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My situation is i meet a guy from USA,HE IS 42 AND I AM 21,I MEET HIM LAST NOV 8,2007,Then he decided to visit me in a short time we've meet online i know a lot of people judges the girl when the girl met their loveones online!i've been in the net before but i just get hurt when i found somebody who is cheater it took me almost a year to comeback online and tried a luck again but i know i am into not rush to find somebody,when i joined the site again i met a guy this is him that i met last nov 8,i didnt believed him 100%that time that he was really thoughtful to me,he was divorce 3 times with an american woman,and with two filipinas,the first divorce they have 2 kids who are in their teens rightnow,and he a gf that he has 1 little girl and this little girl attached too much to me we get soo closed to each other as she is very nice girl,she called me mommy.we meet already after 1 month we communicate on the computer.we spent alomost 18 hours before we meet in real we spent by chatting i talked to his daughter each night also for hours,so he purchased two tickets to visit philippines with his daughter,his previous married with two filipina is not good,first he get divorce as the girl doesnt accept the kids she keep complaining about the attention he spent with kids and she want the kids to moved from the house to their moms.so he get divorce,and the third married was it was horrible he didnt know he was married with this girl as he just met this girl he was drunk of depression that time and the girl hired somebody to marry them in the hotel room and after few days of the hungover the girl claim they are married and he doesnt love this girl so he get divorce rightaway.so actually i accept him for who he is and his past i didnt judge him,but sometimes i am worried because i really dont want to get divorce once we get married i dont believed divorce i want we will be together forever but i am scared as he was divorce 3 times.after i met him i started to believed everything he was really gentlemen and thoughtful second thing i am worried as he has two teen kids they might dont accept me for their dad.i met the eldest and he seems nice guy.i met his dad also on comp.waving at me.i didnt met the the daughter who is 15 but i saw her on pics.anyway he filed fiancee visa for me last march after he got all my papers,i have some questions too about visa he does it by himself do you guys think it was possible to obtain visa by not hiring an atty?how long does it takes?as he says that it will took 2 to 3 months before he will get the response about the receipt number from uscis thats what he heard is that true any guys here has same experience?we heard now the visa takes 6 to 9 months is that true?well if we could just live together without waiting for that visa i love just we live in philippines but it was also impossible to him as he has company to manage to his country.actually he says that "yea we can live half life in philippines so that you wont miss your country much but as of now you need to live here when we get your visa till you can get a green card while we will worked out by living in phil half life,well he is nice person he accept not just me but also to people i love my family he meet my family,my parents are separated mmom is in cebu dad is in manila he wants to met both and when they are here last december they spent 21 days and we met both of my parents.i really think he is serious i am just scared i might get hurt as i do before:( anyway i will appreciated everything you can help me have a nice day everyone God bless!!! jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 9:33:48 AM   Michavie: Your post is very hard to read a with no spaces, no capital leters and no puncuation. Also you ask a lot of very difficult questions that would be hard to answer under any circumstance. I realize that it is proabably difficult for you to post in a more readable form but it is still difficult to tackle this one. The guy you talk about has a bad record. He may change - but you know it is unlikely when a person has such a poor past. Fiance visas DO take a long time. Especially if this guy has married foreign women in the past. New US (and incidently, really stupid and in my opinion, unconstitutional) IMBRA laws require extra steps for people who have used the system (gotten fiance visas) before. I wish I could help you more than that. Michavie Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 9:40:27 AM   jetmba i am sorry i am new this site.I am sorry i GAVE you a hard time to read my post,but i apreciated your response i will make it more easy next time thank you soo much for the response. I hope really that whatever the past he experienced wont happened to us:(i want a successful married which not end up to divorce. thanks soo much anyway for taking time responding my post:God bless to you Taylor Swift Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 12:49:50 PM   Hope it's easier to read now:) ================================================================= ============== Hello guys!i post a topic but it doesnt appear,well i want some help or advice i will appreciate any advice i could get. My situation is i meet a guy from USA,HE IS 42 AND I AM 21,I MEET HIM LAST NOV 8,2007,Then he decided to visit me in a short time we've meet online i know a lot of people judges the girl when the girl met their loveones online!i've been in the net before but i just get hurt