Having seen a profile that appeared to be a woman sincere and serious about looking for love and marriage... I had a feeling that she could be a good candidate, with real possibilities.
I went through a lot of hassle and gyrations in order to meet her today in Kyiv. This meeting broke all records for the degree of difficulty, and number of SMS (text messages) exchanged in order to set it up.
Because she made a late-hour change of plans for last night, I missed a possible opportunity to have a second meeting with a woman I was very interested in (and I now suspect that there won't be any second meeting), and spent a lonely Saturday evening.
When I finally met her close to noon, I presented some flowers, which she declined to accept saying that she doesn't like flowers. She then announced that she had only half an hour. After pretty close to 15 minutes of conversation, she abruptly departed, saying that she must go to her parents'.
I suppose that she quickly decided that I wasn't who she's looking for, and I have no problem about this. But it seems to me that she was deeply disrespectful of the time and energy I put into preparing to meet. When the situation is reversed -- I can see that the woman is not who I'm looking for -- I still make a courteous meeting, and give her the time and attention that I already planned to. It is a question of respect, and God help me, I try to be a gentleman in this life.
It was a miserable experience.
Now, I have had many first meetings, and this never happened before! So I'm glad to say that it's not typical of anything.
If I want a take-home lesson, it will be that if it's getting to hard to arrange a meeting, then it's better for me to let it go.
Hey Durak.....recently back from Odessa....kind of reminds me of a girl I met through kiev connections where she had her eye on her watch the entire time of our meeting as if patiently waiting for the whistle to blow and she was able to clock out....and then the nerve to ask me for $30 for a taxi to 'get back home'. ;-)))
By the way, looking at your avatar, I am surprised she waited so long...................
durak, sucks don't it? I am starting to think less and less of Kiev Connections. Seems to be more of a pay for minute kind of thing. But it is rather difficult in a short notice kind of meeting. It is hit or miss when having a short notice arranged meeting. Mostly miss. That is why it is important to have a good repoir with a lady before you meet. And have more than just a little knowledge and exchange of information. I think the actual chances of meeting someone for a possible long term thing is nill when just showing up and picking a photo and profile from a list.
Julian...I don't think it is kiev connections as much as any agency you show up at and pick a girl.
Besides, I do think 80% of the relationship is forged after you meet, which should bode well for meeting a girl last minute so to say, as long as the girls are sincere which is my problem when you pay $40-$150 to agency to arrange a meeting. To call a girl and arrange a meeting in a couple hours and girl has NO idea what you look like or are like...... reeks sha-shing($$$$, scam???) because of money involved. Why pay so much if it is just a date?
beemer18 -- I totally agree with you. My point is that although it is important to know someone first - there is that rare case of the WOW! factor in a first meeting - it is amazing that a good percentage of these ladies almost seem to be 'on call' for prospective dates. I have witnessed it. Methinks there is the possibility of women/girls who get a stipend from this agency to make themselves available on short notice. It is not out the realm of possibility. More likely a probablility. So the 'sha-shing' thing fits the model of what you describe. Yet I also believe there are very real women at KC. Thing is, figure it out if you have the time...
It stinks, because if your girl is on a one week or so meeting with you and hank the yank turns up at the agency and says hey i like the look of her can you arrange a meeting with her today and the agency says yes, what the hell happens next the girl says to you i can not see you tonight sorry i have to babysit my sisters kids. I have had this happen to me and it realy stinks, the idea that a girl can be picked from a list for a date on the day at short notice is no better than prostitution. The agency are at fault the girls are at fault and worse of all it is the idiots who turn up and want to meet there and then and that is total disrespect in my opinion.