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Author Post LoveRose Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 12:18:50 PM   hi guys,i have a long time boyfriend we meet last 2006 Nov,and our relationship was off last aug 2007.and went on again last sept.2007,we didn't meet yet in person and i doubt if he has a plan to meet me,we always argue as he is very controlling and jealous type of person,i love him dearly but every time that we argue he keep saying bad thing to me all bad words he knew i heard it.sometimes we argue i fall asleep as i can't even type when he is mad he will tell me don't type!If I will type even "i am sorry i don't intend to hurt you"he will says more and more bad words and get more upset,he wants to have some fun chat means he wanted me to do some sexy things to him!But i always feel he doesn't respect me,every time i don't do what she ask he will get soo mad he will just find a reason to get soo mad at me but i know the cause why he is mad soo much because i don't do what he says:(he bought me a computer before so that we can communicate properly.SOMETIMES I feel i would like to chat him on the internet cafe so that he can respect me by not asking such thing.he support me get me an apartment to live alone because he doesn't want i live with many people such as my family or be around with too much people.i worked before as a manager in the insurance company.but when i meet him this is the first thing he ask me"i want you to stop working"i wan't you to changed your email id...i said i can't stop to work right away i love my work and i want to work to stand my own.!But he then says ok"if you love me you will do what i want!..So i decided to quick my job which i really i really love before i meet him.But i do what he says.time goes on he get more jealoused i couldn't go out the gate unless i texted him or call him that i wanna go out to get something can i?if he wont reply which is mostly happened as it was night for him he is sleeping when he woke up he will ask me if i go out,i don't want to lie so i tell him yes i do quickly i have to get some vegetable or something i need.he will get sooo mad telling me bad words.well every time we argue it will last for hours for him to say bad words i am just quiet and sometimes i cried and i fell asleep he will saw me sleeping.When i woke up i will read his messages the last word was "i am sorry"i hurt you i have food allergy and i am sick:(sometimes i feel he just made it as an alibi to make me feel considering his attitude. Second thing is when we meet he is 43 and he only sent one picture half body of him taken when he is 35years old..i keep asking him if he has new photo he keep telling he doesn't have any he will take more pictures when he lost some weights.FIRST he says he doesn't have a camera which i offered to have my digital camera i will sent it to him so that he can took pictures but he refused he said he will get one soon..till now he doesn't have.i really think is he serious or not?Also since i meet him i didn't have friends as i do before:(my oldfriends wondering how am i they can't contact me as i changed my number and i am shy as i couldn't meet them anymore.we chatted to much at day time which is night time of him,we chat 11 am mostly last 5 to 6 pm.those time we can count on our fingers that we dont argue.i feel bad about this i don't know what to do i always feel hurt by our situation:(anybody can share any advice here please help me i will appreciated anything from you guys takecare God bless have a good day!! rose devilmaycare Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 6:45:49 PM   Anyone who says "if you loved me you would --do whatever--" doesn't love you, and isn't worth loving. Love is about giving and accepting, not about taking and demanding. thomasm3 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 7:17:56 PM   I don't know if it's April's fool, but in case it isn't, one advice: RUN!!, very fast. Take your job back, call your friends again and forget about this guy. I really hope (and think) this is not for real... Rag'n'Bull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 8:30:42 PM   LoveRose, It sounds like he has a SERIOUS temper problem, on other ends of the telephone he may only shout and say bad words to you but what may happen when you may be living together, a telephone connection then will not seperate you then, and how may he control his temper then, will it become physical violence? I think you need to find another man LoveRose. nooga Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/1/2008 8:48:02 PM   He is fat. OFF HE GOES! kiwinorth Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 4:08:15 AM   rose if you are for real,, if you were my sister, he would be getting a serious talk, if you didn't do what you should do,, end of story. dont change your life like that for someone you dont know, because you dont know him.. rose go and get a life, forget about this ugly man. LoveRose Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 7:51:37 AM   bassuk,martin,thomasm3 and nooga thanks soo much!!! Guys thank you so much for the nice advice,i admit i am soo confused by our situation we been in a relationship for quiet long but i FEel it's seems nothing as we don't have such a good relationship"good relationship i mean is no fighting always,no argued and most of all we must be fair in our relationship.i can say he is not fair as what he keep telling me"I AM THE BOSS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP YOU MUST DO THE THINGS THE WAY I WANT THEM TO BE DONE!"well i tried to just understand him. Bassuk Yea i think you are right love is not about taking and demanding,But in our case he believed that love is all about like that i guess.sometimes i feel i wanted to give up his attitude,But i am scared i might hurt his feelings,we been through a break up before for 2 months i didn't talk anybody but i am really hurt that time and he keep asking me for a chance and also i am not totally wanted to give him up that time i just want him to learn a lesson,But as he says that he love me but it was kind of crazy we didnt met for such a long time and everytime we argue he will says the more we argue the more his visit will take long,i tried to do everything do everything he wants to avoid such non sense arguments but still i feel i am failed as we still argue:( Theres a time i didnt type a reply to his messages for 30 seconds i am just looking at him while thinking carefully what i typed to avoid arguments,but it was the reason we fight that last for almost two days.He says you ignore me i didnt get any answer for 30 seconds!!Jesus such a short time i didnt reply him he was seems like a mad Lion THAT WILLING TO SWALLOW ME ALIVE! well as of now i am trying to get a best advice but you all guys have a good thoughts and advice anyway thank you soo much for this it helps me a lot to realized the right thing:)i just dont know what should i say to him to end up this messy relationship that he wont get soo much hurt'i hate hurting somebody's feelings i