You are both searching in hopes of finding what you want. What you seek takes time. A scammer has little patience You should not be over eager and neither should a woman you find interest in. It is not realistic to exchange personal information after a few letters (address, phone number, less so with email). You need to know as quickly as possible if the person is real though. I suggest video call only to see the woman in real time. That way she will know that you are writing to her and you are not just getting agency letters. If conversation progresses in a logical manner, at some time you will be on your own. Meeting her in person and seeing if she is interested in you as opposed to being with the agency is the only way you will know. That is when you and she will truthfully begin to know each other. If you go, the agency will try to provide all services. That is how they make their money, not evil, just a fact. Might be, that is a scam if the woman is not real or does not meet with you. Even if you do not have shared interest, she should be gratious and hospitable. If the agency allows her to behaive badly, then be wary of the agency. Communicate with the lady's agency and have a professional conversation with them as well and express your expectations and what are their expectations. Understand that if things go well for you, the agency is out of the car. The agency represents the lady and you as well, but the woman you seek is going to want the agency out her way when you establish a relationship.