Over the years I notice fewer and fewer nicknames I am familiar with. Might be that people have changed their names. Or maybe people I know have passed on... I mean to marriage (not death).
I am still going to Ukraine. Still attending Romance Socials. Still loving every minute of it.
But I have to admit I have been a complete failure lately at finding girls who are age appropriate for marriage. In each of my recent trips - I have started with a single goal in mind of finding the one to marry. And then I have been either sidetracked by an exfiance who wanted to see me - or on my most recent trip - by a very wonderful Ukraiian girl who is simply too young for me. But darned if I don't keep having the best week of my life each time - and darned if the bar for that doesn't keep getting raised each time.
Last time I told my folks and my son that THIS time I was going to find a woman to marry. Instead I hooked up with a gorgeous 21 year old blonde, who speaks terrific english, and who I can spend six hours with and the time passes like one hour. We are planning a trip to the Carpathian Mountains this winter - if I can get away again, to ski.
There is no future with a girl so young for me. We both realize this. But the present is so much fun, I am embarrassed a little to say - I don't care.
dude, im not mad at ya!!! im doing the same thing. i know i should be dating girls actually suitable for marriage but
the little nubile girls are just so fun and exciting! right now the future isnt near as fun as right now!
keep on truckin, jetmba!!!
Bukovel is exactly where we are going (assuming I can get away). I was amazed at the low prices for some places that have received rave reviews in places like Tripadvisor. That is of course under the assumption that you avoid hotels with names like Radisson.
In general you can get terrific accomodadations in Ukraine at very reasonable prices - but I am noticing that American brand names have snuck in.
There is a Hyatt in Kiev - a FINE hotel, a friend of mine stayed there - but WAY overpriced, I think. There is also now a Holiday Inn in Kiev - with prices about double what you need to pay.
I LIKE the local culture and would, in fact, rather stay at a Societ style hotel than to pay for an American brand name. Thats when I am on my own of course - when I am staying with a lady an apartment is best.
But in Bukovel - we will be staying somewhere pretty nice. IF I can get away.
We stayed in Uremche, rented rooms in a new house for 25 a person including 2 meals, boots and a small fee for skis. We caught a ride with some Russians who had there own bus.I am trying to go the last 2 weeks of Feb.I think there is some pictures on easyukraine with some more information about it.
I checked out the easyukraine website. I didn't see anything much their. But if you Google on Bukovel there are a lot of great sites.
I am thrilled about this woman in every category except age. The age difference is just too great. So I can have great fun with her - but damn - I wish (and so does she) that either I was ten years younger or she was 10 years older.
Hi Jet. I was in a similar position and ended up getting married. Thought if you enjoy being with someone why not marry. Been married 4 years now. She is finally moving to Australia next year. Im working in Mongolia now so its more convenient.
Dont bother coming here very much just out of curiosity to see how of if people succeed. Doesnt seem too many, yet I am happy so for those who dont believe you can be successful there is always an exception and Im it. For those who dont know I am 53, my wife is 29 years younger, 1 year older than my eldest child, Im very overweight she is fit and great looking. She just completed her degree in dentistry. She is Ukrainian.
I have to admit - I was wondering why nobody was writing back except bowhunter. he and I exchanged communication here - while I heard crickets and silence otherwise.
I'm thinking that the moderators approve certain messages before they appear?
Nice to hear from all of you anyway.
Yeah - I should be married now - I have to admit I wasted a little time attempting tp pursue the girl I met in Mariupol that I messed up with. She would see me, but ONLY see me. I was not able to spark anything and I was wasing my opportunity to see anyone else.
But now I am back on track and loving every minute of it. And if the truth be told - even when I was is futile pursuit of my exgirlfriend - I was till having a ball in Ukraine.
But this new girl is really something else. She is fantastic. But really young.
i did think marriage had got you jet, kind of surprised..
maybe you should join GD's club, 29 years difference and happy, that's pretty cool stuff.
i'm 11 years apart, and have been happy to take things slow (while shes chewing at the bit)
when things are good the only thing one needs to question with any relationship,, i would think.
will it endure over time.
most often only time itself can tell you this.
so it seems you may need to put in a bit of time with her, some hard yards..
guessing you didnt want to hear such
I 've also had experience, the sudden death of my son, that has taught me that sometimes its best not to plan too much for the future - because the furture has a nasty way of sometimes ending when you least expect it.
I have no answer at this point - except that I am loving every minute of it.
sorry to hear such jet, i really couldnt imagine such and explains a lot..
i can only hope all of you are coping as best as we people can.
great to see you enjoying Ukraine,, there is something special about that place indeed.
and the beautiful people it holds..
If I do the math right - If you are 53 and your wife is 29 years younger - then she is 24.
So you and I are at least on the same page with my age being 55 and my girl friend being 21. Its a very unusual page - but good to know someone else is there too.
But I fall right out of the book regarding relative age of children.
You said your wife is a year older than your oldest child. That would put your oldest child at 23.
My son is 35 - so that makes my girlfriend 14 years YOUNGER than he is.
As a matter of fact my son's girlfriend is considerably younger than he is - at 26. And my girlfriend is 5 years younger than my son't girlfriend.
If this progresses (against all sense), it could make for some interesting family gatherings.
I admit I am writing this post the way I am mostly to be a little humorous (though its all true). But in all seriousness - it is reassuring that you are able to make a relationship work with a 29 year age difference.
I congratulate you on your success - and hope I am fortunate enough to do something similar.
by the way jet i hope you got what i meant by the hard yards comment, and you didnt want to hear..
its slang for taking life as it comes, nothing more and nothing less, just going fourth and enjoying as normal.
our slang has a twist of been kind of opposite to whats been said with a a little sarcasm.
one dose forget at times he needs to speak english on here instead of new zealandia.
i'll will blame the chili vodka.
that girl of mine is becoming quite the smuggler..
Congrats Gemini for finding the right girl and getting married. Can you share your perceptive on how did you find your girl.. dating sites, tours, etc and what challenges you went through and any suggestions that you may have for novices like me. I will appreciate your wisdom.
Jet I agree with you that one should always plan too much for future as one dosen't know what it holds. It good to live in present and enjoy life to the fullest as if it was a gift.
kiwinorth: My son died in 2005. So its not a fresh wound, but it is a persistant one.
It taught me that sometimes the best laid plans of mice and men...are...just plans. And never will be any more than that.
HOPE that you will live forever, but realize you won't. Live for today, because you may not have a lot of tomorrows.
Anyway - not to bring the conversation down.
As I've said - I realize that I may not have a practical future with this woman. But as I have told her (and kind of like paulx says above) I cherish every moment I spend with her. And you can't ask much more than that.
paulx - The best advice I can give you is to sign up for a Romance Tour, get on a plane and go.
Its hard to meet girls in person, without a Romance Tour - unless you are really suave, daring and POLISHED - and I am none of those things.
You can work with an agency - but the few experience I have had with that were disappointments. In one case the lady working with the agency swore she had the right girl for me - actually several girls. But it seemed to me that these were the "usual suspects", kind of like a batting order for any new guy who came through the door - these were the girls you got.
Another experience had me describe to the agency-lady exactly the woman I was looking for - I insisted on an english speaker, she argued with me on that point - and my "ideal lady", supposedly the one I had described - was a fat old bat who of course didn't speak english.
At a Romance Social - its 15 - 30 guys (last one was actual 35) - 200 girls each night for 3 romance social events - each event lasts 6 hours. You just go around and talk to the ladies and they are more than willing to talk with you - its the entire reason they are there.