Let me please explain what this scale means on our site: 1-3-she knows just a few words in English 4-6-elementary level. can compose some sentences 6-7-she can speak and read with a dictionnary considerable difficulties 8-9-can read and speak enough to be understood 10-speaks English fluently
thanks for clearing that up for me. I have found ladys that I am intrested in and didn't know if we could speak enough of each others language to get along, although I know love has no boundaries it can make it hard to convey what you want to say. I am looking forward to finding a russian lady.
I will give you an example, my lady and I have been talking and corresponding for a year now. In the beginning her english was not very good.She was a 2! Actually we had a difficult time talking on the phone in the beginning. We still did it, my Russian is terrible at best. She started taking English lessons about 3 months of our writing. She did this on her own volition. I knew it was difficult for her financially, but she went ahead and did it. After our two meetings I began paying for her english lessons. It is incredible the aptitude these ladies have for learning. Her english is remarkable now. She has worked very hard. Along with her instruction my Russian is now at a competent conversational level. DO NOT PASS UP ON A LADY FOR HER ENGLISH ABILITIES!!! These women have a remarkable aptitude for learning and if she likes you well enough she will learn!Also take an active interest in learning her language. My first words to Larissa where in Russian, she was impressed with the fact I was trying to learn her language and it did make an impact on her as to my seriousness to pursue a relationship with her. Now half of our phone conversations are in English and in Russian. English lessons in Ukraine are very inexpensive even with the good tutors. I pay 60 USD
a month and she goes four times a week so do the math. If you give up on a lady for her english you may be making a huge mistake. I understand the frustration in the beginning and we had a few miscues in communication, but if I would have given up, I would have made the biggest mistake in my life. I have found a wonderful, beautiful, intelligent,sexy and passionate woman in Larissa. I'm glad I didn't let the language barrier get in my way in the beginning.
I totally agree with TD--love is not dependent on the opposite sex. If you think it is-believe me it is a dormant seed which lays just under the sandy desert of your heart,waiting for the right amount of rain and sunshine to give it root. And also as TD has said,it is an affliction of the heart. You know it is most contagious when women approach you because you glow,and they are like the moth to the porchlight. They--or anybody can feel the aura of your spirit. It is the love you feel for the gooing sound of a baby, the smile of an old woman who used to be beautiful, the feeling you get when surrounded by majestic sequoia trees--or even Half Dome in Yosemite. It is your bro from grade school,whom you still befriend after 30 years. It is the humble,peaceful veneration of mankind,and the knowing that all life trickles towards the same ocean of eternity.. I find my conversations with FSU women to be the very best that I could ever imagine. It is like a woman who wears a summer dress. It leaves something to my imagination. I cannot remember having laughed with a woman like this since I was a teenager speaking to girls for the first time. She laughs and corrects me,we stumble over words together--then laugh together. I correct her,and make the universal sigh of pleasure--it is wonderfully loving. Who ever said that love needs the same diction or language? I agree Bagira that discovery is enchanting,and true love can be expressed in a gaze,or in a touch,without words to boggle everything up.
I am very happy for you Spirittraveller. You are so strong.
I wish I could love as for the first time. I am dreaming about to be loved by, but keep my heart cold. I have a lot of warmth in my soul but afraid of people a lot. If there is something real it can begin to grow even because of several drops of water without any rain.
That is why I am trying to protect myself by cynizm.
This is a natural defense mechanism,Bagira,and there is nothing wrong with it. There is that child in each one of us that lives in the moment when she or he was the most happy. I hold on to this moment,as fleeting and insignificant as it was,because it is all that I have to inspire me. You also have this dream. Your cynicism will help filter out whatever is unacceptable to you. This is rightly so,and comes from hard experience. But,don`t hide your warmth and caring away. This is what gives you your magnetism,along with your intelligence and good humor. I live under a lot of stress and pressure. I always think about what the worse case scenario is. Then I think about what the best case scenario is. And lastly,I think of what the most ridiculous outcome could be. Often I cannot think of bad or good-just knowing how ridiculous it all can be. I may seem like a real positivist,but I really just expect the worst,and hope for the best. I think we are all trapped inside of our puny minds,and life slips away so fast we cannot even put our own experiences into perspective. This is why I try to respect myself,and give "me" a break. I deserve it,as do you ( and your inner child ) and every other person who lives in pain . I think you were hurt for a reason,that your life experience suffered for a greater reward. It is inexplicable and mysterious-why we suffer. But you persevere when so many simply give up! It is a damn good fight,and a worthy cause. And so are you,dear woman. When you have that wonderful man in your life,I know you will instantly realize that happiness sometimes only awaits the long-suffering. I wish you much good in your life,and most of all peace of mind. Blaine
Right that is it then !!
I'm off to enroll in a Russian course then I'm off to a 12 step meeting followed by reading a few pages of the Course In Miracles. I am hoping I can squeeze in a bit of Louise L. Hayes, Krishnamurti and Meher Baba. Seeya later I am going to be busy for a while.