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	Create New Topic   My Posts   My forum buddies   Invite friends   Private messages Russian brides > Main Forum > Im new, can anyone help me and explain this to me? Author Post Dannyconn Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/12/2004 8:15:42 PM   Hi all I just started the membership here 2 day's ago and i am already getting a little confused with the way the mailing works. First i have written 4 letters to ladies i wanted to know more about and 1 in particular is my favorite who has already written back to me :-). Those ladies are not part of my confusion(yet anyway) hehe, the thing that i am trying to understand is...i recieved about 14 letters from ladies first since i became a member 2 day's ago and i have sent them all decline letter's and i thought that was it untill i logged on tonight. I see that all of the ladies i have sent declines to, have sent new letter's with the same introduction as befor. I tried to send a decline a second time on one and the system said "you have already sent a decline letter to this lady" Why is this happening and has anyone else had this happen befor or is it a delay or a accidental double mailing? The other thing is one lady (not sure if i should post here id# here) sent another letter after my decline yesterday but it was not her introducing herself. It was her picture and info but the lady who wrote introduced herself as Oksana's( the lady i declined to) friend and gave me a private e-mail and said she didnt have a questionair with the agency. Is this happening alot? I thought maybe since the original lady recieved a decline she gave access to her friend to write to me, but...it was on the same day as my decline. Actually they all have sent a second letter dated on the same day i sent decline's. Hmmm maybe someone can shed some light on this for me?? Thanks TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/13/2004 5:15:37 AM   A little I hope, This Oksana`s friend, send her a polite good bye letter, no woman registered with an agency would be permitted to send a letter for her friend through their service, the friend would be asked to register, I cannot help but feel this particular part stinks. Personally I wouldnt have anything to do with this particular girl, also she is trying to get you away from "the agency" with a private email address, you lose the safety of fiance.com checking her mails if needed, and that is nota good thing, at least in the early stages, and being as new as you are to this. As to the multiple letter issue, the nets been a mess these past few days, its possible that you have had doubles by mistake, I have had several letters which have been arriving in my own email at home this week which are duplicates of ones I got at the beggining of the week. If the double ups are the "reply notification" or "you have a letter at fiance.com" ones, which notify you of mail to log in and get, then its almost certain that the problem is with your isp (as I have had with mine this week too) and not with fiance.com. Are you by any chance in the UK and using NTL ? Thats my isp and I know that they are having major problems at the moment with this issue since rebuilding servers earlier this week. hope these commenst help a bit, welcome to the nut house :o) And good luck Tim TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/13/2004 5:43:14 AM   Just to clarify something: When you get these "repeat mails" and if they are in your hotmail, NTL or whatever email in-box, you obviously log in to fiance.com to read them, what you will be reading is the one you read the previous day or whenever (the one you got from her that you declined). The girl hasn't sent you another letter at all, thats why when you try to send another decline, the fiance.com servers get upset and tell you you cant :o)) I hope I have cleared up any confusion I may have caused :o)) One last piece of advice, and you can take it or leave it as you wish. Any girl who writes to you first, who has received more than 150 letters so far and has been with this site for a long time, ie: I had one who has been here 2 years and received over 200 letters write to me, please Please use your head and decline her, unless you want to meet your first scammer !!! No woman would try that hard or that long without result from any internet site !! She would try other sites if she doesn't find the man she wants within a few weeks/months. And the biggest give away with these particular girls is that they are usually stunner's !! Now tell me why they haven't been met, married and removed from this site after such a long time and so many letters :o)) As I said, take it or leave it :o)) but to me it is at least worth thinking about . Be careful, and if in doubt, Ask :o) Tim Dannyconn Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/13/2004 5:07:21 PM   Tim Thanks for the insight on these mailing's Yes i have noticed some of the ladies on the site have like 100-200 letter's sent to them in less than 6 month's and it made me think, maybe this girl isn't legitimate. That or she is very popular here. That leads me to believe some of the ladies maybe new to the online introduction service and love the attention of all the men and it is exciting to them or possibly they have another reason for being at the agency. I too have the idea that a stunning girl on the site or any introduction site is a little suspicious at best. I am new to European introduction agencies and the ladies. I have followed some of the Latin introduction agencies befor. I have alway's thought it would be a very daunting task *if* i was to find the right lady in Europe/Russia, to arrang a meeting or possibly one day bringing her here to the States. I suppose no matter what part of the world or agency the lady is with there is alway's a possibility of a scam. What in your opinion is the best way to find a legitimate lady on this site (or nay site)? I know there are many ladies looking for true love at these agencies, but it seem's hard to filter out those who have other motives. Danny PS. I live in the midwest USA olegnay Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/13/2004 5:10:26 PM   We will check this issue. but most probably, you are reading the same letters. site stores all the messages, message plus reply. if it says that you have declined this messages it means it was the same message, not a new one. TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/13/2004 8:25:10 PM   Mnay of the ones who have 200 letters sent to them within 6 months, you can fair bet that they have sent their "introduction letter" to a sh*t load of men. Some play the "lets get lots of replys game" which gets them on the "miss wow list" These ones are definatly to be avoided !!! Tim TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/13/2004 8:29:42 PM   As to finding a legit one, Im not really qualified to answer that. I found what I thought to be such a lady, met her, visited her, then went to the FSU and married her, brought her back to England with me, 3 months later she went to vsist family, no indication anything was wrong, after 2 weeks there (lovely letters and I called her every day) I