My name is Kate.
I was working for a lot of time as a translator in one of russian marriage ageincies. I will explain to you why your attempts never end with marriage.
First, look at the mirror. You do not have a wife in your country? Ask yourself, why is it so?? People do not differ by nations but by personal qualities.
You are 50 and you want a young super looking 18 year old model??? Are you crazy? If you have billions of dollars, you are not. What can you offer to that lady? Why you? You have to prove that you are the one for her. What do you usually do??? You correspond with hundreds, from one city, you сome and what you see? She does not want to meet you.... Why? Because you date her best friend, her another best friend, her collegue, and many others. Will an American lady date with you if you dated her friend? May be, but not at the same time.
Why do you want young girl????? Find a woman of your age. Hundreds of women over 30 are not considered to be good for you. WHY???? You write to a 18 year old, who does not know what she wants from life yet: to study, to party, to date, to have fun, or just to say to friends: I date a foreign man. She is not a person for you, just a barbie.
Look around. If you want to find a woman, you have to look closer to your age, and to be honest. You correspond with many, you chat with many, you can not stop. It is like a drug for you.
Am I right?
Hi Kate, I will speak of my own experience, i was at a site that specialises in chat, in my profile i specificly say that i am looking for a girl in my age group i am 42 i look for a woman 36 to 43. Every 30 seconds i would get 18 year old beauties sending me chat invites and letters by the hundred from women who obviously dont read my profile and look at my requirements, basically the letters are generated by agencies and are intros and sent automaticly. I found a girl in my age group and chatted with her she was 36 well educated, she liked me, i visited her twice. She was online and came across as a nice woman. You can be as critical as you like and it is all about supply and demand. Ask yourself what the hell is an girl old enough to be some guys daughter doing chatting and sending letters to some guy who stands no chance. You are right to question why do the guys do it and yes they are dirty old desperate men. To you it is your job and good luck to you. Myself i am still in touch with my girl and we are ok, i am happy with her and i am not going to be playing her off against other women, i respect her and i treat her how she would want me to treat her.
I married a girl almost 30 years younger, she is good looking, Im not, Im not rich but have a good income, I was married in my home country and it didnt work out, i didnt go looking for a wife, didnt use marriage agencies and dated for several years prior to marrying like a normal relationship.
Not wanting to be the first to flame you Katerine (as I'm sure others will), but that's a lot of broad strokes you're applying to the whole user base of this forum.
I'm 34, the youngest girl I will write to is mid/late 20's (27 is usually as young as I will go), and the only two times I've been to Ukraine was to visit a single girl. In both cases, the agency tried hard to fix me up with as many dates as possible (although in the second case this was because the woman - who was two years younger than me - pulled out without explanation). The last agency wanted me to meet lots of 21 year olds, but I refused.
I also have a pretty strict list of personality traits I look for. Pretty isn't enough for me, so it certainly isn't true that I'm after a 'barbie'. If I was, I would have dated the 21 year old in Sumy who met me once and wanted to continue seeing me.
Finally, I actually get plenty of interest from other places. I'm on several international dating sites, and get requests for correspondance from UK women.
If I may, I'll ask a question in return. If the only men who's letters you translated were 50+ men looking for 18 year olds, why were the Russian women there receiving and responding to these letters? Two sides to the coin and all that.
Finally, the number of letters I've received far outweighs the number I've sent. It's certainly not like a drug for me. This is an unfortunate necessity, and I'm only interested in finding one lady. Unfortunately, it seems I have to deal with a lot of scammers and nutters before finding a genuine lady.
Perhaps with your experience you could offer some advice with that?
No, you are wrong. At least from my perspective. I was inundated with letters from very young girls that I had no interest in at all. My main criteria was educated and adult. There are plenty of expanations from men why they have chosen to try this. No need to beat it into the ground here.
I also (as we all do) received hundreds of these letters from young girls 18 -21, gorgeous bodies in bikinis!!! I live in a coastal, tourism ton & women in bikinis are a common sight. These "girls" are 12s out of 10! (I've received home photos of my lady & believe me, there is no shortage of make up, push up bras, careful posing & final airbrush to these agency photos) You look down & their bio says they are just looking for a good ma 30-55. 'Age & appearance mean nothing to me. It is the inner-world that interests me!'
Rriiiggghhht! She gets here. You find yourself competing w/ every man in sight as she preens. She goes to the store & some buff 30 yo in a new sports car pulls up & tells her she's beautiful & she's going to turn & walk away? Don't be an idiot! I was taking the large leap of you ever getting her here. Odds are you are going to be a cheap, cynical form of easy income for her. Every letter a new dress!
What is pathetic is knowledge that the product will always be tailored to the market. No agency or girl would waste the costs of all these photo shoots of nubile young bodies in suggestive poses & carefully crafted bios if they were not successful in drawing letters & $. So what does that tell you of their perspective of the foreign man? Think about it.
