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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Update Author Post groon Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 4:20:38 AM   Well guys I'm about ready to call it quits with my wife. She has no understanding of communication. To think I was going to throw away my future move to Russia for her. She's pushing to have our baby girl get dual citizenship. I'm pretty much going to say no f'ing way now. I tried to talk to her about things but I just got more of her burry her head in the sand take on things. So tomorrow I am not going to talk to her but I am going to tell her she is free to move back to Russia to be her mom w/o me and the baby. This whole thing sucks. VNVnation Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 7:23:45 AM   Sorry to hear that things aren't working out. I've also noticed that Russian women have a completely different idea of what constitutes appropriate communication. However, since you already have a daughter together, is there anything else that you could try to improve the situation? groon Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 7:57:55 AM   Not with her wanting to move us to Russia. She has me afraid to tell her the truth about how I feel about most things. Saturday she asked me why I'm not as affectionate with her as I used to be. I knew I should have lied but I went and chanced tellingher the truth with the hopes she would be rational this time and ask me what she does to make me feel the way I do. But no. She blew up then told me not to talk to her. WTF?! I have tried many times already and it's always the same. I listen to her issues with me and do what I need to change things on my end and she ignores my issues with her. Get this she gets upset that I talk to my close friends and family about our problems. I explained to her I would rather talk to HER about our problems but she never listens. Then she tells me she doesn't talk to anyone about our problems. Not even her mother. THAT blew me away. I'm used to sitting down with my partner and discussing our issues and working together to overcome them. With her it's all one sided. I can not move to Russia with her like this. I would go mad. Plus I don't feel Russia is the best place for my daughter. BEfore I was thnking of my wife's needs. Now after all this I am only worried about my daughter's needs. Bagira Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 10:48:27 AM   Do you think that divoce would be the worst thing to your daughter? Being without mother is not the happiest childhood. Why do you think that double citisenship is auful? It is just a paperwork. What did you do in order to help adjustment to US to your wife? GeminiDreams Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 5:16:52 PM   Maybe you need to find out the secret of how Russian men communicate with their women. Olga Moderator send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 5:31:44 PM   Double citizenship is normal and very convenient. Your daughter will thank you later for that. As for miscommunication with your wife, it is life, you both need to work on it. if she wants her family to move to Russia, did she think about you and her child benefits. I know a number of people who wanted to move, even moved back. max they lasted for one year, then run back in a big depression (ladies I meant). Life in usa is still much more comfortable in any aspects than Russia:) let her go there, she will run back after few days. beemer18 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/23/2007 5:54:22 PM   Groon, Sorry to hear your situation. You sound like your have your head on straight and a good loving father, which is most important. I wonder what long term plans you and your wife made in terms of where you would live and how long? Did she just all of a sudden wanted to be in Russia. I have read previous posts of women wanting to go back to their homeland. Hopefully, you BOTH will see a marriage counselor and try to work things out. Remember, she has a different way of handling issues as you do, there is no right and wrong, just individual ways of dealing with issues. Bagira has brought up some good questions..... It sounds to me you are afraid of losing your daughter most. Is that reason to not wanting her to get dualcitizenship? To Moscow! Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/24/2007 1:12:32 AM   Groon, If I'm not mistaken, I believe you wrote several weeks ago that your father-in-law passed away recently. If that's true, is it possible your wife believes her mother needs her support immediately? Based on my personal experience, Russian families are a heck of a lot closer than American families. In general, the family comes before the individual. At least that's the case with my family. After the end of the Civil War in 1920, it took my family nearly 50 years to reconnect with "lost" relatives in the former Soviet Union. We Americans, otoh, can have relatives we haven't seen in years who simply live across town. Perhaps you should let your wife go home, without your daughter of course. When your wife is ready to come back, she'll contact you. Btw, I've seen this happen before. This dude I know married a Russian girl who returned to native village almost every other month. She felt guilty for "abandoning" her elderly granny who cared for her throughout her childhood. Eventually, she realized her home was in America. Alternatively, you can bring your mother-in-law to America. In any case, good luck! Jetson Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/24/2007 1:31:23 AM   A word of advise; I do not know if you have thought about this already but keep an eye on your daughter. I know of someone (lady)that just went back to her country, with her child in hand and before the husband could do anything about it. If this should happen then you have a legal battle in your hands trying to get your daughter back. Look for obvious signs, like her inscribing the child in her embassy or placing the child in her passport. A person can easily leave the US without presenting oneself to any Immigration officials and the airline rep. does not have a clue. Good luck daxx Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 5/26/2007 12:46:25 AM   Does she telephone them often? It is said russian women are VERY persistent! perhaps it may be wise to send her to visit, but give her your best attitude if you love her then say to yourself that it is for you and her ultimately...it's hard but must be done... Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Update
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