got a dear John at 6am the day I was supposed to go to Heathrow to meet her off the plane, she hadnt even gone to the airport her end, after I went there twice since then, one time for a month to try to sort it out I discovered that she had not been sincere from day one. So sorry mate, that bit you will have to sort out for yourself, I couldnt have you blaming me if I gave you bad advice now could I ;o)) Dannyconn Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/14/2004 12:04:46 AM   Oh man!! That is bad! You just put new fear in me with this foreign dating thing. I have never been married befor mainly because of the non-sincere gold digging/materialistic/men hating women here in the States. I suppose women are alike around the world but i had read so many artical's about women in other part's of the world being more genuine and sincere with a marriage and building a family. Geeshh... I am supprised you are still with a introduction service after something like that! I wouldn't have the heart left to try it again and would have to turn back to what i have steered clear of for some year's now ( American women ). That's a sad thought too! I don't want to pry into your business about that unfortunate relationship, but your insight would be helpful. Did you not have enough time to get to know her or visting with her and maybe it was rushed , or she just flat out was not honest and sincere? Was she a younger lady? Did she write and talk with loving word's and the thought of marriage? Sorry to pry,and if you don't want to answer these question's i totally understand. This information would be of help to me and i think to alot here who have not been searching for a foreign lady to long and are new to this. Thanks tradman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/14/2004 6:00:51 PM   The girl I am corresponding with seems content with her life, she is fantastic, I haven't brought up the idea of living in England yet, she appears to be ok financially, replies to my letters in great detail no standard format, I have to say the age difference is not great(9 years) I am 41, appealing as a 22 year old is, lets be serious guys, how long would that really last, be realistic, the age gap will be wider than is the case in the west, but if you are looking long term, then it won't be a 20 year gap. Mine has been registered 8 weeks and only 8 letters, can't understand why, beacause she is beautiful, maybe it is because she has a child. I am optimistic. What is your opinion Tim?, of course there are calculating girls in Russia, You have to consider the economic conditions TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/14/2004 6:23:46 PM   Danny, contact me thru email mate, rather talk about details there if you dont mind :o) TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/14/2004 6:25:48 PM   Is she with an agency Trad ? Or does she have private email ? Apart from that, you dont give me much to base an opinion on mate :o)) er, dont spose, whats her number ? Dannyconn Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/14/2004 7:00:24 PM   Do we have a email here at fiance.com or do you mean public email like hotmail or yahoo? TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/14/2004 8:19:34 PM   Tim.Haines@ntlworld.com jetmba. Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 12:42:48 PM   Gotta disagree with you a little on the age issue Tradman. People age at different rates, emotionally, intellectually and physically. If you have such an opportunity - go to a high school or college class reunion and see the differences in your classmates. You all started at the same place - but withing fifteen years of highschool graduation, some look like (and maybe ARE) grandparents - while others have barely changed. Their attitudes and outlooks are dissimilar too. There ARE men in the west for whom a twenty year age difference with a Russian woman is too much. But there are some, for whom it isn't too much at all. If nine years difference is what you feel comfortable in looking for - then all the best to you. But also allow for people with different situations and different attitudes - because Tradman, they exist. Trust me. They exist... TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 1:05:05 PM   Yes Jet, the do indeed exist :o)) I set my limit and 26 year old girls, simply because by 26 they are pretty much set in what they want from life, but thats just my personal limit and it doesnt mean if I fell in love with a 23/22 year old I wouldnt pursue it, but when I have searched 25 is my younest limit. dma Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 2:03:11 PM   I am 11 years older than my ex-ex (split last year @ 34 vs 23) and was with her for 4 years and whilst there were some maturity issues, it never really bothered us other than it probably stopped me from marrying her waiting for to 'grow up' a bit in her head - our problem was the future mother mother-in-law who did have an issue with the age difference and it ultimately told. So I would say that about 26/27 is a good yardstick for maturity but there are no rules to it. It does seem that the girls with children get less letters - personally it doesn't matter to me and if she's right for you, whatever she has done in her past should be equally accepted as my ex had 2 children, now 3 any day soon courtesy of yours truly. It's just as well, because my favourite and likely only one by the time I've eliminated all the others has a young child and doesn't get that many letters but without the child I know she would easily get triple the quantity. You approach an English girl of an age difference which I can't give a number to and you suddenly get labelled a perve! TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 2:43:52 PM   Here here mate !! But the worst part is that men of 25 here are w*ankers who only care about booze and birds (until they get them pregnant then they are on their toes) we may be a bit older, but at least we are more mature and able to support and provide for a pregnant lady of almost any age !!!! gladiatorUK Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 2:50:59 PM   Tim could it be that we just don't run fast enough?....LOL TimH Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 3:10:49 PM   Its a possibility !!!! How are you two doing mate ? Hopefully having a great time and deleriously happy :o)) tradman Member send PM   block PM add to buddies Send: 3/15/2004 3:15:47 PM   I don't have a problem with 22 year old girls of course not, and they are mature enough, I am just thinking long term when I am 60/65 and they are still young, while I could happily be with them for the next ten years, I wonder how happy they could be with me by then, and believe me, I am young at heart. In answer Tim, she is with an agency, have not yet asked her for her personal e mail, as for others, am corresponding with another 10 who have all given it to me, have yet to meet a scammer, is this a record.:) Your Reply: Your name:   New Registration Password:   Forgot password?   refresh Code:   Russian brides > Main Forum > Im new, can anyone help me and explain this to me?
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