Started this subject on carrig's thread, so I thought I would continue with proper subject line.
Couple months ago, I was asked for a favor from M girl I had met a couple times before. She asked if I would send her an invitation letter, since we were friends and knew each other fairly well. We kept in contact off and on for last couple years and I knew she wanted to visit US, though she had been denied visas several times already. She had a new plan, which I don't know fully, and I figured the letter was in vain...so I sent it to her. Lo and behold, she gota visa approved, a 10 year visa multiple entry, and I was shocked since she is in her 20's. I told her she can stay with me, since it would give us a chance to better know each other. At her recent arrival in US, I was again shocked for her to get a stamp on her passport for 6 MONTHS...6 month visa!!!! Can't beat that considering the time and money spent on a K-1.
It only took this girl less than a week to find all russian sites and start meeting people from FSU countries...russian is the term used, living in LA area. As I said before, I couldn't read a word of russian using latin alphabet. To top things off, a russian girl came to visit a friend of mine...I introduced the two and I was the forgotton man, along with my friend. This russian thing...boy they do stick together...they all seem to know each other. These girls met some russian guys on sites and next thing you know it was everynight going out...as long as I had work to do. Not long after I had 2 girls
staying with me.....not what I planned but coming home in afternoon and finding 2 beauties in string swim wear made me get done sooner!!!!!
Not sure exactly where things are going but it been quite a ride. There are so many little quirks in living in a different culture but I was amazed at how quickly M girl adapted. I do think a lot has to do with her wanting to be in US. One thing that stands out is wanting to smell everything before she tastes it. I also saw this in a russian lady at a meat market, she told me you can tell if it tastes good based on smell.
More as things develop.....or decline
Beemer, as you well know but I will repeat it so the other less knowledgeable members that might read this post will know...
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"How old are you? If more than 35, then what the heck are you doing? Not very serious about being serious maybe."
WTF...who ever brought up 'serious'..read again...we are friends. Can't get to know someone in a months time total, can you? I just want to get to know her better. I do believe if it is right girl,
time will tell. I am not one to write for couple months, phone calls and skype then meet a girl one time then file for K-1...and you talk of serious...how about desperate or lonely? Each man has his own time clock and if things go wrong(or right) he can only blame(commend) himself.
"Where do you expect them to go? Are you paying for them?
I have no idea Baron...one day at a time. Paying what for them? Room and board? Groceries? I only go out with M girl, dinners or sightseeing or at home with meals, sunbathing....nice of you to be interetsed in my activities Baron...by the way hope things are well with your gf.
Back to story line....just sent off girls to Redondo Beach to house sit. I am amazed at the abilities for these girls to meet people from fsu countries and there is a large russian population here. Guys are coming from 40 miles away to show these girls LA area. Every weekend is a trip out of town, Vegas, Palm Springs and San Diego. So now I have quiet house and friends not asking to stop over now!!! As I said before, I take one day at a time...maybe girls will come back maybe not, it is their decision. I have spoke many times with M girl as to what she wants and what I want. Just found out she has ability to stay 1 year with tourist visa, yet cannot get married during that time. I also just found out, we/she can take a trip to Mexico....guess rules are changing in many different countries.
Well FSUlover...looked at passport....visa R type B1 class B2, looks to me to be tourist visa.
Not sure why you felt it was J1 visa, which is for cultural exchange of some sort.
If this has to do with trip to mexico, new rules as of may 1 2010, anyone here on tourist visa can visit mexico,canada or carribean islands for 30 days(during visa time).
Been busy showing the M girl the scenic sights of LA.
A weekend trip to Vegas was great......I tell you, an FSU girl can really catch eyes with the way they dress. M girl had a low cut dress( she is very developed) that 'exposed her' to many eyes and if you have been to Wynn the Tryst and XS nightclubs are hard to get in...well this girl got the attention of the bouncers and had us in within minutes to the dismay of the long line of people waiting to enter. I bought the drinks($$$) and she got us into the clubs...what a team........
