Sorry for being away for so long--I had a final at school every single day this past week (I even had two on Thursday!), so I didn't have time to do ANY correspondence at all. Now it's finally all over for me. Thank God!
VNVnation,
Thank you so much for your supportful post! It was very nice of you and actually made me feel better.
Thanks!
Adman,
I know people in the West are much more open--I've been there. And believe me, I'm much more open in person than in those pictures. It's just that there seemed to be something wrong with my smiling shots. I didn't think they were the best ones of me, that's why I didn't pick them. Maybe it's cultural--people in the East don't smile all that much in their pictures. Or maybe my perception of my own physical appearance doesn't coincide with other people's, and what I thought to be gorgeous pictures of me, looks quite mediocre to you guys. that must be the case. And I don't think the pictures are all that gorgeous:)
jc,
Not exactly in New Zealand. I've started looking for a scholarship to continue my studying and possibly work on a career overseas. There are a few study-abroad programs here in KZ for graduate students like Muskie, Erasmus Mundus, etc., which offer such an opportunity. Although I don't know yet where there is a better opportunity for scholarships. Adman wrote me there were tremendous career opportunities for people with Master's degrees in NZ, and I got interested. That's all.
BF,
Yeah, I'm from Kazakhstan. Why are you asking?
To Moscow!!!!!
First of all, thank you for TAKING TIME to go check my profile, notice and remember all those details and putting some thought into writing such a long post. I take criticism well and do appreciate your honesty. That is what I was asking for. And I will take everything you wrote me into consideration and try to improve my profile as much as possible. I'm just starting and that's why I asked for your comments.
And YES, the pictures ARE NOT CLEAR! But the thing is--they WERE clear when I sent them to the website. The files were much larger, with better resolution and showing more of me. They had made them smaller and blurrier, I was disappointed when I saw them there. That's one problem I can't do anything about.
The portrait pictures are the most recent pistures af me, and they were taken in December. I'm 20, if that's a girl for you, then that's who I am.
You've done a very good job editing my profile. I'll definitely work on it, though it will take time.
P.S. That's a nice thought of your's to add a picture of me on a sail boat. Although I'm not sure if you'll be able to see me in it, if they shrink it again.
Hello Kingarthur,
I'd never tell English is not your mother tongue. You write so well.
Thank's for your nice words about my attractiveness. But do you guys really judge a girl by a number of men writing her? Interesting.
beemer:)))
Veeeeeeeery nice point! My favorite so far. I'll write you more later, ok?
Masha
Hi Masha,
thanks for appreciating my attempts to write acceptable English :-)
Please, don't misunderstand me. I don't judge a girl by the number of men writing to her. I just tried to say that, if you want to increase your chances to find your Mr. Right, you should try to attract as many Mr. Anybody's you can. It's just trivial statistics.
It is an interesting thought on how many Mr Anybodies, Masha would want to attract. Does she want quantity or quality? There is a trade off.
If the paramiters are too broad then it can be perceived as a negative.
I am 50 and if a woman is looking for a man, say between 35-60, I would not take her seriously. Thats because there is a huge difference between a guy that is 35 and a guy that is 60. Likewise if I was 23- 25 which would be a good age for Masha, I would be put off if she was considering guys in there 40s. I would expect 22 - 28 would be a good range.
I know I have big double standards but if my own daughter, who is 20 brought home a 40 something guy..... well NZ has the second highest guns per capita in the world.
It looks like my English isn't that good... :-( I don't succeed in being understood.
Adman,
please read BOTH my previous messages. Masha should keep her parameters fixed. She obviously wants quality, but chances to get the quality she is looking for increase if she packages her profile with nice photos, rather than poor ones, whatever the reason of poor quality of photos. With nice photos she will attract MANY guys within her parameters to choose from. I hope my thought is clear enough now.
Adman,
a few additional words. Generally speaking, I agree with you about age parameters, though this has little to do with my previous comments. However, it is possible that a young woman be seriously interested in men who are much more mature than she is, for thousands of reasons. Masha can decide herself whether she wants to meet men in their 40's - 50's or not. I don't think she's looking for your or my advice on this point.
English is my first language, but you would never know it.
I totally agree with your posts. It is essential to have a good photo. Masha even says herself, that her photos do not reflect her openness. They need to.
I just thought I would take the idea of "attracting many" into left field.
In the west most things are allowable, even acceptable but not necessarily ideal.
If everything is to be believed, it is probably more acceptable for a woman to be fat in the west than in KZ. But I dont think it is ideal. My daughter said resently, that I am probably the only father in the country that will not allow his daughter to be fat. Thats just me and she seems happy with that.
Things are different in each culture. We do not dress like moslems. A girl I was going out with asked, Why dont women in NZ where mini skirts? I said, some do but, you have to be careful you do not look like a street walker. Any ideas why this relationship didnt last long?:))
My left field thought was, whether or not a wide age would actually be a negative to younger guys?
What I wrote about age differences is just whats normal. On comparable dating sites between the FSU and the West, the age difference in the West would be 10 years less.
Not something likely to be mentioned on this site, but I think for someone travelling to the West, its worth knowing.
Masha is a smart girl and I am sure she would not want to be kept in the dark.
Mind if I chime in on age differences....when I see a girl have a wide age range. I think she is open to meeting someone who may match her in compatibility and not be of the same age group. Other reasons could be to just to get more attention or even to have more opportunity to scam. I don't know, I just look at it as positive since I'm in my 40's. After sending letters you'll find out if your interested in each other. I respect girls that have a certain age range that they stick to....they feel it is right for them. But to suggest a girl what range they should be looking at is not right. If you were in your mid 20's your opinion would be more apt. How do you know what a range a girl should look for. I'm just looking for a girl that is right for me not being conscience of age. Yes, it is true to generalize there is age ranges for men and women but to individuals it is their choice as to what to look for. If what I happen to look for ends up being a girl in her 20's so be it, I will never judge a girl on age only.
I have the girl for you.
She came through this morning, with new photo. Very pretty. Complaining I have not replied to her last letter.
Hmmm why didnt I reply. I checked her profile: 26yrs looking for 35-60.
A Martin Special I think.
I can email fwd for you :))
Thank you for thinking about me. It is not only age, for there are other things involved. I was just bringing up
the point that age should not be the only thing looked at. Besides, I probably already checked her out. Maybe
some other factors didn't appeal to me. Take Care anyways!
My grandparents (all four of them) were from Russia. They never smiled in any of the photos taken of them, whether the photos were taken in Europe or in America. I guess it must be a cultural phenomenon unique to Eastern Europe.
You failed to indicate English as one of your other languages. It's obvious to me that your usage is advanced. I'd say you either lived and worked in an English-speaking country, possibly during the summer, or are studying English at the university. In any case, you should indicate that your knowledge of English is advanced. That would be considered a MAJOR plus in your favor.
I'm not exactly sure what you mean when you say you're studying "Translation Science." The term is abstract. In America, I don't think we have such a field of study, unless it's actually foreign language study. If that's the case, you should indicate your language of study in lieu of "Translation Science." Again, that would be a MAJOR plus in your favor.