I am not imposing anything. As I wrote before, my inputs in this forum are based on experiences and opinions. Thanks to the latest comments here and there, my perspective on FSU dating have been a bit more realistic then before.
I also agree. That is why I am thinking of obtaining the services of a "major domo" if I should go there.
I just recently became a paid member of this site. Some of the contacts appear similar to what I have experienced on other dating sites. Like very young girls contacting me saying that age does not matter. I also noticed a large number of women contacting me appear to be residing in the Crimea region. Does this website cater to Crimean women? I have only been contacted by a small number of Russian based women.
The sign that she was not genuine. Her profile was deceiving ( lie about her age and what she is looking for ). She was like ditective asking for my past. Complaining about my lack of attention when I explain to her a work for a living. at this time I though she was a desperate old maiden. Days after our return from Vilnius she accused me of giving her a STD ( Candida ). I was about to drop the hammer but I wanted wait for her test results. Before we finish planing to meet in her country, she wanted to know about our next trip to a fancy place.... And here is when I saw the big F¥€<!#g sign ...ALL expenses cover by ME....the beotch either 1. got me confuse with anothe guy, 2. didn't read my profile well or didn't listened to my expectations or 3. Though she was CLEVER and try to push that envelop on a guy like me.
I could had play it alone but I didn't have the stomach for it. I can admit that I had been broken but I don't brake my moral principles.
What is a " major domo "? Is that Japanese! I was a member of this site about 2 years ago and was very disappointed. Get the facts about Crimea before hand to understand the frustration going on there. I read recently it will be a Visa Free Zone!!! IMHO, I think anyone, anyone , ANYONE going to Krym must be out of their mind.
You appear to have been well into the relationship with that lady. From my standpoint, I am not going to go on a "world wind" tour with any lady. If she likes to live a jet set lifestyle, then she needs to look elsewhere. STD? Well, it is best to get a medical check. It seems that she was trying to "size you up" to see if you were a good "sponsor".
A majordomo is a steward or butler type of person. The term comes from Medieval Latin and means chief of the house. Although it might look to be from Japanese. He does the work of preparing your arrangements when are there. Like a personal concierge. You will have to pay that person's room and board (or share accommodations) and use of a vehicle during your time there. Also, there will be translation charges, if needed. He is essentially a personal travel guide.
Well, I guess using this site does not make it different from pay per letter sites or completely free social sites. Maybe the Crimean ladies are interested in getting out given the uncertainty of the situation?
Note that this site also charges for video chat when the lady is tied to an agency. I get lots of letters from the pay per letter sites, this site too, and a few from the totally free sites. I get lots of invitations for video chat. Does this mean that the lady gets a "cut of the profits" when she chats? So far, I have only done video chat with just one lady. She has not talked about our meeting, but only says that she knows that she has found her future. I guess we will see whether that is true or not.
You have it much too easy especially because you are that short of a distance away. It is much more harder for someone like me who is thousands of miles away. You can be flying multiple flights which cost the same as a single overseas flight. So you have much more options than where I am positioned.
From my personal standpoint, if any lady (no matter where she is from) starts going on dreaming about "fancy dining, fancy travelling, fancy shopping", "living it up", I am going to give her a very LONG story of where I came from. If she cannot take it and says that it is beneath her, then, my response will be "have a nice life and good luck".
Unfortunately I, and probably many men, sound like detectives many times, too, when chatting with the ladies. There have been times when ladies tell me "why do you need to know that?" My reply is always: "to get to know you better". This is particularly the case when you are trying to hold the conversation with a lady that is not chatty and you start asking question after question, just to keep the conversation going.
When a woman asks questions, like it’s part of an interrogation,,, that tells me that she is a scammer! She is trying to portray herself as a serious and honest person. Reverse psychology!
Whenever I read an “over the top” performance,,, I make the international gesture for nausea,,, the finger in the mouth,,, and click on delete!
From my own personal experience over the years,, whenever a woman asks me: “Don’t you trust me???” the answer has always been,,, (in the near future) NO!!!
So,,,, if a woman in the future asks me if I trust her,,,, I will shout: NEXT!!!
I was writing to a woman here via the pm-s. She tried to get me to write on AOB. Told everyone here how hard it was to get internet in her small town?? Was online for many hours each day,,,, any time of the day?!!
I really think it is paranoid to read into everything that a lady says, they could do the same with what you say:
"You are beautiful" - creep
"I am very serious about finding a wife" - same as all other time wasters said
"When can I come to meet you? - He can't wait for the sex
"Tell me about yor sister" - What? already seeing if he could make it with my sister too?
You see, it works both ways, why suspect everything that the girl says? Give it time and you will find out who she really is.
Why should you suspect a lady who says that trust between two people is very important? That is what a good relationship is about.
I also think that the great majority of girls, including scammers, are not clever enough to play manipulating games with a reasonably intelligent man. The very clever scammers are extracting millions from Western bank accounts, why bother with the odd £500 they can get from a newbie in the FSU dating game
"From my personal standpoint, if any lady (no matter where she is from) starts going on dreaming about "fancy dining, fancy travelling, fancy shopping", "living it up", I am going to give her a very LONG story of where I came from. If she cannot take it and says that it is beneath her, then, my response will be "have a nice life and good luck"."
More power to you buddy....I had reiterated my morals and point of view on various issues, like money, priorities, life style and quality of life. we had talk a lot of several subjects. She didn't act like a materialistic girl during our weekend get away trip. It was right after when she 1. Sabotage the relationship or showed her true colors.
And yes traveling within Europe is cheap and easy but relationships like this, no matter form where or how far they come from, will be frustrating...
We all talk about our past life at the proper time to build trust and share some points of views for future reference; however, it is widely known not to talk about ex's unless there is still a connection. Either because of a kid involved or a pending matters. I don't care about how badly they were. Also, a normal woman shouldn't ask about my ex-GFs.. IMHO....I rather keep the conversation if she is interested on me. Once I get the idea that my magic spells are not working, that's when is best to pick up next time. But if next time she rather type that talk than that is a lost case....she is wasting your time while multitasking with another dude....
When you say "here", do you mean this forum? I don't believe that there is a private message system on the dating site (since all messages are not public sent through that service). Are you saying that you are writing to someone who is "hidden" on this forum? And that she is trying to get you to write via AOB?
Many times what they write just does not add up. There are contradictions. Some of them act like ladies in a strip club. I will give you the "girlfriend experience" if you show me the money. On one profile (not on this site), a middle aged women from one of the FSU republics added a picture of her topless. She openly showed you what to expect from her.