Hello everyone! I have read on many sites that if you live in a small city, to not even bother writing to the women who live in Big City's of the FSU, that they have trouble adjusting to a smaller city. My city is 30,000 inhabitants. It is not that small in American Standards. We have everything a large city has but no crowding :o) If the woman would need a big city fix, I am only 260 miles from Seattle Washington and could go there for some weekend fun with her. Would very much like some imput on this subject. Thanks Robert
It's true that many girls who live in big cities (and even smaller cities) like being in the big city environment. Many times I've asked a girl what she did that day and she answered "I was in the center," meaning she was just walking, shopping, and eating downtown.
Also, a "small" city in Russia or Ukraine is around 500K people, not 30K. A woman might think your small city is really a couple of dachas out in the country.
However, you never know until you write to a woman. She may be living in a big city and wishing for a quiet life somewhere peaceful. Just write to whoever you want, explain how you live, and see if anything develops.
Robertjay
I am a few months into coresponding to a great lady in Nikolaev, about 500k pop.I live in Eureka California(where???)about 40k pop.
I have shared with her about my city,she doesn`t seem to be phased about it at all.We email each other four to five times a week for the past almost three months.I believe if two people really care for each other they will adapt to some extent.Besides most decent sized american towns have most everything thats needed.Take care!
I think you are in for a very, very difficult time. European cities are much older and set up far different than more modern cities. The big city girls are used to the big city, used to being able to walk or take public transportation where they want. For the most part they do not drive and are completely foreign (no pun intended) to the idea of having a big city close for the better jobs, entertainment and cultural activities but returning to a nice house in the suburbs. My lady (from Moscow) thought I was in the sticks even though I can be in the downtown area of a 5M city quicker than she could get from her apartment to her job using the subway. Not the same. Her final proposals before I sent her back were to sell my house and move to the downtown (which was so impossible it was not worth trying to deal with) or rent her an apartment downtown and she would come "home" on the weekends. I would be very dubious about what they say, they have not travelled and not experienced it. E-mails and phone calls are easy, seeing is believing.
I like the smallness of my city and will not give it up for any woman. I have been honest with the women I have written about the size of my city and have not gotten any negative feed back yet.
I have been writing to one woman in Omsk and she has not given it a secound thought, of course I have not told her that I am looking to purshase a home in the country :o) vert rustic two story four bedroom log cabin, sitting on 20 acres.
To me its not where you live your life but how you live it. She will need a little country in her blood!
(I have been writing to one woman in Omsk and she has not given it a secound thought)
Probably because she hasn't really got a clue what a smaller city is like. You need to express to her that your town is similar to the remote Russian villages. Of course this is an overstatement, but it is the closest thing she'll be able to relate too.
Omsk is a big city by any measure. 1.2 million. By Russian standards, other than St P and Moscow, it is a progressive place and much much more modern than many provincial Russian cities. Novosibirsk for example is 500 kms (300 miles) away and is the capital of Siberia, but it is simply not in the same class as Omsk. Omsk is cleaner, more open and much wider streets in the centre, new shopping centres and such.
To come from Omsk to a small town would be a huge step in and of itself. FSU women almost always struggle with the suburban sprawl of American, Australian and other similar places.
The problem we have in our cities for FSU women is that because of different transportation systems etc, we make our homes a virtual prison for them in the early stages. If you bring a lady into this situation, can you afford the time to attend her every beck and call for at least six months? Doesn't matter if she comes from a big or small city, you will be faced with the same thing. You are her one and only lifeline for quite some time.
The author speaks of wishing to move to acreage living, but I wonder if he is considering what his potential FSU hottie would like? Believe me, they ain't pups to be dragged around on strings and if you think they are more easygoing about their opinions and desires than American women, I have got news for you and it ain't good.
I would suggest, before you get too tied up on where she will want to live, (Any woman) you get your butt over there, meet up with one or two and have a look around and then you will be able to explain the differences to your potential lady much more clearly.
I live in the situation you are talking about. Living in a small town isn't going to matter if the woman truly loves you. My wife comes from Mariupol which is a city of about half a million, I live in Madison Indiana, which is about 15000 people. Also I live in the country. I like you wouldn't trade the smallness of my town for any big city.
First thing I would recommend is finding out the driving laws for your state. Indiana will honor an international license for one l year or untill change of status. I bought my wife a car before she came here and made sure she had driving lessons and got her international drivers license. She isn't land locked at home by herself, she can go out and at least leave the four walls behind.
Nice thing for us is we do live about an hour drive from three larger cities. So you can get all the cultural intake that you need. There will be adjustments, but the most severe adjustment is getting them to understand our style of medicine versus the socialist medicine they are used to.
She had concerns about living in the country, but she has enjoyed it because she spends a lot of time outside tending to her flowers and garden, that she couldn't possibly have living in the barracks style flats she was living in. So what seems to be a difficulty may not be one at all. I think it will boil down to each woman. I never had a garden or tended flowers in my life, so this was all new to me. She also thinks she's pretty slick because she can mow the yard on a riding mower. Also invest in satellite with Russian Language. It has been a Godsend for me. Early on she said she missed hearing her language. Now she hears it every day. Early on, just listen closely to what she is saying, you can save yourself a lot of grief and heartache by paying attention to what they really mean.