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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Advice Please Author Post bobcat Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/23/2003 10:20:57 PM   Hello all, I have spent the last 6 months as a member of FriendFinder.com. Around 3 months ago I met a really nice Russian girl. We have been corresponding everyday since (excluding weekends) She does not have a computer at home. Last month we started trying to communicate on the phone but at first it was very hard. She has been taking English classes every Saturday since we first meet, and things are going well as far as talking goes. I think I am starting to fall for the lady and have started making plans to visit her in Russia, but I am just so damned worried that things should not be moving this fast. I cannot think of anything she has done to make me feel nervous about this. She has given me her home and cell numbers. I know her last name her parents address and have over 100 pictures of her and her family. She has told me just about everything about herself. One thing has been bothering me. About 2 weeks ago, I asked her why she wanted to look abroad for a mate and she replied that Russian guys just are not what she is looking for, she has also told me how hard it is in Russia for her and I quote her "it is so tough to have money and not have access to things" I thing she is trying to tell me that she gets paid well but that that Moscow stores do not have much to offer. Lately she has been sending me clues that she is really interested in me. Here comes the question. Should I be worried at how fast she is moving? Being an American where romance usually takes time I am not accustom to how fast things are moving. Does anybody find it strange that she has mentioned that life is hard for her in Russia? She has not asked me for anything other then to visit her. chipscher Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 12/24/2003 4:39:17 PM   I think that things are ok. If her only request is to visit her, that is not too much to ask. By her telling you things are hard there, I think she just may be telling you how it is, not with any alterior motives. I do not think a "fly by night" romance would include all that you have given, and gotten. If she were a scammer, or something wasn't right, I think she would not have gone through the trouble to send you 100 pictures, probably not include her family, etc. In my opinion, I think you may have something wonderful. By her offering her family, I think it shows she is willing to let you into her life, more than just as a pen pal. Sometimes love happens very quickly, especially if you think you have found the right one. When you have, the traditional courtship period can go out the window. Expressing feelings is a wonderful thing, by communicating just about every day, it is like you are really in each others life every day. I would keep a slight guard up, but do not let this drive you nuts. Plan your vacation, and have fun! magnusfl Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/6/2004 10:29:54 PM   Life is not easy in Russa and a lot of the men are not to great picks eather and many drink way to much vodka and she may be thinking about here future children as russa do not have wonderful future as it going to be a hard road rebuilding the interstructure of the county and get it on a postitve economic track Ps I also let eryone know that we have a fair share of poor picks here in the USA also so it not just a russan thing but international but it sounds like you going to have a fun time. and there is defintly something about having a foregin mate that is exciting and intresting for both partys also the relationship will have to move a bit faster as the only way she can get here is with a finance visa which requires you visting and meeting Her so a hint take lots of photos together while there and if you deside to chicken out please give me here email as she sounds like a keeper chipscher Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/8/2004 5:03:19 PM   There are many ways to skin a cat, fiance visa isn't the only way, but the easiest and most desireable. Cucciolo Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/8/2004 5:13:00 PM   Hi chipster!I'm new.This is my first reply.Just one information... Is good this site? http://4russianladies1.com/ I saw beautiful women in the gold gallery of this site...but is more expasive of fiance.com. Give me some advices.Do you know it? Thank you k Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2004 3:16:18 AM   Hi, Bobcat ;) Where she live ? ;) At Moscow you can but everything. If you have a money ;))) And I was smiling at this topic a lot ;))) I was read this like * I want to go to you, because you have better shops * ;)))))))) but I think , it was simply a joke. If you really like each other , 3 month is enough to planning the meeting. Before you wasn’t see a human at real life, wasn’t look at eyes, wasn’t taught a hand – this all not that. You cannot be sure, do you want to live all your life with this human. I sure, she will be very glad to see you. don’t be worry , all will be good. Make a papers , and go to her. And life is Russia isn’t so hard. I know ;))) and life at Moscow isn’t very different from life at another country. chrish14 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2004 1:54:12 PM   i would just like to say that many people world over, ouselves included, want whatever is not usually obtainable. Yes I am sure that there are very many russian men who drink to much, but there are also enlish and american ones who will match them all down the line. Most of us look abroad because the women at home have become too independant, leaving no space for us, we want a family. The russian women and others want more affluance which they believe that they might get over here. That to some degree might be true, overall as nations we are more affluent, however there is a price to be paid for all, and that is that everythind that we might get, might not be exactly what we want anyway, leaving us back too square one. chipscher Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2004 2:57:56 PM   Cucc, I do not know of that site, I only am a member of fiance.com, and blossoms. com. Both are very similar, and reputable. Blossoms is a bit easier to use, and has a chat feature, and is aboutu 5-10 dollars cheaper, but the quality of women is about the same. Just watch out for scammers on both sites! Chrish, you are 100% right, but the cultural differences are what makes a Russian woman so desireable. Take for instance the holidays. On New Years most people here in America go out, party, get drunk, shoot off fireworks, and can't go to work the next day. From what I hear, Russian women take that time to spend with family, celebrate, and usher in the New Year as a family. Turboz Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/12/2004 11:05:53 AM   Ok you think things are moving quick? - Look at britney spears: Married and divorced with 24 hours! - THATS QUICK! You're worried about getting snagged? - Good. I've been fooled already. It'll happen to others I guararntee it. Thunderdome Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/12/2004 1:02:19 PM   Nice advice Turbo, really supportive I'd say, Bob surely can use that. Bob, what's wrong? 3 months conversation too little for you? How long do you plan to talk then if I may ask, especially when you have fallen for her (be honest here, 'starting' is bull). Or, also possible of course, you're getting cold feet maybe? She sounds fine to me, she wants something out of life that Moscow cannot give to her apparently, and she seems to like you - what more do you want? Unless you don't 'really' like her you book a visit, and before you know it another month or so will have passed before you board the plane. Just book and visit her - you can't loose anything but for your heart I suppose. You will get an immeasurably better opinion of her, and she from you, and U2 take it from there. Turboz Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/12/2004 3:18:12 PM   I try my best :-) On a more serious note I think bob is right to be cautious. Maybe I was a bit to quick to slam the foreigner's but all I see is a bunch of women that wanna eat into some westerner's wallet and live a nice life while the man has to work his backside off to keep her. What happens when he loses his job or house etc? - You think she'd hang around then? - Most of them would probably fly home instantly. Sorry I had to get that out and damn I feel good for it. Righty, back to being me again. Bob, don't worry about it. If it's moving quick then enjoy it while ya can. Don't get strung up over it or stressed because thats where it will all fall apart. Be relaxed don't take it too seriously and you'll probably get far more out of it than you hoped. (I really wish I could advise myself in those "Sticky" situations when I need it - Sadly thats my fatal flaw..) Just chill, enjoy and who knows. Could be the best thing that ever happened to ya. chipscher Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/12/2004 4:13:28 PM   or the worst, most expensive failure in your history gladiatorUK Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/12/2004 9:12:42 PM   Trying and failing is no crime chip....besides isnt that part of the learning process???Every situation is unique and the best we can do is to offer our little bits of wisdom,after that the choice is down to Bob. Make your decision Bob,but whatever that is just make sure that you feel comfortable with it!!!! chipscher Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/13/2004 12:27:33 PM   Whatever it is, at least you can stand at the water cooler knowing you did something not many in your office can claim to have done! Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Advice Please
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