i have arranged a meeting with a lady in kiev in january.i met her on russian dating site.i e mailed her first,she told me her friend was an interpreter.i called her to have a chat,she seemed very nice,she said i will book an apartment for you,meet you at the airport......when i decided to book my own apartment she changed,she wasn't as friendly,she said we cannot now meet you at the airport we can't afford the taxi, and its too difficult for us getting a bus.since its my first visit to kiev i have booked an apartment with kiev connections,the owner bret says he will meet me at the airpot.i asked the lady i'm meeting if we could have our first meeting without the interpreter,she said a very firm no,i will not meet you without the interpreter,i know you want to get rid of her !
then the interpreter has e mailed me asking me to bring her gifts from marks&spencers.i'm new to all of this,its my first time in the ukraine.i'm looking for your experiened advice on this forum.is it a likley scam,or am i being paranoid about nothing.
If you meet this woman, you will be wasting your time and money.
By the way, getting between the city and the airport by bus may be inconvenient (depending where in Kyiv one lives), but it is typically not very difficult or expensive for anyone who lives there. So in my opinion, if someone says, "it's too expensive or difficult for me to meet you at the airport," this actually means, "meeting you at the airport isn't very important to me."
I wish I had something more encouraging to write, at this moment... you have the opportunity to make a quick U-turn. It's a lot better than going farther down this dead-end street!
I suggest thinking about what this episode has to teach you, and how you might make use of what you are learning.
wg44, I'm so happy you posted this on here. I don't think you need me to add the the unanimous consensus. Instead I'll just say it's a good thing you were wary enough about this to have posted the question on here. I'd hazard that you were actually pretty suspicious in the first place - reading between the lines there. Good for you for spotting it.
If you've booked, I say go anyway. KC will look after you, and they generally vet their girls pretty well. I've weeded out the contacts I've made over the last 6 months, and one of the front runners for something long term is the first girl I ever met over there, who was a backup I met switching to KC at the last minute due to suspicions I had about another girl.
A bus from the train station to Boryspil Airport Hotel cost me $12 USD. A round trip taxi to the middle of town from Boryspil Airport Hotel cost me approximately $30 roundtrip. Furthermore, the taxi driver waited for me to shop for at least three hours.
Yes it a definate pro date gold digger scam, its ironic how so many of these girls are adept at having friends who are interpreters and can book you an apartment. The girl answered all the questions for you, one minute she can get to anywhere while you are playing by her rules and the next minute she can not when you say you will book an apartment. Taxis and buses in Ukraine are cheap. If you go to her actualy the interpreter is a good idea it is for her own peace of mind but suggest using your own interpreter and see what happens. You will be ok, just read up on pro date and gold digger scams. Trust you own judgement.Intersting comment about Marks and Spencers though !!!!!
thanks for all your help guys.i have been down this road before with a lady from sofia in bulgaria,who i met on elans's models.all very nice until you arrive there,then its no real interest in you just hit you for as much shopping as she can get.i'm looking at the 40+ age range.there has got to be a lady who wants a relationship for all the right reasons !!! the hard part is finding one who is sincere.i've been trying now for 3 months without any real luck,i'm patient i'll just keep going.
Finding an apartment and transportation is a necessaty for you. She may in fact be trying to be helpful and accommadating in offering assistance. However if you choose to make your own arrangements, she should see you as a more capable man and think nothing more of it. If anything , relieved that she does not have to deal with catering to your needs and even worry if she has done well for you. An interpreter however, is also a chaperone for her and should be her choice. If you have good relations the interpreter or even an agency will not be able to keep you from finding your own way. Remember one thing, if she refers to that person as an interpeter, it means that it is a business relation, at least to you, regardless if it is also her friend. It is both reasonable and ethical for you to bare the expense in compensation for that persons time and efforts. It is more than just the time that person spends with you and your lady. The expertise and ability is something learned over time, much longer than your seeking a lady from another culture and deserves return on that investment of time. I am responding with experience of situations just as yours being both scams and also a woman being very gracious.
Hi all, well, I'm new here and don't know anything about the FSU, but a woman is a woman, no matter where she comes from or what colour her skin is. I must say, I strongly agree with the majority here: if that ain't a scam, nothing is. The interpreter asking for presents? Right. If nothing else, it's bloody rude.
@ dansing: If you feel okay with this situation .... I own a nice, clean and profitable bridge in NYC which I want to sell. Promise I'd make you a buddy-price. :D