Yep, thats me. met a nice girl online - she loved to chat so I didn't really embrace her loving words. yes, she was beautiful, avid photographer, educated, young, lovely, well mannered...so what I thought. They ALL are....right?
We did this dance for almost 16 months...she was a cute chat...always surrounded by here cats in a comfy room in Krivoy Rog. Yes, I'll come I said - didn't go;
yes I'll come THIS time - didn't go... chat chat chat.......then STOP........her replies are scarce...she is never online......hmmmmmm. I decide to go - so I go to Ukraine....call her agency and email her when I arrive....nope - won't see me....too late she said - too late....how about a coffee? Nope....I hung around visiting sights - no "back up" - didn't want one.......after 4 days I left....tail between my legs.......turns out after all that online chatting...with me, and of course others for nearly 16 months.......she marries a local guy from around the way......
She sent ME flowers and apologized....She simply said she could not wait for me to make up my mind....man she is lovely...its killing me - but, I am sure there's lots of testosterone here on this site to get me through!!!!!!
Only God knows what would have happened, if you had connected with her for real. Maybe great, maybe rotten.
But the lesson here for every man: if you're serious about seeking a relationship, GET YOUR ASS OVER THERE. After you've had the chance to learn a little about each other, continuing the internet thing without meeting is a waste of time (and for many, money as well).
To any man who isn't prepared to get on the airplane ... who are you fooling?
Dude i feel your hurt, but like durak said who knows what it could have held. I am new to this stuff and it's easy to get hooked on birds that are stunners, who if they lived in the UK or USA would not give me a second look. All I can say is there is plenty of more fish in the sea.
Most of my experiences chatting, were to burn up credits,,, so I could leave a website quicker. I did check a few girls with chat, to see if they were real or not. It didn’t help!
I wouldn’t worry too much on what you might have lost! The girl chatted until she got married,,, she was just doing her job. Maybe her husband didn’t approve of her work,,, if so, he is a good man!!
Never make a promise to any girl you meet and not keep it! When thing are long distance though its easier to pick up and move on. Some of the stories are the same on asian dating forums, its so different on them, not the woman but the guys on them, here is all fighting and trash talking each other over there its all friendly help, I guess finding a nice Russian woman can drive us all a bit crazy haha.
A woman friend in the FSU -- really a sweet girl, NOT a cynical scammer/exploiter -- is in love with a guy in the West, who has kept her waiting for a long time, because he isn't yet ready on a practical level to bring her to the country where he lives.
So in the meantime, while she's languishing impatiently in her home country, a rich older man wants to add her to his stable of mistresses. She wanted me to talk her out of agreeing to the "proposition" -- but at the same time, she's very tempted to say yes: she's lonely, and wants to feel like a woman.
Men, if you're going to make a new family (at the end of the day, that's what this is all about) -- then be ready to make your move, and when the moment comes, for God's sake TAKE ACTION.
I can understand not being able to visit but only every 3 to 4 months and girls understand this also. when its once or twice per year?
who in their right mind will wait THAT long?
As Marina is Ukrainian, why shouldn't her opinion count?
She will tell you the same as I am saying here.
Seeing your girl once or twice a year simply isnt going to develop into anything.
lonelyranger, you told that you need to stop looking in FSU, and you based it on 1 story, that's enough for me to say what i've said.
but no you need to look in FSU and whine here... it's ptretty funny so go on :)
“As Marina is Ukrainian, why shouldn't her opinion count? “
Rick,,, I didn’t say that! Why would I be asking her to explain her opinion,,, if I thought it didn’t count??
“Seeing your girl once or twice a year simply isnt going to develop into anything.”
That’s one of the reasons why I ended my search 11 months ago. The biggest reason is that the girls I’ve written to,, were never available! Most had boyfriends, or had no plans to leave Ukraine. Why should I continue writing??
“lonelyranger, you told that you need to stop looking in FSU, and you based it on 1 story, that's enough for me to say what i've said. “
Based on one story????,,,,,,, Hardly!!
Durak wrote about a woman who was thinking about being someone’s mistress! A woman like that is someone I would never consider!! Extra marital affairs, escorts, mistresses, sponsors, quick divorces, are part of Ukrainian culture. I’m looking for a marriage that will last a lifetime,,,,, not just until green card!!!
But what for? If someone 'is in love' he won't listen to you, whatever you'll write here. If someone has brains then he already knows everything you're trying to tell... so...
There are INCREDIBLE women available who don't have boyfriends. But they aren't going to just stay there forever.
My 21 year old is NOT the best example of this. And old 28 year old boyfriend reentered her life when I met her. He had already proposed marriage previously to our meeting. She turned him down. He proposed again after we had just met.
She admitted that she had seen him after the trip we first met, but he knew nothing of me. Before our second meeting when she was to join me in Kiev, she told him about me, my age, etc. They had a terrible quarrel. He absolutely forbid her to go to Kiev to see me. And yet she came anyway and stayed with me in my apartment. He called many times and yet she was with me.
By the way - I should mention, my 21 year old lady has never been listed by any agency. So YOU are not writing to her. Nor is any foreigner.
So she was not invited to the AFA Romance Social. She only attended to accompany her 41 year old mother who IS listed with an agency.
That was especially funny when I mentioned to other men who had attended, that I had met this incredible woman who was probably too young for me. Younger men said "I'll just look her up on the website and get her information from AFA!"
Nope.
Likewise my first fiance from Moldova was not listed with any agency. She came to Odessa, where I met her, only to accompany her best friend who HAD been invited to a European Connections Romance Social.
Thats another great thing about Romance Socials. Even though they invite girls primarily from the rosters of agencies - there are by no means ONLY agency girls attending.
She is not playing the agency letter writing games, obviously, if she isn't even listed.