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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > the other side Author Post colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/4/2009 3:06:02 PM   Applied for divorce in January ,wife dosnt want to be in my country but refuses divorce. She was called to court where my lawyer (who stands in for me) requested marriage cert which she refused to give me. 2 months ago in court with her mother she told the judge she would do all to save her marriage and loved her husband very much . She was given too months she never contacted me. 3rd court room appearance Friday she didnt turn up. My lawyer told me now it would be very difficult to get the divorce it would take along time if she refuses to come to court. So what is her plan >? Maybe make contacts here and come back on her own? or hope she can drag it out for 3 years and get a European passport. Seeing a Russian girl here who is very good and rings my lawyer etc for me I will probably go to immigration and report her now maybe if she tries to come back they can stop her as it would be even more difficult to get a divorce here. ragingbull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/4/2009 3:31:11 PM   Tough one, Colin. If you don't mind my asking, did she marry you for the European passport, or was there other reasons why you two have split? Maxirat Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/4/2009 4:29:53 PM   Are you the Colin from NZ been in Moldova for a while ???????? Rag'n'Bull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/4/2009 7:07:25 PM   Colin, My understanding is that she would need to reside in the EU for an EU passport. Is her Irish visa still valid? I had a situation, many years ago which would have been divorce except that we weren't married, whereas as soon as we were no longer together (in UK) I reported circumstances to the visa issuing authority, i.e. she's phucked off so you can cancel her visa guys, have you done this? Sounds to me that you cannot marry again until she agrees to divorce and she might be looking for a financial settlement from you for the divorce. Have you thought about sending some 'heavies' round to her place? :) colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/5/2009 2:29:12 PM   She didnt marry for passport but found it hard to be out of Ukraine emersion into a new culture was a total shock. Wanted me to support her in Ukraine and her to come to and back.But to stay in Ukraine majority of the time. But what life for me,? Ukraine isnt a bad place I would have maybe followed her there but I have a young son here who I cant give up on. Now she dosnt want divorce but netheir will she come back. baron555 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/5/2009 2:47:41 PM   Do you two love each other? Can you trust each other when you are apart? Where and what was the total shock to her? Do you still wish to be married to each other? ragingbull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/5/2009 5:01:35 PM   I'm sure my gf will have some culture shock when she gets here, if I can pull it off, but I hope it won't be that bad. Right now, as I explain things and send her pictures, she is excited to be here, with me. durak Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/6/2009 12:56:01 AM   Colin, baron555's questions are "on point". I feel for you in your troubles. If she really loves you, I suppose the two of you could work this out over time. Wish I had some words of wisdom... I wish you good luck, to find your way out of this thicket. colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/6/2009 2:40:04 AM   'homesickness is a natural reaction to a new environment. Signs of homesickness and culture shock can be emotional or physical and include an overwhelming wish to return to familiar routines, locations, and family and friends. If you feel lonely, unfocused, or angry over minor inconvenience' Every little thing I did was the wrong thing. These were the exact symtoms, yes the same as you bull she was excited to come all pictures everything but the reality for her from leaving it all was something different. Yes I still love her and trust her but what good to me if she is there. Probably the best way to begin is with some small trips at 1st knowing each time that she would return soon. But moving lock stock and barrel in one go having never been is not a good idea. Yes I think I better go to immigration about her visa. Im seeing a Russian girl again at the moment who has been here 8 years and has a European passport all ready. colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/6/2009 2:46:17 AM   She asked for money from the ukraine,she gave up her job to come here but immediately on returning began to look for a new job which was impossible. I said look okay I cant support u there if u are with me fine but not there. I held out for a bit but then began to support her some money each week. I then went for a trip to see her and she was supposed to go back which she changed her mind again and asked for more time. So I began to stop paying her money and since then she has got some job in a factory 150 usd per month. She knows she has a great life with me but she loves her home. But still she dosnt want to divorce me. ragingbull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/6/2009 1:21:07 PM   Question, Colin. How long does it take before this homesickness start? I plan to have her visit Ukraine shortly after it starts. In the words of another member in this forum, perhaps you needed something to anchor her into your country. A child, hers or if she didn't have one, both of yours. A job. A house. I'm just taking a stab here. gecko Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/6/2009 2:29:33 PM   probably she wants to stay married long enough until she receives her green card. for me, this process took 5 years total, start to finish. my advice to someone going through this, as soon as you know its not going to work, hire a lawyer, get the divorce, .i think it only takes a couple years if it is contested (in usa) it will cost some money, but the money will not compare to the time lost from your life. Rag'n'Bull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/7/2009 6:04:22 AM   We don't 'do' green cards in Europe! colin Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/7/2009 6:11:52 AM   shes in ukraine costs alot less,.,,400 usd in total homesickeness began straight away figgis Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/7/2009 10:41:38 AM   The thought i would have is she tried to live abroad and she dont like it and the natural coarse is to get divorced. The other thought is have you thought if living in Ukraine with her she is your wife if she was prepared to live in your country and give up her friends and family for you maybe for the sake of your marriage you could consider that for her marriage is a two way street. Mini Cooper Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/7/2009 7:17:11 PM   Colin, I just went through a divorce with a Russian lady and it was fairly simple. I filed for divorce here in America... my lawyer sent her notice of the divorce date and time by mail... she never showed up at the divorce hearing and I was granted a divorce by default. Perhaps you should try to divorce her in your own country and not Ukraine? Yes, ragingbull, the home sickness starts immediately. But in your case she will have her child with her and that will help immensely! ragingbull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/8/2009 10:04:58 PM   That's right, Colin. The laws where you are at are maybe difficult to get a divorce when the other party does not show up. Either that or you have a bad lawyer. Try to file somewhere where the laws are more lax. kiwinorth Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/9/2009 2:55:31 AM   i don't know about that one figgis :)) why would you want to live in Ukraine, might be your buzz:) secondly these girls are supposedly looking for men abroad to live abroad with them, have a family, otherwise this is stated in the very beginning of a relationship. she played games, some fantasy world of her own, didn't understand what she was getting into. the time she spent in island just doesn't count as living abroad, that's a holiday: ) the moment she got homesick her fantasy of living in some land with a particular husband did not appeal to her and sadly Colin is having to deal with the repercussions of a spiteful person who probably blames him for not pulling off some fantasy of hers.. why would a person try to keep making another's life miserable,, is that love or payment for her fantasy gone wrong, she needs to grow up, get on with her own life.. Colin, i would look at mini coopers carry on with divorce seriously, your way is to drawn out, cost could be scary but. my thoughts that women doesn't like you mate or she is mentally disturbed otherwise things would be different what ever direction you guys went.. her plan, to me it seems shes just been spitful bowhunter Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/9/2009 6:29:37 AM   Colin you put up with a lot of crap. be carefull you wind up broke figgis Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 6/9/2009 2:56:15 PM   I have a correspondance with a girl in ukraine, she says she has a massive circle of friends and a close family relationship. It is right to suggest that maybe these girls should think twice before getting involved in an international relationship. I get the impression that this girl would not cope with moving straight to the UK. Maybe its best she visits and gets a feel for the country first. As for Colins predicament i can not say i have never been married so i can offer no advice. Hit em in the pocket would be the first point to put preasure on her. Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > the other side
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