I have a tough situation. I actually stumbled on this whole new world via some link I don't even remember taking me to 1 of the pay-for-EVERYTHING sites (Army of Brides) After raising my kids etc..etc.. I was looking for a quality woman to spend the rest of my life (which still has good many years, I'm not that old;) with. Read their profiles, did some background research on the regions, process in general. I was extremely fortunate to come across a woman, kindergarten teacher, that I am crazy about. 80% of me is convinced of her sincerity. We've traded all the pics. Through them I know every inch of their flat, her mother, her 8 year old son. She registered thru an agency near her home. Thru all our correspondence she has gotten to know them well & become friends w/ the interpreter. I have her phone # & have called. Talked to "mom" when she answered the 1st time. Couldn't get anything across well even w/ my basic Russian & some practice phrase. She did catch on to give phone to daughter (my interest) She became so flustered I know it was difficult for her. You both think you've done some language prep but suddenly on the spot (& it was NOT a good connection)
I can generally "read" people well enough & over a long period of correspondence I'm pretty sure I would sniff something out. There has never been any mention of $. Opposite, turns out schools were closed for a week & she had no income, was stressed out & I didn't find out about until just a few days after before they let her go back. (I started subscribing to Eng. version of Ukraine news & read the schools were closed) The letters had been just a bit shorter & not as "up".
I'm doing my best to make arrangements to fly over some time just after 1st of year & when I mentioned so she seemed to just "beam" in appreciation thru her letter.
After just getting fed up w/ that site I did some more research & found Fiance.com. Maintain a VIP membership in the hope of getting her transferred over but it's tricky. These people know who butters their bread & my letters are going thru an interpreter.
My dilemna. As savvy as I think I am....I'm still paying for every letter & somebody is getting paid. There's still that 20% in the back of my mind saying; "Sucker!!" If I'm being scammed I'll survive of course but it will sting. I'm crazy about this lady. I just rationalize it saying if nothing else it's been good therapy. I had been alone for some time but now the days seem a little brighter..... Just wish that little guy back there would quit saying; "Sucker!!!"