I have my fiancee in my house now. Tough to believe, but it's true. She had her interview on Tuesday, got her visa the same day and we flew back on Wednesday. The process was very smooth and the only frustration was the long waiting at the medical center, consulate and the airports. But, she's here now and she seems very happy and I am very happy, too. Also, her parents came all the way from Kharkov to Kiev at our apartment and then at the airport (she's their only child). She didn't call them the last couple of days. On Friday, her dad left me a message at work "D.. Yulia ring home please".
It's Saturday morning and she's re-arranging our kitchen to make it feel more like the way she wants it. Yesterday at around 5:30pm she called me at work and said "D..chika, food is ready, it will become cold". I left everything and I was on my way to the food table. This feeling of togetherness is incredible. On Thursday, we spent the evening at the mall checking out the stores. She was very impressed. She said everyone seems happy here, it's all like a small party. She was wearing tight shorts and tops exposing her flat belly. She's 20, tall and has these incredibly long, slim legs. She's natural blond with blue eyes and face that looks Russian. She was getting the looks all the time from both men and women and I was in heaven ... the most incredible feeling is when other girls are looking at her. Men are looking at her and then loking at me making the comparison, dudes that feels goooooodddd!!! Cheers for now!
Congrats wtrav.
The only personal experience I can compare your story to (though it pales in real comparison) is the way I felt with my Irina - a beautiful (and I mean beautiful) Lithuanian woman I dated for a while in this country - perfect physical condition, flat stomach, 15 years my junior, not really sure of herself so she depended on me when out in public. Men looked. Women looked. She had that beauty Russian women can carry so well. And through it all - I knew she was with me and that's all that mattered.
Its over now - but I want it again. Not the same with an American girl (any American girl). Going to FSU to look because thats where these magical women are.
Good to hear things are working out but there's one little thing that got me a bit worried in your post:
You said her father rang you at work to ask for her to ring him? - Have you actually given him your home phone number? - Do you allow her to phone her parents?
Sorry if I sound dis-trusting but I can see it's very hard for this girls parents seeing as she is their only daughter and she's now in a foreign country thousands of miles from them. Just remember to give her plenty of access to the phone so she can call her folks freely. Hearing from her and hearing how well you are treating her on a regular basis will make them the happiest parents alive. Try to ensure she keeps in regular contact with them rather than 1 call every 6 weeks!
One other wod of advice: NEver get jealous of the attention she gets fom other men. She's with you and she will stay with you so don't even worry about those other fella's.
Good luck for the wedding, and I hope you both have many years of happiness together!
-Turboz
P.S Stuck for a wedding present? - This could be costly but would make her day: Bring her parents over for a few days and suprise her with them on the day of the wedding! - That would show her you truely care about how she feels!
Congrats! Your where I wanna be! I'm off to Kharkov myself in a month so maybe I'll find that special girl too. Good advice from Turboz about the phone thing. Your biggest enemy now is not the American guys but her getting homesick. Nice idea for the wedding present but virtually impossible for the parents to get a Visa especially if they do not have domestic wealth. If they are poor then the embassy will assume they are a flight risk just like a beautiful young girl is. Good luck and keep in touch by the forum. We all enjoy your input.
Quote from Ronnie:
You have a trophy wife.I give you six months.
LOL. She's Ukrainian remember? - Faithful probably more than western women. The only way it will be broken after 6 month's is if wtrav has "Good mates" who want to do more than look after her while he's away on business etc.
That reminds me Wtrav; don't leave her near your pals for too long.
She's very faithful girl and up to this point her interest is centered on me (before and after she came here). She is not the trophy kind of girl although I have the tendency to treat her like this sometimes. She's realized that I like it when we are among others and we're getting attention because of her. She doesn't mind it. For her everything's a little new, but she's adapted very well, instantly I would say. The fact that she speaks English very well has helped big time. She likes it more here than Ukraine other than the fact that her parents are there. She speaks with them frequently on the phone and also email. She particularly enjoys the food options here. She likes healthy nutrition and exercise (has the body of a model) and it's difficult to find foods that are low fat in Ukraine and fruits and juices she likes so much are very expensive. Here she has all that. She also speaks very highly about how convenient and organized is life here, how clean the streets are, etc. She noticed that everyone has a car and people don't walk on the streets although there is space assigned to pedestrians and nice nature to walk around. Her second day told me: "Look at this people have all this and don't walk, Americans don't know what they have, they should go to Ukraine to see to appreciate what they have".
The only issues that I've faced so far are rather logistical and never thought of them before so I hadn't planned. For example, she doesn't know how to drive so she gets stuck at home when I am at work. She is very energetic girl and she wants to study or work aside from her housekeeping. I put together some priorities, which are: (a) teach her how to drive, (b) have the prenup prepared, (c) get married, (d) get her a soc number, driver license, her own car, (e) apply to continue her studies (she has 2 years engineering credits but I don't if she can transfer them here). So, there is quite a bit of work to be done, and it's difficult if you don't have much spare time. But, it's also a lot of fun.
Well Wtrav, it seems like you are making plans carefully and wisely. I wish you good luck with your fiancee and hope the wedding goes well!
Glad to hear she contacts her parents regularly - I was a little worried when you said about her father phoning you at work asking to talk to her!. Good to hear she has frequent contact with them!
Just don't forget your pal's here one your married!! - We wanna know how things work after the big "I do"!!!