So I am a 26 year old male married to 25 year old russian girl... we have been married for almost 3 years now and she has been here for about 6 years back and forth... We have recently been talking about having kids and where we will raise them. We dont wanna have kids anytime soon, but its a big deal... I dont wanna live or raise kids in russia but she knows that she does... She has a place where we could live in moscow for very cheap. She thinks as me being an american chef i could be very successful... however I dont wanna raise a family there because I will miss friends and family... I know she has given up a lot to be here and I owe her the same respect, but i dont want to raise a family away from my family... Really I m scared and dont know what to do... so many thoughts and worries... please some advice someone
Having stayed for 6 years in a foreign country she hasn't got used to it enough to let her children grow up in this country. At least she made some efforts, why don't you try to do the same, just try it for a year and after that you will have the possibilities to compare. Who knows, you might like it.
hi ya Jwild,,, that is a bit of a shot in the backside.
my thinking is similar to yours, why the hell would i want to live over there.
really you should of had this sorted before marriage, but things do iron out the wrong way sometimes.
sadly it seems your girl dose not like your world, or is it she misses family.
one thing about women, their child ideas are usually already made up many years before it happens.
with this you will need to be realistic, are you capable or not.
you need to think whats healthy for you, and also whats healthy for your wife.
why i say this,, "the future" an unhappy parent is a disaster to any family foundation.
you and your wife will have to talk this out, soundly and be sure what is said is solid.
so be sure of what you want, where you stand with this, what you can do to stay happy, to function as a happy pair.
yeah the first part is not democratic in my book.
then give her the tools she needs from you, for her to decide what she really wants..
two people thinking different will only become a mess when children are finally added.
i dont blame you in not wanting, hey i wouldn't,,, and she knows that.
one thing Jwild dont go thinking everything is set sweet for you because you are married, life can have many changing events, its what builds a person,,,, if you two are made to be together "it will be"
better if things are sorted now, dont make the mistake and leave it.
good luck
Развод и девичья фамилия!!! Как она посмела, наглая такая, только хотеть жить в своей стране!!!! Она не имеет право иметь собственные желания когда у неё муж(объелся груш)!!!
Она должна забыть о своей семье, ведь у мужа есть друзья в его стране, семья, он же будет скучать по ним!!!! А она не имеет право скучать по своей семье!!!! Ведь у неё муж!!!! Бросай такую негодяйку!!!!! Куча прекрасных других русских девушек ждёт тебя!!!!!
Divorce and maiden name!!! As she dared, such arrogant, just want to live in their own country!!!! It does not have the right to have own desires when her husband (ob″elsâ pears)!!!She must forget about her family, because her husband has friends in his country, his family, and he will miss him!!!! But she has no right to miss my family!!!! After all, it's the husband!!!! Throw a negodâjku!!!!! A bunch of beautiful Russian girls waiting for you other!!!!!
wheres the arrogant's you silly woman.
the decision is all the girls in finding a foreign man in the first place, no one else's.
this entails living in another land period, unless stated before hand.
to play mind games afterwards with any man leaves you very questionable as in why such entered into a foreign affair in the first place.
on the other side of the coin sometimes relationships form under different circumstances, still where the relationship occurred, that country has residences without question, unless stated, or is the individual to arrogant to take such into account.