"Russian women are so wonderful". Of course, they say that, the agencies are selling a product. Everyone is wonderfu; when you first meet. Cold hard truth? Yes, they cook and take care of the home and children. They are taught that it is their meaning in life. (That, and to look good.) But compared to western culture, it seems to me that eastern culture is less tolerant, less patient, less loyal, more arrogant, more selfish, more vain, more apathetic, moodier, whinier, more materialistic, less driven and more cold-hearted. Everyone is wonderful when you meet them, then the novelty wears off. This is simply my opinion of what 70 years of Socialist rule will do to a culture.
Donít think that a woman is serious because she is on an agencyís site or placed her own ad and even wrote to you. Most girls do this because they are simply curious about the result that her ad will bring. Itís always free for them, so why not try. They might like the idea of a foreign husband, but not ready to go through with it. Russian people talk a lot more than they actually do. Always get a full address and telephone number
Can someone remind me please! What is it about the Russian woman we are hoping to find? I have no success at all. In the beginning the girls(the few that replies)appears to be very interested but when I after six letters ask for her address and phone number she suddenly send a short message that sheís leaving her country or in serious corresponding with some one else. I know what you are thinking (he maybe donít know how to communicate) but trust me when I say that I am a very polite and ordinary looking. Funny thing, I have far more success with the western girls than the girls in Russia.
this is to darn complicated! back to the locals. western girls are indeed not so bad after all:)
everyone has different experiences, different ways of communicating, and different expectations. For myself, I wasn't expecting much, but I am very pleasently surprised at the replies i get. I only talk to a few ladies on a regular basis, but they are sweet, kind, very curious about my culture, and very eager to talk about their culture. One lady asks me if owning a home is a exclusive thing, or if owning a car is a privlege, and she seemed floored when I tell her anyone who wants to own a home can, and there is a car for each member of a family. I do not think that the women on this site are complicated, nor are all of them bad. I am very happy with this site. I know I will only marry one woman, but I am happy to know I have at least made friends.
Hey porky! It sounds like you may have been dealing with a scam agency. You mention after about six letters, and you ask for the personal contact information, they drop you. Sounds like typical behavior of a scammer agency girl. Did you pay for each letter sent and recieved? If you did then I'm 99% sure you were just dealing with a bad agency. The girls or whoever is writing to you is trained to milk as many letters from you as they can. This is the bullshit that we men have to fight through to get to what we really are searching for. A quality woman to spend the rest of our life with in bliss. They do exist in Russia and Ukraine by the thousands. If you haven't gone yet then I suggest you go to Russia or Ukraine for a visit. There is no reason for a single man to vacation anywhere else!
My last visit I dated 14 beautiful women in 21 days. During my prime I couldn't do that in 6 months! Don't give up!
Hey all... I have been looking at a number of these sites for years. Contemplating and wondering. I am now 32 and getting tired of the crapping games of American women. They say one thing and dont even know themselves that they are not ready. I am a working man and only make about 40K a year. These sites make it look like you need to have a 6 figure salary to get anywhere.
I am 32 also, never been married due in large part to the antics and refusal to commit by American women. I am not a millionare either, but you do not have to be loaded to fit in here. This site is cheap, get the vip membership and you can e-mail to unlimited number of women. Odds are you will find a good woman. Travel to Russia isn't cheap, a plane ticket runs between $600.00 - $900.00 and then there is hotel, and other things. I think this site can put together a nice package for you, at a reasonable cost. If you meet the lady, and things go good, hire a lawyer to complete the fiance visa, I know a firm with a 100% success rate, and they are reasonably priced. Then the lady comes here, and you take it from there. The process is time consuming, but it can be well worth it in the end. Just look out for scammers and ladies who ask for money, and you are ok. If you have been looking for years, and came up empty, maybe you are doing something wrong, or giving up too easy. Remember, my friend, nothing worthwile in life is easy.
Donít expect a fairy tale searyn! Woman in America or woman in Russia. We are basically all the same except, the Russian woman search for someplace better and are less fastidious about her choice of man. I agree with you it appears to be quite an expensive hobby the lonely western shouters have in here. Amazing really to read about all the money the spend on this ladies. If you guys would spend the same on western womanís it would be strange if you donít score.