when i found somebody who is cheater it took me almost a year to comeback online and tried a luck again but i know i am into not rush to find somebody,when i joined the site again i met a guy this is him that i met last nov 8,i didnt believed him 100%that time that he was really thoughtful to me,he was divorce 3 times with an american woman,and with two filipinas, the first divorce they have 2 kids who are in their teens rightnow,and he a gf that he has 1 little girl and this little girl attached too much to me we get soo closed to each other as she is very nice girl,she called me mommy.we meet already after 1 month we communicate on the computer.we spent alomost 18 hours before we meet in real we spent by chatting i talked to his daughter each night also for hours,so he purchased two tickets to visit philippines with his daughter, his previous married with two filipina is not good,first he get divorce as the girl doesnt accept the kids she keep complaining about the attention he spent with kids and she want the kids to moved from the house to their moms.so he get divorce,and the third married was it was horrible he didnt know he was married with this girl as he just met this girl he was drunk of depression that time and the girl hired somebody to marry them in the hotel room and after few days of the hungover the girl claim they are married and he doesnt love this girl so he get divorce rightaway. so actually i accept him for who he is and his past i didnt judge him,but sometimes i am worried because i really dont want to get divorce once we get married i dont believed divorce i want we will be together forever but i am scared as he was divorce 3 times.after i met him i started to believed everything he was really gentlemen and thoughtful second thing i am worried as he has two teen kids they might dont accept me for their dad.i met the eldest and he seems nice guy.i met his dad also on comp.waving at me.i didnt met the the daughter who is 15 but i saw her on pics. anyway he filed fiancee visa for me last march after he got all my papers,i have some questions too about visa he does it by himself do you guys think it was possible to obtain visa by not hiring an atty?how long does it takes?as he says that it will took 2 to 3 months before he will get the response about the receipt number from uscis thats what he heard is that true any guys here has same experience?we heard now the visa takes 6 to 9 months is that true? well if we could just live together without waiting for that visa i love just we live in philippines but it was also impossible to him as he has company to manage to his country.actually he says that "yea we can live half life in philippines so that you wont miss your country much but as of now you need to live here when we get your visa till you can get a green card while we will worked out by living in phil half life, well he is nice person he accept not just me but also to people i love my family he meet my family,my parents are separated mmom is in cebu dad is in manila he wants to met both and when they are here last december they spent 21 days and we met both of my parents.i really think he is serious i am just scared i might get hurt as i do before:( anyway i will appreciated everything you can help me have a nice day everyone God bless!!! Kirkland Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 3:25:40 PM   Like jetmba says: He has a poor record with girls. 42 is not old to have been divorced 3 times already. For most people once is hard enough. I don't mean to insult but the truth is; you must be desperate. You're 21 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you. Still, if it's just the green card you're after fair enough. Be careful what you wish for, it might come true. kiwinorth Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 5:00:56 PM   Michavie you ask questions that are personal to you and this man,, they are questions we all have asked ourselves one time or another, time will give them to you and i hope they are happy answers.. as in the marriage part,, i lot of us don't believe in marriage as something sacred we just don't, its a church religious thing of old,, so don't worry to much about that part. what we believe in is the person we will pick as a life time partner, not a signing or words said in some ceremony.. i feel he may be one that dose not take a marriage ceremony very seriously, his record proves it, but it dose not mean he will not take you seriously. his seriousness, time will only tell you this and your instincts. as in visa's "don't know" every country has there own ideas. Michavie Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 5:17:00 AM   Taylor Swift: Thank you soo much for the help to make it easier to read for everybody.,it was just when i post this topic i am confused what to say to express what i truly feel.And this is the first time i post topic on this furom trying to get some good advice about my situation. KIRKLAND: thank for taking time to read and reply my post i appreciate it:)yea i know he has a poor record with the previous girls he has been with.But i didn't judge him about that issue because i know each of as has a past and it was not fair enough that i will drop him just because of that.well i didn't trust him completely before we meet,but when i meet him with this little girl it seems that i feel we are connected for a long time. Well i am not desperate to get married But when i meet him it was i feel something different i know a lot of here will judge our relationship because i am young.Well since we met he does a lot of things to prove that he does love me,the one thing that i loved about him is"respectful,he is not rude and talk rude,he let me do what i want such as getting a job while waiting for the visa.