I'm bound to be told off again for jumping the gun and being miles ahead of myself, it's just my outgoing personality.
But has anyone thought of organising a joint trip for guys on this forum to Kiev or somewhere similar? It would be great for moral support and to look out for each other.
tringa,
When two people meet for the first time, and for a limited period, they should be by themselves to talk, learn about each other, enjoy intimate dinner dates together etc.
A respectable lady does not expect a group tour of 'men behaving badly' (men normally behave badly in a group) and it would probably result in it being your first and last time together.
I honestly dont see anything wrong with a joint trip myself. I am planning on going to St. Pete sometime later this year to meet someone who has been asking to meet me for a few months. Of course I'm nervous as hell, I only know her through emails and a couple phone calls. What the hell happens when 2 people meet from far distanses, and find out that they dont match well after a couple of days? Of course I'm more optamistic than that, but you never know. Plus, its not as if some guys go together they will hang around each other all day. I bet that you will find a good deal of people on the fence on whether or not to fly to a foreign country to meet someone that they have never met before. I certainly would be more likely to pull the trigger and fly to Russia to meet this woman if I went with another person or group. Anyone else feel the same? Or am a being a sissy?!! Be honest..I can take it :))
Spineshank, if you are going to meet just one woman, you need a plan B.
There was one girl from this site that I wrote to for several months, including many very long phone calls. It seemed like we were perfectly matched, and there were no red flags. About a week before my trip she disappeared and didn't contact me again until three months after I came home.
Fortunately, I had a backup plan with a couple of local agencies. I learned that one minute of face-to-face meeting is worth several months of email and phone calls.
As far as a joint trip, I think it was suggested about a year and a half ago by a former poster, but there was no support for it. Personally, I prefer to travel alone, not with folks who argue on a forum.
I'm interested to find out your experiences with the local agencies after you plan A failed.
What did you tell the ladies you met? That your plan A failed or that you were on vacations?
Curious about it.
I guess I don't really understand your question. Why would I have to tell the agency girls anything special?
I simply said that I am just another American guy who can't find a woman I want to marry at home. I met a RW/AM couple in my city and thought I would give it a try myself.