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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Sacred of divorce, I need advice Author Post Alfred Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/8/2008 11:12:27 PM   Hi I joined this forum looking for advice, support etc. I am seriously thinking on getting married with a Russian, Ukranian or Baltic woman, I am 29 years old but, I get really scared when I read coments or "horror" stories, I am afraid to get married and as soon as she gets the papers she might walk away. Or even worse, maybe she divorces me for money, maybe this is part of her plan? maybe they have heard about how the American divorce court/system works.I have seen other sites offering advice to russian women on how to divorce and get as much as possible, they even offer to help them get the papers faster so they can walk away before the usual time. I have been in many Russian,Ukranian and Baltic cities, women are icredibly pretty and in the best shape, thats why most of us are here right? but while I was there, to be honest I have seen many girls practically selling themselves to tourists from Europe or America, many of them dance and behave very crazy, too sexy, people here who have been in any nightclub in Kiev know what I am talking about, far crazier than drunk American teenagers on a spring break trip to Cancun, and they also seem to like the best clothes from the best designers, the nicest and most expensive cars etc. what makes me think......we are suppose to be here because we don't want the same materialistic women we have in our westener countries so, I am confused, I don't know if I would be making the biggest mistake I have never been maried and all this makes me doubt, I enjoy financial stability and I want to keep it and not loose half my assets in divorce court, however I met lady who seems different, she looks great too, and I think about her a lot thats why i am becoming crazy and can not make a desition. I will appreciate all coments good or bad I need as much opinions and share as much experience as possible, thanks guys. aussieman41 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/9/2008 3:14:58 AM   Alfred, nothing lasts forever. All marriages are a risk, marriages break up for many reasons but its basically incompatable personalities or the love in it just tires out and people move on. It gets really messy if you have kids and then divorce, in such a case where there are kids involved and you divorce its a thousand times worse like what happenned to me. I got 12 years out of my foreign wife but she was not from the FSU. Many FSU girls, especially the young ones in there twenties, are very materialistic especially from the more afluent and larger cities such as Moscow and Kiev in the FSU. Get to know your lady, don't rush into marriage, no shotgun weddings. The problem with the USA K1 fiance visa is they only give you 3 months to marry her or she must leave the country...its not enough time to really know any girl when they live in the enviroment of your country. In Australia, if you get a fiance visa approved for your foreign girl called a "prospective marriage sub-class 300 visa", it is valid for 9 months from the date its issued so you have much more time in which to get to know her while she lives with you and marry her within the 9 month period, ie you get 3 times longer to get to know her than the K1 before you have to marry her. The Australian government changed the fiance rules about 7 years ago and lengthened the validity period of a fiance visa to cut down on sham marriages or people just rushing in and making mistakes because of being pressured for time to marry because wrong decisions are costly to the person and the government as well. Its hard to get a fiance visa, be it a K1 or Prospective Marriage visa. The burden on proof is on you and the lady to show that a genuine relationship exists prior to marriage and that you intend to marry and live together in your country during the validity period of the fiance visa.Different embassies and immigration offices as well as different case officers will have varying views on how much proof you will require, there are guidelines but nothing about really how much is needed.You get easy Government bureaucrats and the hard cases, the real sticklers for the rules, the unbending and unyeilding "Herberts" who don't want to approve nothing or are just anti foreigner etc. If your family or friends could meet her, they can form an independent opinion about your lady. Sometimes an opinion or opinions from trusted people outside of your relationship can help you make the right decision about marriage and if this person is suitable for you because when you are in a relationship, "love" can make you blind to the things that are wrong with the person ( if anything ) and you won't see it for what it is where as some trusted person on the outside can be more objective and observant and offer advice. I would be getting a lawyer to draw up a water tight prenuptial agreement that she will have to sign first if you want to marry her, sign prenup first before the marriage papers as a condition of marriage and put this too her beforehand, don't hide it, if she loves you she will agree with it. Ask your family and friends what they think. Get legal advice on immigration and prenuptial agreements in your part of your country and know what you are doing before applying for a fiance visa. If you do all the right steps and cover your arse and at the same time be fair to her and don't botch it, maybe you can have a happy life with her. Remember she is a person, don't let nice looks, nice tits or a nice arse blind your judgement, successful relationship is based on the personallities of each individual in it, jelling together and not based on lust and desire for a hot womans body..lust is a bad basis to make a relationship..you do lust if you want to blow your load on a one night stand but if you want to marry someone...you see the person and personality, not arses and tits and pussies only! I can understand your fears about marriage and then it going wrong. I took a gamble with my first foreign wife marriage but it lasted 12 years before it went to the sh*t house, I don't think nothing lasts forever now days and marriage is over rated and old tradition ( and can be the stuff nightmares are made off ) but you know the saying, once bitten..twice shy! Divorce is sh*t..it wrecks your life for years! Some people here think I talk sh*t but others here talk sh*t as well..its a matter of opinion! Life is a gamble..nothing is predictable..we don't have crystal balls to see what will happen to us years down the track especially with relationships and marriage! Ultimately you must decide whats best for you and you need to make an inforemd decision that you will be happy with either way. Alfred Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 4/13/2008 11:05:18 PM   Aussiman, thanks a lot for your comments, they all make a lot of sense, I don't know how old are you but you must have a lot of experience, I think just like you about marriage, I think It is hard if not impossible to have a good one, it needs constant work, and I agree with you that it is overrated, however my problem is, I really want to have kids, its one of my greatest wishes, I am 29 and I am starting to feel old, that is probably why i decided to take a chance to meet some of this FSU ladies on the net. Well I will follow your advice on not rushing, I will try to find out everything about the ladies personallity before taking any crazy decition, thanks a lot for your reply and your advice mate. take care. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Sacred of divorce, I need advice
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