Took a short vacation to Los Cabos and she had no problems getting out of or back into US with her tourist visa. For those of you who have been to Cabo, it was party central and we had a blast( group of 10). I'll tell you, in a months time here, I've got to know M girl more than the 2 1/2 years time we spent over letters, phone, YM or skype. You see the ups and the downs in person and we don't have '90 days' to decide anything. In total, she will likely have up to year to decide what she wants to do, whether to get married(not necessarily me) or go back home. I am going to find out how she got her visa(what was told/said), it is possibly an alternative to K-1 visa which is drawn out, time consuming and can be expensive. I am not the type to hurry into a marriage, within 6-8 months, the more one on one time is best, in fact, my ex and I dated over a year,saw her almost daily and after we got married I found out things I never knew.
So me and the 'twinkie' are having some nice times....
I don't mean to burst your bubble but there's some disturbing aspects of your comments that I feel you ought to know and want to study up on so you don't do something you'll regret...
I'll tell you, in a months time here, I've got to know M girl more than the 2 1/2 years time we spent over letters, phone, YM or skype. You see the ups and the downs in person and we don't have '90 days' to decide anything.
"The K-1 Visa and the getting married within 90 days is NOT a get to know you visa. The intention is that you two HAVE ALREADY done what you need to do to become engaged to be married and want and are ready to live together as man and wife. So... yes one needs to make multiple trips and take years to get to know each other, that IS the intention of the K-1."
In total, she will likely have up to year to decide what she wants to do, whether to get married(not necessarily me) or go back home. I am going to find out how she got her visa(what was told/said),
"Well, unless she's attending a university or is a high power Phd something, she's here on a Tourist Visa. The type of visa is really immaterial."
it is possibly an alternative to K-1 visa which is drawn out, time consuming and can be expensive. I am not the type to hurry into a marriage, within 6-8 months,
Be very careful and do your homework on this. Yes someone who comes here on a Tourist Visa (for example and not exclusive to just this type) can fall in love while here and get married and then apply for adjustment of status and their Green Card. Here's the catch. There will be an interview. During this it may come up on how you two met and came to decide to get married. If it comes out that you knew each other before the trip here, then USCIS may decide that there was some intention all along to get married and that is Visa Fraud and subject to deportation and a lifetime ban. Be very careful. If you decide to give a different answer than the truth or withhold information when asked, that is misrepresentation and subject to the same deportation and ban.
Now if you two never ever knew each other before her visit and then you met and married, etc, then that is acceptable and many couples adjust status no problem, but the proof is on you to ensure and prove that there was never any intention, even a thought, if you did know each other prior. Your spoken word may not be enough for USCIS.
My suggestion would be if you two did decide to want to be married, then marry here but she goes right back and you start the CR-1 Visa process or don't get married, she goes back and you do the K-1.
There is no easy way to work around the immigration system. Some may be lucky with what you are mentioning but I can show you many cases where they were not lucky. Be careful.
Thanks for your thoughts baron...I just read your post today.
The moldovian girl is going back home soon, she misses her son and family, I think, I'm just wondering if she can get back into USA in a few months time. I convinced her to not get fake marriage here. I don't know how/where but she met another girl from moldova that has been here a couple years....that is good for her. I do think that it takes a certain type of FSU girl to easily adapt to US living.....some will take time while others will never. The russian girls I see dressed like any other american girl shows how easily they fit in and since their a novelty, they have their pick of guys who will smarm over them.....seen it with my eyes.
As you can tell, I've not been around for a while, the M girl never left USA, she did apply for and got an extension. Spent lots of time recently together as I had planned months ago. I promised her I would not spend time here, she thinks it is waste of time with all the idiots running loose.....and I WOULD NOT allow her to respond either( would not have been pretty).
Not to get into specifics but she has finally went back home. We both know it will not work for us, as I know what she is looking for has changed since she has been here and she does what to eventually live in USA. In the end, I wished her my best....still felt bad as she was in tears but
after a nice hug and the promise if I was in moldova again I would visit her or if she was in USA she would visit me....she smiled and walked away.
Life goes on...............
It's nice to part as friends, that is the way I parted with the Russian woman I married. Then two months later she emailed me with terrible stories how she needed a lot of money and wanted me to send it to her... I asked her what happened to the $6,000 (years salary) I gave you to start your life again in Russia? She could not explain where it all went only to say that it was all gone. To make a long story short...I refrused, she became angry and I have not heard from her again. I hope your circumstances are different.