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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Disputation Author Post durak Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/7/2013 3:53:49 AM   "Disputation," a Taoist sage said (perhaps 25 centuries ago) "is proof of not seeing clearly." If any reader of this topic finds himself engaged in verbal combat, and is no longer enjoying it, I quote below some words from Don Miguel Ruiz, that have been helpful to me. His beautiful little book, "The Four Agreements," can be comfortably read in one sitting -- and maps some pathways to peace. _____________________________________________________________________ _______ Don't Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering. We take things personally when we agree with what others have said. If we didn't agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally. If we did not care about what others think about us, their words or behavior could not affect us. Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you! Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream. Our personal 'Book of Law' and belief system makes us feel safe. When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others. If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this? durak Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/7/2013 3:56:02 AM   PS - If disputing the post above makes you happy, then by all means, knock yourselves out! I promise, I won't take it personally. moyarishka Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/7/2013 10:00:47 AM   durak, i'm fallin in love with you :) ragingbull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/7/2013 11:31:00 AM   I like Eckhart Tolle's the Power of Now. It has helped me quite a bit in this last year. Nothing else exists except the present, and therefore deserves 100% of our attention or close to it. Tolle promotes the concept of no thought. While that's impossible, its practice weeds out the bad thoughts. Bad thoughts are about the past or the future and almost never in the present. Included in the thoughts are the mind's reaction to it in the form of emotions. Emotions cannot be controlled at times. Awareness of why we feel that way is sometimes the best we can do. Good and bad are judgments to the present moment with the past and future as catalysts. One should look at the present and accept it as it is without judgment. Your surrender to the present moment is the best starting point of anything. blu_craze Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/7/2013 6:07:34 PM   As you get older and wiser this knowledge should come to you one your own. By that time you should have more than enough time to find inner peace and outer clarity. Rick4girl Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/8/2013 1:14:00 AM   Wise words. I dont care what people say nor their opinions about me. ragingbull Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/8/2013 1:32:47 PM   It is said that we are three things. We are what others things we are, what we think we are and what we really are. Are we our past? An extreme example is, are we that boy or girl who grew up to be ourselves? How can we be that person? We cannot even be the person we were yesterday. We are what we are now, in the present is what we are. What others say we are when they talk of the past is not true. Therefore, anything LR, Jetmba and Smart a says is not true other than what they are now, and that's disruptive. durak Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2013 1:09:50 AM   moyarishka, you almost make me blush! That is, if a Cheburashka soft toy were able to blush. moyarishka Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2013 1:52:20 AM   i think he can't :) bowhunter Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2013 8:01:03 AM   one of the hardest lessons I learned was not to allow other to affect my mood. I live my life to a certain standard that I decide. As I age I also have learned to see things from more than one perspective giving me more to ponder and learn. kaiserdag Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/9/2013 6:35:05 PM   If I care about your opinion, I ask you. If I did not ask you, I don’t care. Write and/or say whatever (freedom <abuse> of speech from an alias))) If I am affected by your opinions without asking is because you are special to me or I am weak. This bickering amount cultured and educated individuals is not .needless to say! kiwinorth Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 1/10/2013 7:34:26 AM   every one cares of whats been said of them, its human nature there always a reaction to a action,,, always Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Disputation
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