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brian131

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	Send: 7/19/2011 1:23:26 AM

I have an unusual situation and so I'm looking for something unusual to fill it. You guys have the expertise needed, although my situation is a little different. I'm a single guy (40) working as a civilian contractor in Afghanistan. There is not much opportunity for a girlfriend here. I get leave every three months and hate to travel alone. While I'm not rich, I make good money that I can't spend on anything so I take nice vacations. I had already planned to go to Kiev on my next leave and I decided that I should try to find a girlfriend that I could fly out to meet me for my vacations. I'm not trying to take advantage of anyone...I've been to Eastern Europe, these girls are not naive. But, I also know there are plenty of American girls who would totally fall for a guy who wanted to whisk her off to exotic places and treat her like the most special woman in the world. Every woman in every country has a Cinderella fantasy and I'd love to have a sweetie to travel with. I'm not looking to get married. I'd love to, but a relationship built around romantic vacations would probably fall apart very quickly in the real world. When I leave this place the cool vacations end and my salary goes back to normal. I intend to be upfront with her about that. Just to be clear, I'm trying to find someone that I actually want to date, not just some hot chick to have sex with. So...any advice on how to find her? Regular FSU dating sites for regular FSU folks, or the more 'matrimonial' sites? I have been looking at the more standard dating sites, but I'm thinking that the matrimonial ones might work, too. Just like most Western men never fly out to meet the girls, I imagine many of the girls never become willing to leave their home and their families. This may be the perfect kind of girl for me. She's got the fantasy, but doesn't want the reality. What age range to look for is an interesting question, too. I graduated high school the same year the Iron Curtain crumbled. I may have more in common with someone 25 than I do with someone my age who was educated entirely under communist rule. Anyway, any sage-like advice you have would be appreciated. Thanks guys! Brian

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	Send: 7/20/2011 6:25:42 AM

Try this site. Here you can find a few girls looking for travel companions ... and maybe more. But they expect the man to pay. Use google translate and check it out: http://travel.mail.ru/?mod=companions

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	Send: 7/20/2011 3:50:05 PM

I have American friend who is unemployed for over one year. Every day he is depressed, more depressed and dying slowly. He is not the same man who is good friend. I try to help him but fatal flaw because he is not Korean or Chinese or Mexican and he cannot fit into network. Please tell us, Sir Brian, what path was taken to Afghanistan for you.

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	Send: 7/20/2011 7:34:56 PM

Hi Brian you can try a site called onona dot ua they will have information in there profile if they want travel companion.

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	Send: 7/21/2011 11:56:23 AM

Brian , just post just about anywhere. There are plenty of young women that would like the opportunity to travel. Just understand, they are not American women with good jobs, money or a rich daddy. They cannot afford to go "Dutch". For that economic reason, your destinations will be limited. It can however be a great time and great places to visit.

brian131

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	Send: 7/22/2011 2:39:51 AM

Thanks Rodan! So, on dating sites I find two types and I don't want either: 1) Looking for a sponsor 2) Looking for marriage I need 'casual dating.' I intend to pay for their travel. I'm looking at Mamba, which is the same database as onona. I think the problem really is that I intend to pay for their travel. I can certainly find some hotties who would jump for that in any country. I'm worried about the 'generosity' attracting the wrong kind of girl and making the right kind feel like they are being bought. I put generosity in quotes because I did the math...the extra expense of flying a girlfriend out is very small compared to the the reward and especially if compared to the price of the trip as a whole...unless I get the wrong kind of girl and now my trip is held hostage by someone who's mood depends on how long it's been since I took her shopping. I'm just looking for a nice girl willing to date a man that can't offer her anything except a Cinderella fantasy every three months. At the same time, I want to make sure she doesn't get hurt in the process.

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	Send: 7/24/2011 8:25:19 AM

Brian, Your idea sounds cool. But your approach to it needs some tweeking. Overall there are plenty of good time girls to go around. Be more stealthy on how you present it. For instance, do not advertise marriage. And do not offer "a travel companion" to have fun with. Just say you want to date someone. They will find you! And don't offer a vacation trip upfront. If all you want is sex tourism then act stupid about it. Eventually a lady will sniff you out and offer to 'meet' you in some destination. Or she may suggest a get away. Be coy and let it happen. Then lay it on the line. These women are not stupid nor are they fools. They know what they want and they know what they can get, and how to get it! I'd say the ball is in your court. Just be wary and make sure you are in nuetral territory. Nothing can beat an "understanding" relationship between two adults who want nothing more than that. If that's your choice I can't criticize you. I've done it before myself - 20 years ago. I think people refer to it as a f&*k buddy, or "friends with benefits." And you are going high end on it. But in this case it would not necessarily be a "friend." Why not just go to Kiev and prowl around? Eventually - sooner than later - you will meet several ladies who are out for a good time and would be open to the idea of a vacation together. I have no doubt about it. Good luck. Just be advised that HIV is no stranger to Ukraine. Just stay away from the innocents who are really looking for a husband!

brian131

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	Send: 7/24/2011 2:58:31 PM

Thanks, man! First off...definitely no innocents...I may be lonely but I refuse to mislead someone. I've been on the receiving end of that. That sounds about my plan...although I really think of it as more of a girlfriend then "friends with benefits." The only thing that makes it different than just an ordinary GF is that I'm not available most of the time. Long distance relationships happen all of the time, and many of them see each other much less frequently than once every three months. The truth is, that I'm just a regular guy that would like a relationship, but my crappy circumstances make it difficult. I can't get a GF here because there really aren't many available women and none that interest me. I booked my flight to Kiev before I even thought of trying to find a GF there...I was going just to check it out. Wish I had thought of this a month ago when I was in Germany, Czech Republic and Romania for 3 weeks. I had plenty of time then and Romanian and German are much easier languages than Ukrainian! You're right, gotta be sly about it and not mention anything about vacations up front. Absolutely...but there is a huge problem inherent in that. At some point I'm trying to establish a relationship with someone who thinks I'm gone forever in a few days unless a let my secret out. I could just say that I can come see her every three months, but she won't believe that I would come to Ukraine every break when I have the chance to explore the entire world...I wouldn't and it should be obvious to her if she knows me at all. I think I'm just talking because I'm frustrated. This should be very easy...I'm not the best looking guy, but I make up for it in personality. If I was back in the states I could get a date. I'm also good relationship material and until I quit this job and turn into a pumpkin, I get to be (sort of) rich every three months. Who knows, maybe I should just see if I can find a 'sponserette' who's happy with awesome trips and not going to emotionally blackmail me to take her shopping. That would solve the second major hurdle here...availability. No one with a job is going to be able to take off for three weeks at a time twice a year and 4 or 5 days on two other occasions. Yuck...frustrated as hell.

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