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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Lady with child(ren)? Author Post cobraca Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/22/2008 11:15:01 PM   Hi, I have been reading some of the posts here, but so far everybody is talking about meeting ladies without children. Has anyone actually met a lady who already has a child living with her? Any experience with that? Thanks for any insight. C. Land of oz Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/23/2008 11:48:07 AM   Hello cobraca: My girlfriend has an eleven year old son. Quasimoto and Monada also have a child. My friends child is very well behaved and I enjoy spending time with him. Of course I have a little concern with his schooling (making a smooth transition) when he comes stateside. A huge problem that is encountered with children is the father. To remove them from Ukraine under the age of 18 I believe you must have the fathers consent or get a court ruling if he will not give it. In my case the consent is not a problem but Quasi and Monada have had much difficulty with it. cobraca Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/23/2008 2:05:18 PM   Well, schooling is not an issue as far as I am concerned. Even if I am now living in Canada, I come from Romania and I have Romanian friends who came to Canada with children in their teens. They addapted perfectly and very fast, language-wise and all, so this is really a non-issue if the kid is at least average. Actually most of those kids performed better than their local counterparts. Useful to know the part about the consent though. Thank you for your reply. I would expect that a lady with children would be more willing to settle and have a normal life, unlike some of the scary experiences some of the guys on this forum posted about girls partying wildly shortly after their arrival and throwing all kind of temper-tantrums... Maxirat Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/23/2008 8:21:21 PM   Cobraca You have asked a very good question. I am surprised this question doesn’t come up more often. Firstly – I have been married for 2.5 years and we have been together for 3.5 years. My wife is 41 and has a daughter who is now 20.5. Our marriage has grown stronger and to sum up my appraisal in one sentence and without going into “the personal details” – I never thought a women could be so perfect !!! When I began the FSU experience, I made a decision that I would narrow the field down to the following • Age difference not greater than15 years ( I was 46) • Women with one child – preference a daughter • Advanced English ( 3 out of 5) minimum Reason for having a child, was that I already had 3 children to my 1st marriage and I did not want to have anymore. Age difference – well I wont get into details but statistical info will show you the odds on truth of success if greater than 15 years. I did not want to waste valuable years and have to start over in 3 – 5 years time. English level – again self explanatory – and it can be done without that level, but it does slow up the judgement of compatibility and just makes everything in the early stages much more difficult. I know some will say what I have written in my 3 points above, will look like a shopping list approach, but you need to lay down some guidelines to stick to. Women with children do have some minus – father approval to leave country, extra expense in travel etc, but I think the advantages out weigh the negatives. And if you do not want (be honest inside yourself here) more children, then don’t mess with a women’s natural instincts to want children herself !!!! Women with children are more focused on future and have been through the hard knocks of life, will demonstrate their true intent, I mean you will see more quickly and easily their attitudes and wants and wish’s in future life. I have witnessed on this forum and others I have heard about in NZ – men 40+ who have been attracted to the young honey’s – who have spent much money and time, to have it turn to dust within 2 years. These young single women/girls are much easier to find than a women who has genuinely decided to better her life for her and her child’s future. I had countless opportunities for younger ones, even this summer back in Kiev on the river sunbathing, be like taking candy from a baby (no pun intended) Land of oz Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/23/2008 11:00:23 PM   Being from Romania you are probably aware that an FSU woman with a child is totally devoted to that child. There are things that I have noticed different and I do not know if this is the case with all or just my friend. First until she thinks you worthy you will not meet her child. Second this lady ask more detailed questions and also answered my questions in more detail than any other FSU woman I have met. Third it is easier to read her attitude toward me because the child is a constant that I know she loves more than anything else. So I can see how she treats me compared to him. It was very interesting and intriguing to see her and her son to first ask only for photos together and by themselves. It did leave me feeling a little left out but I realized that closeness does not happen over night and I said nothing. As our relationship progressed then each time they wanted a photo taken by something of beauty or historic both her and her son ask me to be in the photo with each while the other took the photo and also had me take a photo of the two of them. There is no doubt that this lady wants something better for her son. In my opinion she would give up some of her own needs for him. Love does not happen in a few days but I believed that she recognized qualities that she wanted for herself and her son and that she believed would grow into love so the times I have been there she has made the commitment to spend every possible minute with me. And now we have spent enough time that it has turned into love. So previously when she did not ask me to be in the photo that was fine with me because I must earn that place in her heart and that takes time. Women with children may be more willing to settle and have a normal life as you mentioned but they may also be more cautious because their child is tied to what they accept. I agree that mine seems to be well grounded and I have no doubts that she is totally committed. All are individuals and what the next one is like I will not venture to guess. Dunromin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/24/2008 5:04:06 AM   Cobraca: Do you have children? colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/24/2008 6:54:42 AM   Having had a relationship with a lady for many years who had a son from a previous relationship. I wouldnt go there again its alot more work and the issue of the childs father will from time to time rearing its head.It takes a special person to rear someone elses child and not every one is cut out for it. Also if the relationship fails chances are you will lose contact with the child who you may have gained a bond with.But then every situation is different and Im sure it can work out. I wouldnt do it again personally because it is so much work. aussieman41 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/24/2008 8:43:48 AM   I agree with Colin,I have been there and done that in the past with an Aussie woman a couple of years after my divorce, there were 3 kids involved in that one, 2 girls aged 10 and 14 and a boy aged 12, the 10 year old girl did not like me and disrespect me and was rude, the 14 year old was good to me and so was the boy but the boundaries are very difficult..they were not my kids and I could not discipline them and there were other insurmountable problems involved including my kids interacting with her kids during my contact visits and my kids did not want to hang out with her kids, there were problems with my ex-wife as in she demanded I not take my kids to my girlfriends on contact times, lots of bullshit and problems which resulted in me not seeing my kids for 8 months and a family court case and all the stress of it and the fact the realtionship was not right killed it, relationship only lasted 8 months. I would not do this again. My current fiance whom I will marry next March has no kids and is unlikely to get pregnant because of medical womans problem. Good post Colin. dbc1951 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 8/24/2008 2:40:21 PM   I married a Russian woman who had two children. To be honest about it, the kids were more of a draw than she was. They were both fantastic and never gave me an ounce of trouble. The girl is now a senior at Georgia Tech and is a brilliant kid. Unfortunately, their mother wasn't quite so pleasant once I got to know her better. The divorce was nasty and I no longer have any contact with either of the kids. That is something to keep in mind when you date a woman with children regardless of nationality. they're her children and not yours and if the marriage ends in divorce you're basically SOL. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Lady with child(ren)?
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