I joined that site months before i stumbled across this forum or even bothered looking into the site, the history, the "word on the street" and woeful reputation.
Obviously within a few days it was clear that a shocking % of the girls were frauds etc.
I'll take it a step further. I was chatting with one girl (no camera) and it was clear she was not the person chatting me. So I led on that i knew she used a translator. Eventually, the translator and I really started talking. And after a week, the translator was sending me pics of HER lol. She gave me her full name and i contacted her off the site. She told me "many girls on here are like the girl i work for: they come in and smile while i write once a week, then i continue chatting and writing letters to men for her even though she's nowhere to be found and is off living her life."
She also told me many profiles are created and while the woman do exist, men are usually writing for them if you are lucky, if not, it's just translators writing for at times twenty different girls. She said this is true for most sites in Ukraine. As she put it "it's a sex industry" and places like Odessa are swamps in this regard.
Anyway, this all leads to my story, which is great in many ways. So one girl and i were chatting on the site for a long time (3 months). Not the translator, some other girl. Eventually she said to talk off site i needed to do an intimacy request. I really liked her and didn't mind plunging hundreds (few gs actually) into buying credits, etc. We never wrote letters, always in chat. I told her letters are 10 credits and a waste. She said "i agree".
So eventually I figured out a way to see if she was really interested, or at any rate, if she showed any willingness to get off this site. In short, i gave her some info about myself and sure enough, 10 minutes later, she had sent me an email to my real life email address. I was shocked. Mainly because I had done the same with a few other gals and they never used this information.
What's happened since then? Well, skyping for hours on end, calling each other, texting, the whole 9. Once when she said she couldn't text me because she didn't have money on her phone, i offered to help her. She said "no way, please never think i would accept this, i have a family and they give me all the money i need."
She seems to come from relative wealth. She's a college student and has her own apartment and car, for example. She shops online and buys rather expensive things, which she shows me on skype. Anyway, it's really nice and certainly i can say i feel love for her. She as well.
So now we're at the point where we both want to meet, desperately so. I'm heading over. Known her for a solid 8 months now. I found a top hotel in a major city (few hours drive for her) and I said "should we get two rooms, i have no problem with this, if it makes u more comfortable" and she said "absolutely not, no need, i want to be with you and i have no problems. If you get 2 rooms, u will waste your cash because I will be staying in your room!"
Also when I told her I could pay for a ticket (train or bus) to get to the city, she said "please, there's no need."
So that's it, basically. I asked her if she gets paid from hrb and she denies it vehemently. Personally, I think she does and it earns her cash ... honestly, not a big deal. When I was in college if I could get paid to log on a site --- from her house, she's never once stepped foot in an agency ---- i would have done it in a heartbeat.
As for the site itself, look, it's quite clear how it operates. But that's not to say there are not some genuine girls on there. If you are interested in the 20-year-old supermodels from Odessa with perfect pics and actually they all have same pixelation and same photographers shooting them, you are kidding yourself.
That's my deal, thought i would share it. I'm under no illusions: that i end up marrying this girl is still a long way from happening. But I am happy to know her, feel like love's a possibility, and really look forward to meeting her for the weekend. Also I should say we have a 12 year age gap and I'm in my late 30s. She also said for first visit she wants it in her country, and after that, she would fly anywhere to meet me, whether in a european country for the weekend, some resort in mexico, you name it.
Godspeed, gentlemen. It's war zone out there and I can see why so many men get taken down. If you have money and a big heart (and ultimately are lonely) you are going to be taken for a painful and expensive ride if you meet the wrong kind of girls.
Quite the story there...but until you actually meet....no one knows what will happen. If she shows up, you will quickly learn how serious this girl is. It could be a 'short' paid for vacation for her or hopefully for you the start of a wonderful relationship.
I doubt she comes from family of wealth...and as a student probably earns her money from HRB. She should thank you for the 'few gs' you have already spent. I question getting a top hotel, with an apt you will have much more privacy.
Good luck anyway!!
Thanks Beem, appreciate the good luck. And you're right about meeting, I know this. Works both ways. I could very well meet her and lose all interest. Let me clarify, we haven't been on that site in 5 months and I cancelled my membership long ago. But i never lose that small voice in the back of mind that this could all be a hoax. In fact, i think about it often ... in case it goes tits up, i want to be prepared for the worst.
.....she initially wanted me to go to her city and stay at her flat and then be able meet her parents at their place one night for dinner .. her city is a few hours drive from kiev .. but i thought it's not a place i'm rushing to visit and too much hassle as I'm flying from the states... not to mention, i don't want to meet parents when i've not even met the girl herself. So the hotel was my idea entirely.....it's a chain hotel in kiev and I got a crazy deal on a suite no less, because i'm a frequent client in other countries.
On the relative wealth, bad word choice --- i meant she's not poor and struggling. New ipads, powerbooks, lives on her own in a nice flat etc .. and she has sent me some expensive things to the states. But u r right, all those hours months ago on the site was her present enough and she should probably thank me!