What a bloody diaster I should be divorced this week and the judge didnt turn in and was sick.
The ex dosnt talk to me except to give cutting remarks about the past ,one time i was coming to see her
and was robbed in Slovakia losing my passport and couldnt go she went on about this that she should never have forgiven me,,funny she said im a miser and narsictic lol,and yet last time I gave her a grand in Ukraine to pay bills what a bitch, she cant take responsility for her own actions and instead blames everyone else. Anyway after receiving
the letter below from her hum she came onto skype chat and asked me to take her back but I must pay her debts then she will come, I guess she would but whats the point ? so that in a few weeks months or years she will run again? Its been to long now, currently im semi living with a ethnic russian girl from Latvia ,shes really nice and we get on fantastic ,she has a eu passport and has been in my country 8 years this is her home
the difference between her and my wife is alot.We go to london for a weekend next week so it should be great.
Hello dear Colin,
Thank you very much for your reply. It was sincere and direct, thank you once again for your openness. I understand your sharp response as I understand you very well. You and //. know that I am at your side. She sounds even sometimes a bit jealousy in this connection.
Really the situation sounds not very typical – as a rule mothers are at the side of their daughters but not in our case- from he very beginning I have said you and not repeat this once again- I will always support you! Hope you remember that I said you about the hard character of Lina so that I wanted to avoid in the future some misunderstandings that could appear. I really hope that our coalition (you and me) will finally bring some positive results! I would like to write once again as well that I want to become a grandmother so much and wait for solving this so much!
Colin, I want to inform you now that today, on March 10, the session in the court of your case of divorce did not take place. The reason is that the judge is sick, she has been ill for some time already and I was said that probably on Thursday this week she would come at work. But that is not for sure. It sounds God supports me now! .. said me this- about God. Court is postponed for the not fixed time. They will let Lina know additionally.
I suppose it is very good as she will have some more time to think all over once again.
I spoke today with the deputy judge and he told me that the hearing of the case could be stopped in case:
1. You write in the written form in English a paper where you refuse to deal wit the divorce, you do not want it takes place. It is possible to write it in English and to send it by the e-mail. This letter will be considered by the judge as a document and will be taken into consideration and the case of the divorce is canceled.
2. ... refuses from her words, says that she leaves Ukraine for Ireland where she intends to live with you in the family relations in peace and understanding.
3. The case is postponed for the not certain period of time if one from the family couple does not appear in the court by him(her)self – from the side of ...- she herself, from your side- as you are not in Ukraine – if you say you do not use the service of the advocate who represents your interests in the court, i.e. your advocate does not appear there.
Maybe you will think it over? I am scared that in case the divorce still takes place, ... will lose her visa of wife and will not be able to come at you in Ireland.
I really hope you agree with me that we should not allow this takes place.
Also today and yesterday I noticed that ... slowly but “turns back” by her face. Now she sounds she needs a bit time for making the decision.
Now ... will be busy at the university – final exams and defending the Diploma, it will last approx. till April 10-14. The more exact dates I shall know a bit later.
Dear Colin, I ask you very seriously now- please do not disturb her now, for this period of time. I understand you love her, I really ask you very much- give her please some time to return into the balanced situation, be more tolerant and strong as a man! It is worth waiting!
... promised me to think all over again, she experiences now some financial troubles and I shall try and help her as much as I can. I really hope that after obtaining Diploma she will go at you in your country. She told me that in her horoscope the divorce is not mentioned and she thinks of this very seriously. I pray only God helps us all! That is why I ask you again- for several days do not write her or call, let she thinks all very well in a calm situation!
Excuse me for writing you so much but this a very important event for me. .... has to go to Ireland, she will start working, all will change into the better, maybe slowly but will surely turn to the better. Let us be optimistic!
Please pass my best regards, respect and all the best wishes to your parents,
Its a shame the daughter didn't inherit some of her mothers common sense and culture. I'm sure you've come to the same conclusion yourself but you MUST proceed with the divorce, if she had said "I will come back so long as you then help me with these debts" that would one thing but to insist that you pay up *before* she comes back displays a very inflated sense of self worth.
Also if it were me I would "out" her, i.e. post her full name age description etc on here so she doesn't pull the same trick on someone else. This girl has forfeited her right to the PRIVILEGE of marrying decent caring solvent western man.