I have been corresponding for several weeks with an 18 y.o. girl, really nice and cute. She wrote to me first. A few days ago a 19 y.o. gal wrote to me, and I've just replied. I am a 43 y.o. guy, reasonably good looking and fit, but I think this doesn't explain why a teenager writes to a man who could be a schoolmate of her father's. The 18 y.o. wrote in a letter something like "we can become good friends and then... who knows?" She's a student and still has 4 years classes ahead. I have difficulties understanding the intentions of these girls. On the other hand I would feel a perfect idiot if I rejected a girl I like. Did anybody have a similar experience? What can their real intentions be? Is Freud coming into play or what?
Do you think she is going to leave her 4 year university course for you?
You will just be paying for her meals and drinks in restaurants and she will be repeating the same process with 12 other men too.
Then when some of those men discover she is not serious and sincere, she will contact a new line of men and use the same letter writing technique that she used on you.
What is the point in trying to form a relationship with an 18 or 19 year old student? if she was serious wanting to get intimate with you, she would give up her studies to marry you. Otherwise what is the point forming a relationship with a 4 year course university student?
I agree with you. I think my first post left too much space to misunderstanding. I am corresponding with several girls, a few of which sound pretty serious about a relationship, and I want to meet them to that purpose. I'm not sure I have time and willingness to meet the teenagers. Since I am not likely to be taken as a possible sugar daddy, I just wonder what other maybe not-that-serious, not-marriage-otiented intentions these girls could have. If the only possibility is they want me as a sugar daddy... this means they didn't make an accurate choice.
I insist. Did any of you guys in your 40's receive letters from so young girls???
Its just par for the coarse mate. Everyone gets them.
Their intentions are everything imaginable.
One reason is, that on Russian dating sites, there is a complete absence of 18 year old guys. I dont know where they all are. And yet the sites are full of 18 year old girls. The few young guys that are there, arent going to have any money to take them out. So who are these girls going to date.
It is very possible to date 18-20 years olds, but I think very costly for something that is never going to go anywhere.
Whatever which way, her hand is going to be in your pocket. You can be sure of that.
That said, you can have better fun with them, than a lot of the older women that guys have travelled to meet.
Yes, of course, I like many others have received letters from 18 year old girls. I have met many 18 year old girls as well.
Some might be serious, many just want to practice English, some are setting you up for a scam, some want you to visit and buy them a new cell phone, and one or two want to come to the U.S. and hit you with a domestic violence charge after you get married so they can stay in the country.
But regardless of their intentions, do you really want to marry someone who is less than half your age? These girls are going to nightclubs, trying on makeup, sending SMS messages to their classmates, talking about boys, thinking about tattoos, and all the other things 18 year old girls do. Are you doing those things too? Will you have anything in common?
What up? When I joined Fiance.com in November, I got a few letters from 18 and 19 year old girls. They are beautiful and I imagine how nice it would be to date them or even have a relationship with them. I still write to most of them. They write to me like I'm a "pen pal", and that's fine by me. I'm smart enough to realize that I can't get too serious about them. If they want to continue writing to me, I'll still reply to them. I would think they would have faded away after two months, but that's not the case. I'm 36 and corresponding with a 26 year old and it's going great! So the 10 year difference is much better. We're already talking about meeting later this year in Russia. Do a lot of you guys on here agree that these beautiful 18 and 19 year old girls are tough to resist? They are so beautiful and adorable! I'm only on this site because dating American women is the most difficult thing in the world.
I could well subscribe my name to your post, except that I am (unfortunately) a bit older than you are, I am planning to meet girls in Ukraine, and I'm on this site because dating Italian women is the second most difficult thing in the world :-)
I met a beautiful 18 year old girl in Odessa last summer. She approached me in a cafe and we spent a few afternoons together.
She was tall, thin, beautiful, studied English, and seemed very serious about a relationship with me. I've got to admit that it was pretty nice hanging out with such a young, gorgeous girl.
Then, she told me that she had to work all day the next day, so we couldn't see each other, but we would meet again the day after.
I was out walking by myself and saw her kissing another obviously foreign guy in the town square. Suffice it to say that we didn't meet the day after and I quickly burst the little dream bubble I'd been starting to create.
In my experience, 25-30 year old women are totally different. They've lived enough to have some hard times, so they take things more seriously.
How you doing?
Dating 18-20yr old, is just as costly as dating 30yr olds and just as likely going nowhere.
It would be interesting to find out percentage of men finding their other halves to the amount- of dates us
westerners have with FSU girls. It has got to be less than 1%. In that case bring on ALL the 18-20 yr olds!!!
Bring on all that bliss..........
Well that girl did tell you the truth, she was working the next day. Sould you have known she was working
on the day she met you? Things are not always what they seem to be. It should have stopped at hanging out,
then the fall would not have been so bad. Must have been painful...I condolences
What's your objective? If you want a serious relationship leading to marriage, ignore the teenagers and the young ladies under 25. If, otoh, you're sole motivation is getting laid, there's no reason to waste your time on correspondence. Just take your vacations in the Russian Federation and pick up the little girlies.
thanks for advice about age parameters. My objective is a serious relationship, but just getting laid will do as a second best, until I find my 2nd half. Makes sense, doesn't it? I hope you didn't miss the bit of humour I tried to put in my post, though...