How familiar a story is this for other guys out there?
Having just come out of a relationship with a divorcee I'm twice shy about jumping on the first one that presents herself.
What's wrong with starting the relationship with a bang?
Put it this way Dma, what can you loose?
Dunno, maybe I've always been gullible in this respect ;-))
if they start with a bang, they usually end with a BANG!
I'm wary of divorcees who claim that it was the man's fault. It takes two to tango as they say. My ex was married twice and blamed both of them for bad behaviour. Lined up as victim/husband #3, it didn't take long for me to see who was really at fault.
The woman in this thread is equally as demanding with no tolerance for writing any letters or explaining her history, something that I have no time for. I'm not going to jump on a plane because I'm told to but because I should want to and they should want me not just anyone. I don't think with my pants but with my head ;-)
On the other hand.... even though I wrote what I wrote above... just a few words in favor of a "go for broke" strategy.
A lot of guys fantasize about meeting some beautiful young wonderful foreign (Russian) woman. It keeps them going like any other fantasy in a dreary life. They buy address, and get expensive penpals. Because though they dream - they never have the guts to move on their dreams. Russian women know this. (I've had a few mention it to me.) Either you, or they, are paying translators fees and trying to sound intresting or at least original in a foreign language. Unless you are a wonderful writer it can wear, if nothing comes about from it. For a lot of us writing isn't our greatest skill anyway. I guess I'm not really surprised that a Russian woman would say that. It cuts through the would-be penpals who only dream pretty quickly. and she dreams of finding someone, with bold confidence now, rather than after writing countless letters.