dont know what to do.thanks guys really for the help BYE FOR NOW TAKECARE ALWAYS!! MARTIN_FFC THANKS YEA I THINK HE DOES A SERIOUS TEMPER.HE has 80%of food allergy but sometimes i feel he just make it as an alibi when he realized that he is too much getting mad for a nonsense reason. anyway any have an idea how to let him know that i feel wanna end this that he wont get hurt?i hope i know how to end this without soo much hurt:( thanks a lot guys nooga,martin,thomasm3and bassuk for such a helping replies!:)takeacre always Taylor Swift Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 8:58:56 AM   LOVEROSE you're way too good for the fat bastard you mentioned. Dump him now or you'll regret it for your whole life! thomasm3 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 2:54:48 PM   Rose, just break off all communication telling him that he should leave you alone, cry a bit if you feel sad about it and then move on. Change your numbers again so he cannot contact you anymore. This guy does not even deserve an explanation why you break up with him. And btw, if he has 80% food alergy, how the hell did he get fat ? ;-) But seriously, this guy seems to be really frustrated and messed up. Leave before it's too late. Don't care about hurting him. He apparently hurt you many times and messed up your life. Payback time... Kirkland Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 3:07:12 PM   He's a prick...drop him. Seriously....this guy is a prick. With a capital P Michavie Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 4:08:05 PM   LoveRose: Hello how are you doing?i am sorry to hear about your long time b f's bad temper,Hard to say but i think he is not too deep serious with your relationship i can't imagine this type of person even a picture of him he can't provide??? Well anyway about the"bad words"a lot of Americans familiar with this kinds of words they used to it,sometimes when they says some things it includes bad words but to them it doesn't mean too much as what we take it,Like here in Philippines when we hear those types of words we feel something different because we took it seriously and we don't used to it..But in American its different not all bad words they say they intend it really to hurt your feelings.But anyway it depends on the time when he will say it.I THINK we just need to used to it by not taking everything seriously cause i know if we did we will just feel hurt. I hope he is a real person and will realized what you feel too not just his feelings I hate a guy who just seems played with other's emotion,you seems a great girl and i think you can find more then him.what i mean is a person who will not try to control you,will respect your feelings as a human being,and not being selfish,i think in a relationship it was not just one sided or it doesn't need a boss.i feel sad for you but i know you can moved on. WHAT can i say is think about this i won't tell you to give him up or keep him.Just you know think everything he does in the relationship if you feel you can accept it go for it but if you think that this will be a big mess in the future I KNOW YOU ARE old enough to think the right thing.IN A situations by ending a relationship as we can't handle it already i know it was really hard and we all really feel hurt except if we didn't truly feel care and love of the certain person.but i know that we have to be strong with our life.well anyway all of us has each problem,i hope i can help to as ease your feelings.take care always everything will be fine:)God bless you!!! mich LoveRose Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 5:31:06 PM   Hello everyone: I Am soo glad i think i am in the right forum i got a lot of helpful words and thoughts here thank you soo very much guys i appreciate this all really now it helps me feel more awake!!and realized the fact! Maybe I am just being blind with what i feel for him,maybe i just listened purely my heart thats why i didn't realized that i am a loser:(Well it just i feel guilty when i hurt somebody's feeling i feel bad hurting others feeling,But you guys i think right,i realized how big messed is this relationship i have with him.Well since we start our relationship with him i take him serious i didn't make any thing that might hurt his feelings..I do everything the way he wants me to do.i let him being the boss of my life and our relationship i gave up everything to follow him and not hurting his feelings.I KEEP understanding him everything even i feel deeply hurt mostly cause by him. I Tried everything to be faithful with him since the day 1 of our relationship i changed the ym id and don't talk to anybody.BUT i think you are right guys he doesn't deserve to be loved like i did.I HATE to think that i may hurt his feelings i wish i could have more courage to end this messed up. Guys thank you soo much for lightened up my mind everybody who response my problem thank you soo much for the replied it really helps me feel better i hope you guys won't be tired by sharing your thoughts!!i am soo happy to found this furom thank you so much!please always be careful and have a happy day everyone!! ROSE Kirkland Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 5:56:51 PM   When someone reveals themself to you, take heed. It's an old adage but worth remembering. If he gets unhinged about easy stuff like simple communication, imagine how many other issues might be in flux. Seems like shaky ground for the future you want. So much tension early on in a relationship doesn't make for a more meaningful future of peacful bliss. nooga Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 6:00:55 PM   Love rose... Since we are both looking for love, will you be my girlfriend? colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 6:07:49 PM   people that are jealous will always be jealous its not something they grow out of you have to ask yourself with all his faults could you deal with those forever? As for him not showing you his total pictures I feel sad for the guy obviously hes not happy with his appearance but he should be up straight with how he looks from the start. Billo Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/2/2008 8:09:36 PM   Love Rose, Why would you even be so involved with this guy if he has not made the effort to meet you? He is either to fat to fly or he is broke. Buying you a computer is a small fraction of the cost of bringing a bride home. LoveRose Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/3/2008 3:39:28 AM   THANKS GUYS ABOVE , WELL i think it's also my fault by taking him seriously.its just i don't want to hurt's anybody's feeling.but i think i should do what i need to do.i am just trying to figure out how to do it by not causing too much pain.i hope i could do a moved as soon before its too late as somebody's says. thanks guys for everything i hope i could get some more helpful idea how to end this up with out soo much pain:(takecare have a good day!!! ROSE Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > IS HE SERIOUS?
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