I recently joined fiance.com and soon received some invitations for correspondence from agency women in Kharkov. Most of them were about 20-30 years younger than me. My usual experience on other international dating sites is that my contacts are from women in their 40s/50s rather than 20s/30s. Is this other people's experiences on fiance.com ? A few ladies in their 40s have contact me from Kharkov although I just get a bad feeling about that place and wonder if anyone has ever followed up any invitations ?
Googled some of their names and discovered that most of these Kharkov women are featured on 1st-attractive.com (and its duplicate dating sites) where their details / photographs can be significantly different from those given on fiance.com. 1st-attractive.com is allegedly riddled with agency letter writers, etc. and wonder if the same applies to fiance.com ?
At least 1st-attractive.com gives their last login times (UK times which is 2 hours behind Ukraine), and three of these women logged on at unusual times this morning:
Eric, you can see girls stats if you are VIP. Also, agency put Ladies on many sites. if photos are different it is very suspicious. We will investigate. Invite them for chat and see how they look in live. Also agency girls logging mean nothing, it may be there agency was picking up letters for them. Thanks for the report.
First, Kharkiv isnt any more risky than anywhere else regarding girls. My girl lives there.
VIP is the way to go on fiance.com I get invitations from girls 23 years to 42 years old.
If it seems to click then meet them. Im not much on letter writing as the girl in letters is often
a different personality in real life. You cant base prospects solely on letters. When you meet, the first 15 minutes
usually says whether to continue or not. Ive had a few 5 minute meetings and several well less than an hour. Of course
Im not really obsessed about finding any girl, just the right one. Even if you hit it off from the start you may still
find she isnt the right one after spending several weeks with them or living together a few weeks.
Whatever you do, dont get wrapped up so emotional that you cant see reality. Just like your home country, you could get it
right the first time or date 20 girls till you find the right one. dont be in a hurry. Im going to meet a few girls from fiance.com
in a couple 2 or 3 weeks when I go back
Seen this is my google alerts. I do not belong to this website, but belong to another one, most of the sites feed into other sites and the same pictures. There are many young girls on these sites (I am 44) who will email you, as well try and chat. It would be nice to dream about a 25 year old for me, but realistically that is too young in my opinion. You will have to chat to many and read many letters to find what you like. Many of the girls write form letters, I only would responded to ones that wrote a letter that addressed me by name, as well referenced something in my profile. The good news is it can work. I started corresponding with a 32 year old lady last august (2011). I visited Ukraine the last week of April (2012) only saw her for the entire week. Last week we met in the dominican Republic for 9 days - it was great, we will continue to see each other again in december and then february with plans of her moving to the USA towards the end of next year. As far as Kharkov goes, it is a safe great city. I usually met with my girl in the afternoon and spen tthe evening with her. During the day I would leave my hotel and walk to the square and downtown area, always felt safe, and I stood out like a sore thumb. People dress very stylish there, both men and women. Over all people were friendly and helpful. I had a great week, I felt very safe and enjoyed the city, it is a great city! Hope this is helpful, I was skeptical and nervous when I viwsited, but the lady I met planned a great week and we have developed a relationship. We do not communicate through the site any more, we do it through our private email. Most of the women on these sites are beautiful so decesion needs to be based on the letter content. I am very happy and so is she! I am sure there are many scammers out there and people looking for gifts etc. The lady I have met is genuine, sincere and true, do not know what the future holds, but I hope to do it with her and I think she wants to do it with me. Just my experience.
Yukon, I am sure you have a story to tell. Honestly, I can't make sense of it enough to comment because of the paragraph deal. I am sure others are having the same trouble. Just saying.
Rick &Yukon. Thanks for your replies which are very helpful, informative, and reassuring about Kharkov. Agree about taking your time to find the right woman at the right age, especially as young women are outside my comfort zone. Still have my doubts about those 1st-attractive.com login times, although I always ignore such questionable profiles. Thanks again for all your advice and good luck for the future.