I have a question for anyone that can be of help. I have known a Russian lady for a few months now and have been out to see her in her home city, in September, for two weeks. I enjoyed my time we had together and she was very attentative of me, but did not meet any of her friends, who live in her city. (I did meet her very good friend who lives abroad now, and her friend liked me) I was looking forward to spending my time with her with the New Year celebrations. However, she has suggested that I come and visit after the 3rd January. I know that the New Year celebrations are held with great passion by the Russians, so, am I being unreasonable in expecting to spend my time with her at the New Year? By the way, she is 41 years old so I do not know if this has any bearing on the situation and she has very lttle family (a daughter and mother only)
Thanks Ad, but no he is definitely unpopular, he has not even seen his daughter for ten years.(and he lives away) One thought I had was that at this stage that she wants to spend new year with her friends and is not comfortable about showing me to them yet.
So, ok, I invite myself over to celebrate an important time in the Russian calender. I have corresponded with this woman for over 7 months and visited her once (no chemistry-oops!) She has since wriggled and it is clear that she does not want me there for the New Year celebrations. I fell into a terrible trap with this woman, and I have to take my hat off to her for her excellent manipulation of me over the past few months. I do not blame her at all and if I was in her position I would have done the same thing. My whole story is a sad and common one but the lengths I went to were unbelievable. It has not put me off Russian women, quite the contrary, I look forward to my next venture with excellent hindsight.
I don't know what to say...If a Russian woman doesn't want to see you on a New Years eve that says A LOT. YOu understood everything right. Russians have a saying that you will spend the entire the way you celebrate it's arrival. Moreover in all the former Soviet countries people have the 1st and the 2nd of January off. So it would seem logical if she wanted to see you on one of these days. Anyway not on Jan 3, which is a WORK day. Maybe she's a hooker indeed, and meeting guys is a part of her work.
And here's one more thing. There is an old classical Russian New Year movie. It starts with two couples making preparations to celebrate New Year together. Alone. Without any friends and family. So it's like a dream for a lonely Russian lady to spend New Year holidays with her future husband. If she had any feelings she would kick her mother out of the apartment, put the daughter to sleep (if she's not old enough to go to a party) and spend the night with YOU.
I feel for you:( You got ditched. I would invite you, but I'm too young for you:))) hehehehehe Just kidding. Don't loose your faith in Russian women! There are many good ones among them
good your still upright after that story but got to slip with the punches.I've been conversing with 12 women
for about 7 months but not putting all eggs in one basket, so for one to not want to be with me I've got
others to spend my time with. One thing good, to go see them a couple times really shows how interesed they are.
Eventually like cream.....one will rise to the top! good luck.
Masha...are you from Russia? You have some pretty good insight on FSU women....nice to have someone to bounce
off some ideas...if you would be amiable! What is with this 'young stuff'? Age is just the time you have been on
this earth.....your mind and what goes on there is most important.
beemer18 Thanks. Too true. Like most things there is a learning curve and I am further up the curve! This lady was controlling me and as soon as I started to take control, she did not like it. Now I am writing to others, that are younger and I know that I am in control now. A long letter campaign did not work out in this situation, and from my experience on this RW my advice to others is NOT to leave it too long before you go out to see them. Good luck beem.
I'm ethnic Russian, but I'm from Kazakhstan. It's all one big FSU anyway. I'm glad that you found something I wrote interesting, and can tell more. So sure, write me about whatever you want to talk about.
There's no reason for me to be unfriendly. I just have a bad sence of humor sometimes:-S
It's good that you feel that way about age differences. I just came across quite a few posts saying "don't believe an 18-year-old who says that she loves you, when you're in your 40-s" and other stuff like that. I thought is was a general opinion here.
Mash, beauty is but skin deep. Besides, you are slim, which makes you more attractive than fat woman. You are too young to have lost your teeth. Crooss eyed :x)? Then how do you manage to type so well? I am afraid of nothing, other wise I would not be here!! Mas, Bless you!!
PS Since my New Year is in pieces now, wot yer doin at this time honey?
Your such a popular gal, is there room for me to squeeze in there!! :)) It's ok if your fat,ugly, toothless and
cross-eyed...... I'm blind...to that, cause you can sweep me away your thoughtful insights, clever humor and
goal oriented future.....
if you go down-under...and stay long enough.....it'll be summer in LA.
food for thought...
Hi mash, we have to be positive to raise our levels of consciousness and to enjoy life! Do you agree..Yes? I have had minor setback and I know that my future life partner is somewhere in the east and I am now in correspondence with a few nice ladies. THIS TIME MY FEET ARE FIRMLY ON THE GROUND!! Bonjour mash! Hear from you soon!!