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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > What if she’s younger? Author Post Thunderdome Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/31/2004 3:53:38 PM   You’re past 40, a long time not a boy anymore, and you communicate with a woman. She’s admittedly quite a bit younger than you, but her age suits you for reasons valid to you, one of which is she simply must be mature. When you indicate you will visit she suddenly shies away, telling you she is younger than what she told you, relationally a lot younger. This puts her in an age-bracket you’re first of all not looking for, but also making her level of mature-ness probably insufficient. Photos were never exchanged for valid reasons. You do like her however, but have always felt there’s some mismatch between her youthful writing and her age. What would you do? dma Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/31/2004 3:59:04 PM   she lied about something quite important and had her reasons/motive. I'd move on. crashnsplash Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/31/2004 8:18:32 PM   probably move on, if she lies about her age who knows what else she might be hiding Thunderdome Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/1/2004 4:28:58 AM   I'll respond to all but will do later, would like to hear more opinions first...... chrish14 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/1/2004 12:53:17 PM   Depends on her exact age, and whether you can live with it, and her. things that i did 20 years ago, i still like doing them, just not as often, whereas she will still want to do them, like partying every night, if you can't keep up it WILL fall apart. Also i agree with the others, if she lies once what else will she lie about. RUN. gladiatorUK Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/2/2004 5:26:42 AM   I guess the feeling of a mismatch would be most disturbing here Thunder...after all it's a long way to go to find out you made a mistake.I personally always tried to ask questions when doubts arose......usually lots of em!! Then it's just a matter of going with the gut feeling or not.......worked for me eventually!! Thunderdome Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/2/2004 4:01:07 PM   dma, she lied about her age because I told her, right in the beginning, that I felt she was too young (her age unknown) and I’d move on. Her stating her older (lied) age kept it going, also because as said I like her, for reasons she’s truly exceptional. crash, good point, and I don't know. However she appears fairly honest and exceptionally open, forward and emancipated even, but, although I cannot really prove anything wrong, some really very small details are wrong sometimes. These all point to some slight inconsistencies regarding her person as such. Oh, no, zero language-barrier. chrish, I’m still doing things I did then, some of them even more often ;-) Her age now classifies her more as a girl, not a woman, however a genuine special one at that. Exact age – ever met a girl of 30? gladiator, no mistakes made really, felt some question-marks all the time. You’re dead-right about the gutfeel, no better warning system, but here I’ve also been wrong with on occasion – at least I think so. However she did make some mistakes, and being curious she lied. Nothing wrong with really, but it hangs the pictures a bit different when you find out. Still pretty one’s though ;-) But it seems you guys are unanimous in your verdict. Moving & Running are suggested – are you all sportsfreaks ? ;-)) Did so months before she owed up. jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/2/2004 4:13:34 PM   While it certainly does not justify lying in general - I've had it happen even with girls I have met here in the states. Usually it has to do with weight however. I am quite fit and for the girl to be thin and athletic is quite important for me. When I was dating American girls who responded to my Personals Ads, on first meeting (generally after numerous phone calls) I would often discover that they were considerably heavier than they had claimed. I asked a couple "Did you think I wouldn't notice?" (They had claimed to be perhaps 130 pounds and were really at least 180). The response I usually got was "I didn't think you would even call me back if you knew how heavy I was. I figured that if we talked a while you would get to know me and like me and I'd have a chance." Perhaps that is the same logic your Russian girl is using. By the way - I should tell you - I'm 46. The Moldovan girls I refered to earlier are both 23. I met them in person in Odessa (at a "social") and they certainly have no problem with the age difference. dma Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/2/2004 4:14:51 PM   Definitely run. btw: what's her ID again ? lol ;-) I spent 4 happy years with a young woman 12 years younger than me and the only problem we had was her mother (battle axe). I am currently chatting to one 15 years younger and dealing with whether age would be a problem for those around us. The only problem I see is the relative difference in experiences and perhaps knowledge one generally being more naive or immature than the other. I'll let you figure out