Hey Chip! I didn't say that I slept with all of them! I wanted too though! :) I ended up selecting one to get serious with and I'm going back to spend more time with her. It was just nice to ask a girl out or to dance and she said yes everytime. It was a pleasure dating all 14 of them but alas I can only choose one. :(
I know what you mean deanis. First time I went to Iraq I raped or in my opinion dated about 16 woman and 3 boys in 4 days. The girls are often armed with rifle and explosives. It is so sexy! Arenít me slut?
I have been looking at these sites for years... but I had never tried any of them, I wasnt ready to look elsewhere besides America. After the ending of my last relationship with a beautiful and wonderful 22 year old woman here, for reasons neither of us know for sure, and finding mostly women with mental and emotional probs along with a number of kids in tow, I am just about fed up with American women. I am still looking here, but I am just frustrated with doing time for crimes that others have committed and looking in hay-stacks and finding only straw instead of needles. I was reluctant to try these sites because of the appearance of the need for a sizable paycheck and the scammers.
Another question I wonder about is how many women marry American men and come over here, then after a few months or years divorce. They use the men as tickets to American citizenship and sometimes to bring their families over here also. I was in the Navy and saw that quite a bit with Asian women. Just makes me leerly of all foriegn women looking to marry American men.
I'm newly married with a girl from Kharkov, Ukraine with whom I have 16 years of age gap. She loves me like a God (literally I mean) and I love her more than anything else, too. We met through this site (former dating-ru) beginning of August 2002. We physically met first time in Kiev for four days in mid-November 2002. We had several meetings in her country before she came here in mid-August 2003. We got married in mid-September 2003. Despite her very young twenty years, she is very mature and very, very patient which is so important coming here. Also, very important is her very good English.
I am so proud of her and have been the envy of everyone I know. She is extremely beautiful girl and I mean beautiful! Natural blond/blue, 5.7, 116, sweet Russian looking face with innosence of young looking girl. This is my wife and she loves me. She's educated and she's starting college here in January to continue what she did before in her country. And yes she cooks and she waits for me in the balcony to come back from work and she comes and takes my briefcase and I never asked her to do these things she does these because she feels like. And one can say wait a few months things will change, but I'm experienced and well-traveled man and I can tell you this is a real diamond not an imitation. She'll do everything to make me happy. I feel the same way, I don't know if I would ever recover the emotional shock if something happened to her. I pray to God every day for her well being and I ask that I am let to live long only for the reason to be with her, take care of her and experience our love in the long term.
Was I scammed through all these sites in the past? Yes I did maybe not as much as others mainly because I found Yulia very quickly during the first month when I started all this. Am I in a position to generalize about every Russian/Ukrainian woman out there and say they're all like Yulia or they're all frauds? By all means no, I don't have enough experience and I don't think anyone does. I read on this thread some things that are not right about girls not being serious and doing this for fun. My Yulia started this for fun during the summer when she didn't have school. Her pictures were also glamor pictures and she did showed her extremely well shaped body. There is nothing wrong with that. These girls are from Eastern Europe, they're not from Iraq. There is nothing wrong starting something for fun and then finding love. The opposite would be suspicious. I can tell you that what I saw in my Yulichika's pictures back then is nothing comparing to the beauty that she is. My mouth, tongue and teeth fell to the floor the first time I saw her and I am still losing myself in her eyes and stairing at her like a fool. And she looks at me and smiles and tells me "you're my man and I only belong to you". We fell in love out of accident, and it wasn't smooth either mainly because of me. But, we are together and I am the happiest I've ever been. Can this happen to others? I think yes!
It is stories like that which make me ever hopeful. When you hear the bad stories, there are just as many good ones, but they aren't aws well publicized. mainly because the people here in this forum are still looking, and not settled yet. Once settled, why bother with a dating website forum? The good stories are tucked away in the "client testimonials" section, but not on this forum. Wtrav, good show old man! Does she have any sisters? ;)
thanks for the story wtrav... good to hear that it works out for some people, congradulations. I am going to see if it works out for me now. So far I am 1 and 1. Shot down once and off to a good start with another young beautiful girl.
What advice would you give someone who is new at the game? Use the multiplicity of websites to "browse beautiful and
available women", travel to Russia on one's own, or both? You seem like you have a great time and are very success-
oriented when you travel -- do you go it alone?