serious about marriage. You are thinking about American girls. Aside from the fact that I have come across many, many young RU girls who sounded very serious about their intentions to get married, in Russian culture girls are supposed to have lined up a groom by the age of 23 and be married at the latest at the age of 25. These women are different in the sense that they are raised with the mindset to attract the right man (whatever this means for everyone) and get married young. I would be cautious about older women who have been married or are divorced, but this is not to say that there aren't good women > 25.
Your totally right wtrav...I think I was projecting my own unserious feelings about marriage onto the younger girls...I started a year ago communicating with seveal girls 18-30...and while the 18-21 seemed loving and serious it was a girl 25 that I felt the strongest towards, and the most serious about, that's probably what influenced the above statement...she will be here hopefully no later than Nov... I turn 36 in July also...again i refer to my second post...email many girls at first, and your intuition, and feelings should tell you if it serious, and if your right for each other.