which one that is. :) dma Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/2/2004 4:20:55 PM   > jetmba: "Did you think I wouldn't notice?" lol. My ex first told me on the phone before meeting her (by which time you're emotionally involved) that she was of 'average' build for a woman her age (35) but did have '2 children' and 'life experiences'. In the background I recall her eldest son saying that she 'had a bum the size of a bus'. Whilst it was not the size of a bus, she was definitely not "average" and needed to lose a few pounds and still does although heavily pregnant doesn't help matters. I guess no-one likes to highlight things that they consider could be better or put off a potential partner. jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/2/2004 4:35:26 PM   I find that with American girls "average" body type means "I'm huge but I justify it because I also have issues (like depression, bipolar disorder, a bad divorce or many (many) children)." Thunderdome Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/3/2004 1:18:47 AM   dma, no ID, no profile, not Russia. Oh, and she's not looking for someone, same like you and me ;-)) Probably a disgrace for a pretty girl to admit this. "whether age would be a problem for those around us" So, you are going to take decisions dependant on other's opinions??????? Jet, 23? You're serious? Not me, that's a kid. Hey, oodles of fun, clothed and especially without, but eh, what do you talk about? ;-))) dma Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/3/2004 2:18:12 AM   > So, you are going to take decisions dependant on other's opinions??????? It'll defintely be considered as all other things should be. I had a right stinker of a potential mother in law that pretended to like me, and why shouldn't she?, but underneath really didn't want her daughter going out with someone 12 years older, made obvious by her occasional snide remarks. She wanted a good catholic boy of a similar age. I don't a hoot for religion when science tells us otherwise. dma Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/3/2004 2:20:25 AM   insert the word "give" after don't in the last sentence. [need an edit feature] jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/3/2004 9:18:00 AM   Actually, Thunder, she has had more life experience than I have. Oh, I'm educated alright. I've got degrees coming out the... navel in everything from Psychology to Economics. I'm an MBA and a member of Mensa. But I was born, raised and have lived my whole life in an area with a diameter of approximately 100 miles. In addition to seeing things that I have only pondered - she is extremely bright. Though not tradtionally educated, she (actually as does both the other girl refered to as well) speaks nearly perfect English, in addition to Russian and Moldovan (a form of Romanian) and she processes information very quickly. Trust me: in addtion to having a perfect body, conversation with her is never anything less than fascinating. And she is much more intellectually mature than any 23 year old American woman I have ever known. jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/3/2004 9:21:26 AM   A text editor would be nice. There is a "both" in parentheses above that should not be there. Will have to check such things better before hitting "Send Reply" in the future. wtrav02 Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/7/2004 6:12:43 PM   Th, my own experience being married five months with a girl 16 years younger than has been better than ever dreamt. Age alone should not be the criteria in one's judgement. My wife of 20 years is definitely more mature than older American women. Furthermore, she has a gift to listen and observe and as a result learns and adapts very quickly. The question is how adaptable and mature minded is your female friend and how much she loves you not how old she is. Also, language skill, patience, and interest to learn and adapt are very key in such a relationship. Good luck! jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/9/2004 4:21:03 AM   Thanks wtrav. I am hoping that this is the year. As i mention in another thread - I will be making a trip to Moldova this Spring with the intention of bringing one of the two back on a K-1 Visa. I have decided that I cannot make a decsion based entirely on telephone converstions and a meeting away from home for both the women involved here and myself. If it all falls apart - which is a situation that often happens ANYTIME a guy is trying to decide between two women who know each other. I will visit Ukraine in the late summer and look again. TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/13/2004 8:30:53 PM   If I were in your shoes Thunder i would have cut and run too, one lie is one lie too many, at this stage of a realtionship partcularly !!! If you can trust her now, would you ever be able to, and if she gets away with one lie whats the harm she thinks about doing it again ? 100% in your favour on this one mate. TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 2/13/2004 8:33:21 PM   correction "if you cant trust hernow" that should have read !! Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > What if she’s younger?
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