(About green card)well i don't care to get a green card or not i keep asking him if we could just live in Philippines so that we don't have to wait such time its not i am desperate to get married with him for some reason it's because i want to be with him badly after we meet.this feeling is different before i met him in real,.He wants me to get a green card so that we wont have any problem to get in the US in the future which i understand.But if i could just decide where i want to live, i want here in Philippines. But of course as i mentioned above it was impossible for him even he wants too as he need also to take care of his business. ANYWAY thank you soo much for the reply which i really appreciate for the kindness of you guys by sharing your time and thoughts about what i post. KIWINORTH Thank you so much kiwi for sharing your thoughts about married,maybe you are right a lot of guys doesn't believed the sacred of married,will as i heard also by his side about the horrible of his previous married, First married with the white girl it doesn't work because his ex wife doesn't want to work it out,She give more time by her happiness than taking care of her family and kids.she always out partying with friends.when she got home she is drunk and the kids left home with him.So i can't blame him to get divorce with this kind of life he has been experienced. SECOND MARRIED After he get visa with the second wife to get in to the US,AND they get married after a few months her true attitude is too bad.SHE IS jealoused with the kids and she wants him to give up the kids so which is i think its not good if she love him why she shouldn't accept the kids too? the third married was he is not in love the girl only the girl hired somebody to marry them in the hotel room while he was drunk for days of depression:( anyway thank you soo much guys for the kindness by taking time to response and read about my post,takecare always everybody bye for now LoveRose Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 5:11:06 PM   hello mich, anyway i am doing good,but still thinking what should i do with this mess i have in a relationship with my bf.I am thankful to you guys for the kind words,well anyway i think you much lucky than i do your fiancee seems serious about you,Well anyway i have my officemate before she got married with an American guy too her husband was a quiet old than she does her husband was 43 and she is 19 that time,they meet in person for Her husband also has 3 divorce and with kids but now they lived together happily somewhere in Florida with one son. I think your fiancee's divorce has a reason and for me not all people has a bad record with girls are bad and can't have a chance to have a good relationship in the future and successful married with the right woman.Because sometimes also the real problem is with the girl,as you says the reason of the divorce is definitely with this girls attitude so i can't blame the guys to end up this such relationship. As what i think he take you seriously as he take time to visit you and letting you spent time with his little girl it was great i think!ANYWAY i wish you all the best this forum is really nice theres a lot of people that you can get a helpful thoughts they are very nice and i am soo happy that i found this forum!good luck both of you guys please takecare!!! rose Land of oz Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 6:53:05 PM   The k1 can be received without a lawyer. It is simple straight forward questions. He is right on the 60 to 90 days processing if all i's are dotted and t's are crossed. It is normally a hold up getting papers submitted because of needing to get them signed and sent from one country to another. There are interviews that will need to be scheduled after the processing in the ladies country. So the total time will probably be closer to 6 months. The fact that he has been married several times already: I would guess the largest part of the men looking at a relationship overseas have had one or more failed relationships and are fed up with the mentality of the women in their own country. It is possible that they were married to the wicked witch of the west. But there are probably two sides to every story and if a man is honest he must share some of the blame and needs to in order to prevent returning to the same end. It sounds from your description that this man is a good man. Perhaps you should suggest he read some books on the basic differnces of how men and women think and need to be supported such as "his needs her needs" or "Men are from Mars Womena are from Venus" although that last title sounds lika a 70 year old man wanting to play video games, both books and there may be others have some very good information. His age may make him more mature and could be a benifit rather than a problem, you never know. I agree that marriages are not made to be broken and that is why you solomly vow to stay with your mate until death separates you no matter what. But in the end you will have to decide and I will wish you good luck. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > marrying an american guy
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