I am using skype and it is cheap and works well computer to phone from the ukraine. Just need headphones and mic. I could also use my phone with this using wifi or internet via phone.
I just completed a call using skype. As long as both parties are logged onto internet and have skype down loaded on the computer with a user account, it is totally free. I noticed on last visit to Russian, we used an internet cafe in a small town and everyone of the computers had skype on it.
As long as the person has a skype account you can talk to them, text or video - and it is completely free. You can also set up account to send SMS to cell phones or call any phone. It is cheap. An SMS to anywhere in the world is less than a dime.
This is an important step for you two. Keep up the communication and keep asking questions of each other. Start to describe your daily life and what life will be like for her when she comes. Take photos of your town, everything, where you shop, the bank, the gas station, the park, etc.
Take photos of your house, every room, etc. Tell her how she will be able to communicate back to her relatives and friends. Talk about detailed money matters, show her your monthly income and expenses; everything should be an open book.
Funny you should post that. I just spent the last hour closing my profile's on all the sites (seriously didn't realise how many I'd accrued). Some of them don't want to let go without a fight, but many clicks later, and we're done :)
I actually sent a few video's over prior to meeting: me at work, a 'visit England' promo video by the tourist board, and a short movie about my home city. I'll be sending her lots of other stuff, and we're going to be skyping each other, but also throwing a few friends and family members in front of the cameras.
Good advice baron - some stuff I didn't think of. Glad there's actually a few helpful ppl with knowledge around here.
If you are serious about one woman and have found that person then why would you need to keep a profile active on a dating website?
And if this person is leaving her nice life to a totally different culture why wouldn't you want to show them everything about where she will live and how she will live prior to her coming so that there is less stress on her?
Some of the folks here just dont get it; or maybe they are in the closet themselves and have no clue???!!!
I do know that I did all these things and when Alla arrived at her new home, she knew where everything was and when we first drove around town and went to shops (and the gas station) she had deja vu all over again.
Some of you just don't get it. Maybe that's why you are here all the time and I am with my young blond Russian MOB! (Haven't tried in the closet yet!)
I'd say almost everyone here gets and agrees with you - you don't have to explain yourself. Unfortunately, trying to talk sense into some people is like trying to pile air into a corner.
I've decided not to send her anything about my current house as I've told her I'm selling it. Too many bad memories from the past. Also, if all goes well, it'll be too small for me, her and two boys. Obviously we're a long way from moving her over, but I decided long ago that I didn't want to move a new wife into the 'old' marital house. I figure if this is going to be her home, she should choose it with me.
Although I guess someone's about to tell me that's stupid, too.
It is unfortunate that from my experience with most of the men (reading posts)on this forum that there are actually a few who seem to be sincere in their desire to meet someone for a life long commitment.
Baron states some things that are true from my actual experience.
Just think about it for a minute. If you meet someone down the road in your area, they already know everything about your life except how screwed up your are. Or not. To be able to share your existence and life with someone who has no idea what it is like takes some effort. To think I have spent the past 12 months sharing and explaining the differences in our cultures. Baron makes a lot of sense. Show her everything, do not hide. She is going to be your partner for life -- she should know everything! Isn't that what people do who have lived together for years, married or not ? Why would anyone need to hide? I admit that when I was tasked with divulging my economic status for the visa interview I was taken aback. But by then it actually didn't matter. Because she was unaware of my financial situation then suddenly discovers that we are very cool...
Now it is time to be completely true and open... yes. I was never not this. But I never shared an income, or social status. Just wanted an honest woman. I down played economic status. It did not matter.
Muzzy, Just be who you are. And be sure to let her in. The more she knows ahead of time, the less suspicious she will be later. Think about it...
Yes very few. Most are just good for nothings but I guess they need a home too.
There are certain parts about each of our past lives that we do not talk about, like exes, etc. We joke over those but yes if you truly are serious about being serious and want a true soulful relationship, then openness and honesty are a requisite.
Anything and everything you can to do to ease her mind and acknowledge to her that you are thinking of everything will good far in ensuring your relationship is off to a flying start.
Good luck to you both from my happy family to you and your future families.
From Baron: "This is an important step for you two. Keep up the communication and keep asking questions of each other. Start to describe your daily life and what life will be like for her when she comes. Take photos of your town, everything, where you shop, the bank, the gas station, the park, etc.
Take photos of your house, every room, etc. Tell her how she will be able to communicate back to her relatives and friends. Talk about detailed money matters, show her your monthly income and expenses; everything should be an open book."
I did not receive such advise. Yet it is exactly what I did! Except my exact income. But she knew I was in the 90th percentile of income. And we shared of life that was an incredible exchange of information.
Do not think of it as selling yourself or purchasing a new car... Think of it as spending time and being with your very best friend!!!! Your partner!!!!! The person who was with you as the doctors were deciding what to do with your life who would step in and know the answer. That is the person you need.
baron why the hell would she want a picture of the gas station
wouldnt he be telling her things about life evern before meeting her
is the shop different to the fsu shop
why the hell is removing your profile an important step
some women see taking there profiles down as a important first step when they get in to a relationship .
other women use the balcony as there first step to get out off a relationship .