And in what is a problem ? a lot of people want the same , what you want. And any woman wish to be one special at all planet for her man. Any woman want strong , happy family.
Are you really think , that women want be strong and independent ? simply sometimes woman must be strong. It is like protecting.
When near her aren’t strong man.
And what killing me – ( I don’t know , how another ) – this moaning. * here, all is so bad, work is boring , they give me little money, I must make this, my mother think.. *
It is simply impossible. For me such man aren’t man at all.
All can have problems, and it is normal to tell about it to close human , but when it talking for everybody…
So disgusting.
Simply man must be man , if he want have woman as woman. And when man cannot do anything, woman make everything herself.
Not because she want be strong- because there isn’t another way.
Thank you so much for your opinions. When I read your words - the words of a true Russian woman - it helps me to understand better. It is why I visit these forums, to get a better knowledge of women from your country. Your words could have been said by any of the women I have known from Russia, it is how most of you really feel.
It is very different from the way American women think, in my experience. American women ask much more out of a man than Russian women do. The culture that Americans were raised in has created this. Russian women are more practical, out of need.
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i think that you missed the point that women in general, in this country, are far to obsessed with being independant, the want men, but just when it suits them. I do not want to dominate a woman, just live with her as my equal, it is only this way that everlasting happiness can be obtained. Each of us make decisions, together, and each of us will sacrifice things, not always but some of the time, to their partners benefit.
Of course, if man not suit woman , she don’t want he. For what she need such man ;)))))))
you want not simply woman , but such woman , which you will like very much. and you don’t like every woman at the world.
Understand, that woman, as right , don’t want to be head of family. Any woman want be little girl, near with her man. She want to be spoiled, capricious sometimes.. hard to explain.
And , may be , I am not right , but when one human at family tell , that every must sacrifice something, it means, that sacrifice must another ;))))
For what sacrifice ? better live. Look for compromise.
We are different, have different characters. From this side I like idea about marry at foreign man. Such people will have the same problems, then any another young family, but all this problems will be * because we have different cultures * ;)))))))))))))))
and it will understand and man , and woman – so , marry will be lucky ;)
And , to every woman is pleasure, when her man sometimes ( but only sometimes ) make decision himself.
May I ask what is your experience with western women? how many do you know? and how many have you spoken to? I am just curious to understand your background since the conclusions that you draw are strong and apparently apply to all women who want this and all women want that. In my experience your assessments apply to women from your country not mine. Unless you have a basis for making such strong comments, I would suggest that you limit your advice to subjects pertinent to Russian women and Russian culture. Realizing these and other differences between your country and the west will help you better ajdust in your new environment.
I know enough women from another countries. I always was interested at foreign culture, and I have some good friends (girls, women) at Canada, America, Great Britain , France and Australia. And, as I know they ( some more , then 3 years ), I can tell , that we aren’t too different. And we have the same problems.
And don’t tell me , that from all your friends there isn’t even one , who happy in his marry.
And before you will make any inferences about woman, you must understand her. And woman not always want ,that man will understand her. May be , she simply wasn’t like you, ( or , may be , even your perfume. ;)))) we are so difficult sometimes ;)))))))
and , sorry , but when man talk , that all women in his country are far not good, he talk and about his mother too. And what kind of conversation can be with he ? and how woman can trust he ? when man talk badly about all women, woman understand , that with time he will talk badly and about her. And, if she is clever, she simply prefer don’t meet he any more.
At any country you can find stinker , at any country you can find angel… but at finish everybody have that , what he ( or she ) deserve.
Dealing with problems is a trait of the situation. It seems to me that Russian women deal with problems every day that would have an American couple yelling DIVORCE!
If everyone is getting what they deserve eventually, why don't you stay in your country and wait for your Russian white knight? Most of your lecture is generic and has been recycled many times around the net in various sites. I am not disputing your nuances of destiny and karma, but please don't get obsessed with psychofroydean psychedelia. In the same pattern, women are modeling their future husbands after their daddies. This connection was never proven.
What i would like to think, is proven is that there are national trends, developed from circumstances around the economy and way of life. When i lived in africa, there were many starving people, the thing that impressed me most was that allthough they were starving they came and took food 'reluctantly' from us, giving me the impression that thjey still had there dignity. In the uk fairly recently there was a petrol strike and neighbours were breaking into each others cars to get there petrol, what do you think they would do, or how far do yoiu think they would go if they were starving of food? I know that may seem to have gone off track a little, but my point is that women in this country only seem to want men, when they want them, this is not saying that every woman is like that, but i bet you that there is a much higher percentage who are like that in the uk and usa and others, than there are in places like the fsu.
Sometimes it is prudent to look, where there is more likelyhood of obtaining what you seek.
Treat your lady like the queen she is! i see this all the time,guy not opening doors for ladies,not moving the chair so your lady can sit.Damn! Doesn't matter where in the world you are,treat her like the queen she is.Listen to Jobim,you'll get it!