hello fellow men. maybe someone can help me with this as i am tottaly new and dont want give girl false impression. i am a uk resident and aware how english girls are capable of spending money !!. however i am curious as to what a lady would expect from me in way of personal wealth ? i am a home owner and in full time employment. i could just about manage to support her in the manner i support myself without her working. any thoughts or oppinoins much appreciated.
No i dont want give false impresion, honesty is what i bellieve.
And i wasnt reffering to patticular lady. i meant in general, ie: do the ladys bellieve that when they marry. the man would natturally be wealthy ? i understand there would be an instant improvement by comparison. but still have bills to pay like the next man. perhaps they understand that when times hard they may need to work ? i dont know !! this why i ask.
I think what Annika was trying to say is that there is not a general 'rule of thumb', every individual and every individual situation is different and should be taken on it's merits.
Basically a lady may be looking to leave FSU to improve her life, if all you can offer her, and I'm not saying that this is all you can offer her, is an existence and little more then she can have that with an FSU man so why should she leave?
If there is a significant age difference between the two of you then the greater the difference then the more she is likely to expect, if you are nearer to the same age with each other then the less risk of landing a 'gold digger' or a 'sugar daddy hunter'.
It all comes with experience and one thing that another cannot teach or implant in to you is experience, you have to learn it for yourself and, speaking from experience, the worse thing a guy can do is spend a mere week or two with a lady before commencing the fiancee visa process, this business should be regarded as the same as dating in you own back yard, you need to be sure that you know the person and that she is a good one.
Nothing wrong with a sugar daddy martin -its called spoiling your girl and enjoying life iam certainly a sugar daddy to mine but then -- either i spoil her rotten of i drink it and make myself sick id rather splash it on a happy girl ay .
Everybody has fear of sugar daddy but why ? you cant take it with YOU---- and if yu leave it to rellies they'l piss it up against the wall .
Mine asks for nothing but i pour the dollars onto her like water from a bucket what else do i do with it?? no point being the ritchest guy in the cemetary ay martin .
I think 90% of western guys are sugar daddies to thier girls in varying degrees ! some dont know it -others do -- i think if you worry about $$ you go into the ''cheep charlie catagorie ''.
No point as they say owning a BMW is you can't maintain it -! these girls after all are not just 4th rate western ''boilers '' these are a class all thier own .
Its like shopping in Harrods - or Saville row ! if you cant afford --- you don't go thier !
Fsu man is a bum ! belongs in hyde park with a herald nespaper and i doubt he'd own that ay !.
Its very good that the fsu woman are starting to see that decent existance starts with a western man --preferably an aussie --iam actually amazed just how many of my girls girlfriends are looking for a bloke --many are demanding an aussie --- as nobody else in the world i believe looks after a russian girl better than an aussie .
( they all seem to think so )
I AGREE with you in not just spending 2 weeks with a bird before fiance visa --its a good idea spead acres of time with her ------one thing my girl will never want is fiance visa she has no intension leaving russia ---ive no intension staying in the cess pit -Australia ! all this fiance stuff gawd it bores me TO tears ---marriage thing far to much precedence cast upon it ----------why wreck a good relationship with a ring ?
Girls i know over there are not hell bent on marriage i went through it with mine i found talk of marriage aggitated her -------to the point where she said well dear its you doing the talking --iam happy we stay as we are !
I think its a falicy to them that marriage is expected to be part of the big picture - mine said to me --marry ohh the expence all the crap rellies , all the hangers on ! then with family comes all the expectations .
She said why ? what for ? i wont love you any more than i do now the next morning !!!!
makes a lot of sence to me --------girl can have all the same security without that scrap of paper and the two bob ring ? yes --end of the day result is the same .
Ive had mine to aussie long ago she hated it ??? why push a cart with no wheels ! some birds in fsu just aint interested in leaving ! mine is as happy as larry where she is !
Why upset the cart -------after all its all about happiness isn't it ?? if your both happy then result is achieved yes !!!
Mine said long as ive got a feed , man who loves me and i get by ok in life it does not matter a farthing where you live .ive got a very good one martin we are now crossing into our third year -without problems too !
I see a lot of problems guys with fsu girls are created by men arriving in top hat and tails with huge bank loan ready to change the birds life --men assume a lot!
Do yourselves a favour make sure she wants all the change before you dive in and do it , dont assume and make an idiot out of yourself . ( ohh darling iam hear to take you from the shit pit !!) .
Most want to plan together to swap / hear each others ideas --yet most guys cost emselves a big shilling by diving in first ---when it turns turtle and he's splashed thousands --- she abandons -- him '''he cries scammer''' -----but he force fed her his ideas and $$ and il bet london to a brick she really had no idea what he was on about !
( eg: he wants me to leave ---why ?? )
Most have mum / dad thier when dead they'l leave mine has parents she said when they are out cemetary road she'd think about a future in another place .
until then its non - conversation .
Its australian slang mate i and 1000's of others happen to practice it daily --and we all understand it perfectly --hey its only a chat line mate --we are not writing it for the purlitzer prize .
if you cant understand 50's / 70's style aussie slang you need to go back to school .
hi all, thanks martin_uk for your advise. i take on board what you have said,
so i geuss its a case of look before you leap and be upfront and honest. this
i can do as its the way i am natturally. but i know that, culturally there are
some habbitual differances. i have spent time in the baltics and been various
places, atleast enough to understand there is differance. so like you say its
an experiance thing.
mike00. sorry dude the only thing you said of any importance was that the
ladys are a class of there own. i certanly bellieve they are very special in
many ways. provided you get a good one. apart from that i thought you were
talking the preverbrial !!!
I understood what you said, I am in the UK.
I suppose anyone who did not grow up with English, or had a sheltered upbringing will struggle, hope they never have to deal with text message slang on their mobile phone.
You got the message, if you're sad enough that you need to pay for sex then it's easy, if you want a 'genuine' relationship then it's somewhat more complicated and bl00dy hard work, worth it in the end, but some people opt for the easy option :)