Olga,
I think it would be interresting if you could pick a few bonafide REAL women that advertise on the site to share their perspectives of what is going on with what we're doing here. It would be nice if you could provide some translators for them. You could even keep their true identities a secret so that they can be uninhibited and brutally honest. I would like to know what they think and feel. I would like to know their fears and concerns. I don't think that these things are always fully addressed when corresponding because folks are on their "First date behavior". I think it would be real interresting to hear of their experiences, good or bad.
hi Frank
I think its a good idea..as I've already said, all the ladies are welcome on the site. so far no one of them expresses any interest to this discussion. Also I dont think that an idea with me choosing somebody and asking to share thir experienses her will work, just because I think that those ladies who are still in the process of writing letters to men will unlikely describe their emotions here on the forum...those who are engaged already will unlikely do it as well.
Anyway I think its a good idea and I'll ask our partners that place their ladies on this site, if they can ask their girls about it. And if some girls wouldn't mind-I'll gladly translate their thoughts and post those here.
But actually I think that fears and concerns is not something to be judged in general. Each woman here can have her own concerns...and if you are corresponding with somebody who doesn't trust you enough to show his real concerns in a provate e-mail, what will be the guarantee that he will do it on the forum???;-)Just my oppinion.Your idea is great. As a moderator of this forum i think it could be more interesting if girls could start posting here as well.
I agree with Frank. Takes two to tango, and the customer is always right. Lets find out what we want from each other and what we need to know about each other, men and women alike. We're talking about a life-time engasjement here. Those who are serious take that seriously and need a site that caters for that.
Sure we're all different have different reasons, but the need to know is the same. A site needs to specialize. Here we don't tolerate dishonesty or tricks of the trade. This site is trying to mediate happiness that lasts. How about the questionair Frank, where half the qusetions come from us serious men, and the other half from the serious women? Honesty and openess is even more essential with such big distances.
I agree with both you on your attitudes about honesty. But Olga, missed my point. When you get dressed up on a first date - YOU GET DRESSED UP. Your table manners are always perfect, etc.. Over time, as you become more comfortable with each other, your less desirable habits, may show.
When you first start corresponding, it seems you'll always hear the right answer. The idea of Olga selecting a panel of women with different backgrounds and ages will allow us to ask candid questions with varying results. THEIR IDENTITY WILL REMAIN ANONYMOUS - therefor they should not be reluctanto to share their experiences. All names can be replaced with John/Adam and Jane/Eve. Do you understand what I'm saying?
The questionaire is a great idea - for their profiles.
I'm speaking of an open forum, facilitated by a translator, for real RUW candidates to express freely about their opinions and attitudes on things. They could share about their experiences and help give tips. We could ask questions that maybe we're not ready to ask our pen pals. ANNONYMITY allows FRANKNESS.
If Olga could help translate like she said, I'm sure we'll see posts here from RUW's.
sure I said I dont mind to do the translations, in case we'll have those women ready to share their thoughts and in case the company will agree to put efforts in looking for those ladies.because, as I have told already, ladies are not visiting the firum themselves. Someone would have to loook for thosem talk to them and so foth.If the company will consider that we can spend time on those surveys-okey then Im an employee here and will do whats necessary ;-)
I don't understand the purpose of such a panel. You people are all professors in some university, that's what I gather. You tend to overanalyze and overstudy everything. These women are individuals. How much effort would take for this site to gather such a diverse group of women to mitigate bias? And, how accurate the results would be? And, how much confusion it would add? The process of choosing a woman is totally subjective. In my mind, it's the process of getting to know each other that makes the relationship more interesting and more permanent.
wtrav02, It's been interresting, and sometimes entertaining, reading your posts regarding your experiences. I don't think that there is every an absolute truth or accuracy in sharing ideas, but it is interresting observing your one perspective based on your experiences. I'm just curious to know about things on the flip side, from their experiences. I think it would be interresting to see one of these women admit that they're writing ten different guys and meeting with three of them during the summer. Or maybe another would share how that she only corresponds with one at a time. Maybe some of them are friends and share notes. Who knows... That's all we men are doing here. I'm just curious to know how and what they would share. I don't necessarily feel the point is to mitigate bias, but a free and spontaneous exchange of ideas and attitudes. I'm curious to know how these women would respond to post that you've posted elsewhere.
I just think it would be fun and interresting, and not necessarily a bunch of academic hoo-ha.