I recently met a lady from Belarus in Lithunia for a long weekend.I have been in regular contact with her over the phone atleast twice a week, for a couple of months now. I have invited her to visit me in the UK within the month. She has been given a visa and we hope to meet up soon. I have told her that i will cover the cost of flights and her stay in the UK etc, everything has been almost arranged.The only concern I have is that just lately she has been more difficult to contact over the phone, also she has recently asked me to delay a flight by approx 1 or 2 weeks incase she decides to have a further week's holiday just before she comes to see me. This might at first not seem unsual but bearing in mind that people in Eastern Europe have approx four weeks holiday a year. She has already been skiing to Austria with her friends about 3 months ago, plus 2 months ago she spent a week visiting a work colleague in Istanbul. Now she proposes wanting a week away possibly just before she comes to see me for a further 2 weeks . This seems like an usual amount of time spent on holiday over a short period.I asked her if she was going to have a break in Belarus, she said possibly outside of her country .Could this be a sign of a serial dater? any help or advice would be very much appreicated .Other than this she seems very genuine i have done all the otehr checks, email,address etc this is all fine i very much want this to work and am hoping that she is the one for me .
Which is she into more,,,, you or the thought of a vacation??? They really like it when they can get someone else to pay for everything. They are very good actresses!!
You also need to think about where she got the money for all of those other trips??
If you go on this trip, donít send her the money for the airfare. Have her ticket on you or have her ticket waiting for her at the airport.
well,, this is what makes you different then me, and why i wouldnt care to much what ever she did in the first place, until i had more of a idea about her and what shes about.
problem is your way, once you support her with funds as you said you would you loose any respective idea how serious she is to be with you or visiting you.
this is why i wouldnt offer her such in the first place, nor would i hold to much to what ever she said until proven different.
then if she did come over you would know she is at least half serious and willing to pay to do such to see you, then there may be a positive outlook or future.
your way you just dont know' you will always question it.
my way i would have a more serous idea how things develop if she actually did visit.
shes proven to be able to get out and about,, ticket to England wouldnt break the bank at all.
bad mistake on your behalf "paying her way"
you wouldnt know
Or you could just tell her your schedule was tight and why don't you just come join her the week before you are scheduled to meet. You save her airfare, she pays her own way and if you get a lot of crawfishing (that means backing up on your stories) you know you are wasting your time. If you do go and hit it off, then you can watch how she does when you suggest removing your profiles.