I raised 2 daughters to understand that they didn't need mini-skirts & bikini tops for a man to know she was beautiful A slightly open neckline....a coy look....class is hard to define but know it when you see it.
I have been fortunate. It may still be a gamble but I am becoming secure in the sincerity of a woman I am corresponding with. She is 35, at the lower threshold of my preference (I am 51, very trim & still rock climb etc... ie...typical boomer in denial;) She has come thru & handled a life of some adversity & done so well. My 1st wife was my same age & not nearly as mature.
There is still a LONG way to go & it won't be easy & it may yet fall apart. If you came across this process & harbor some dream you can snatch some 21 yo hot body, lonely & impoverished, just waiting for you to snap your fingers placing her in your home (&bed) as wife....Just quit now & save yourself a lot of pain & disappointment!!
Well, I will try to answer to everyone.
First, I know that you get hundreds of letters of barbies. It is usually automatic presentation. it has nothing with girls interest.
Agency send all these letters. They get money when you answer, even in the lady will never write you back.
Most of the girls come to the agency as it is fun for them: they get presents, they meet men who bring them presents.
I will not speak of the side when you send them money and so on. it is only the question of your stupidity. Why do you do that??? Still, i will never change that, so i do not even want to speak of that.
Well, may be some men look for educated and adult. It is an exception but mostly men want a beauty one. I would say 95%)))))
When a new girl comes to the agency I already know whether she will get a letter or not.
My personal advice: do not look for a woman at site where you have to pay. You are smart enough to find a free site. Be sure, at the free site women are not motivated.
I know personally a lot of women who want to get married but they never get your letters. They are smart, educated and beautiful. probably not models)
I do not know what to do with that)
I can answer any question.
Actually i believe that it is possible to create such an international family, but I do not know what to start from.
hear is a start for you Kate,
I had profiles on two sites in beginning of September was writing to several women. One woman stood out from all the rest. Her reply's to me were unlike all others. At that point we were writing every day to each other. I absolutely looked forward to reading her letters when I returned home from work.
After one month I asked her if she had possibility of getting internet at home. Her reply was yes of course. She held to her word and within days we had left the agency behind. After about a week I decided that I need not look any further so I removed my profile from the sites. She said it was not obligatory, I said it is my choice and I wanted to be exclusive with her. I felt it was best to show sincerity and commitment. When I did this she smiled and reciprocated the feeling, she immediately removed her profile.
My point is if the woman is willing to meet half way in all of this and put effort into building the relationship. And give what she gets then we are well on our way to happily ever after:).
We will be meeting in Kiev on Valentines day which I thought would be extremely romantic. I even offered to purchase train ticket and she politely refused my gesture. Again compromise and meeting half way.
I truly feel I have found a gem of a woman and am very happy with the relationship thus far.
"It is an exception but mostly men want a beauty one. I would say 95%)))))"
Well of course men on here are only interested in well above average looking women. If they wanted an ugly one, even a well educated one, it would not be too hard to find at home. Just like it would not be too hard for a pretty ukraine/russian women to find a "nice" man near home - of course if they were willing to settle for someone who couldn't afford to provide them with a car or nice holidays abroad etc etc ...
The long and the short of it is, its a scam from the start and the agencies and lets face it the interpreters and a large number of the women know it. Hey Kate come to England and visit me, i hope you will not be offended when you get here if -- 1, I make you pay for an apartment at 30 dollars a day more than it should cost, 2, I make you pay for an interpreter who happens to be a good friend of mine. 3, I ask you to pay for all trips to bars and restaurants. 4,I ask you for a few hundred pounds for medecine because i am sick. 5, I show little to no interest in you and turn up late for our meetings and leave early. 6, I reveal to you that my agency have not given me any of your letters that you have paid for. 7, I strike up a deal with a local taxi driver to charge you 4 times the normal rate for all taxi fares and yes you pay. 8, I smoke like a trooper and drink like a fish even though i stated that i dont. 9, I tell you on your final day that you are wonderful, it would be a nice gesture if you come to the shops and buy me a gift or 2 or 3. And finaly, 10, You get home to feel like you have met a complete stranger and been lied to and totaly ripped off. Of coarse that feeling gets compounded when you see a letter from me thanking you for your visit and revealing that i am not interested in you. Yes thats right Kate sorry even the responsible women of an age that should know better do all this and thats right its all the fault of the poor stupid foreign guy for wanting a foreign wife. Personaly i hold the agencies responsible, they are only interested in money. If there was a law that said that these agencies had to have a minimum of 1 wedding from a couple who met through their agency per month i would say 95 percent of all agencies would be closed within 6 months. Kate spill the beans am i right ?