I become a member of this site quite a few years back, a little more than three years ago met my wife. I have seen the same people posting the same stuff and still have not had any success. A few come around every so often to say hello but a lot of the posters who have some science ,statistics or theory are the same people who were posting 5 or six years ago. They seem to still be arguing over the same crap as they were many years ago. Al tho on occasion there will be a post or two that have some decent information, normally the post will become a bitch session for the usual suspects. Some new or green members will come around every so often but if successful will soon disappear. I have to wonder how many actually sabotage there own efforts.
(of the long-term participants, NOT excepting myself)
At least three of the "combatants" I can think of got married to women from the former Soviet Union: all of them continued to mud-wrestle on the forum for a while after marriage, but gradually tapered off and ceased regular posting.
I haven't written much here in recent months. I like to provide information I hope will be useful, and it's become rare for new guys to ask practical questions.
I think the bitch sessions these days are healthy compared to a while back. There was a time when the poster was attacked rather than the post. The bitch session then became who was better than who. If it is the same crap because the same principles still apply.
If you come up with something like sabotaging their own efforts, you must come up with examples. My latest bitch session, for example, this time with Wifeseeker. Does this apply? What are you saying? That I should have a better look at them? I have. Most of my vk friends are young girls. It wasn't planned that way. They are the most responsive. Yet, I believe that they are not marrying material.
Perhaps it is old age, but I have been holding my own with American women lately. I recently went to a bar where I was asked more than once to dance and one even came back and gave me a hug of thank you. That never happened before.
Why am I here? Perhaps I will find my wife in the FSU, perhaps not. Just like you, I have a blog which needs attention.
since I am curious by nature I often wonder about human behavior and why people do what they do. I have come to the conclusion a lot of people do not think about the affects of there actions or words in most cases. In a post, blog or email I was under the impression people think about what they write before posting it. I assumed that since I would re read or consider what I was about to post others did also. I found this to be a false assumption in a lot of cases. I expect youth to be careless since it takes time to understand your words or actions have consequences that may not be good.
If I reread my posts before I posted them, the theme of the post would not change. I think that is true with others. What would change is perhaps, better grammar or spelling.
Everyone wants to be right, no matter how wrong they are. Especially with women, men want to feel superior or better than others. I think those two principles when combined have caused more bitch sessions than most.
I come here so that people don't take the route I nearly did. Finding a wife in the FSU takes about a year, will cost $20,000 to $50,000, and takes a little knowledge about international travel. Other than that if you can meet women at home you can meet much better women over there. It takes common sense, personality, and a plan. Other than that it is as simple as can be. The ones you see here failing year after year are simply not following a successful plan. They need to review their plan, make changes to the parts that don't written and move on. I write this sitting right next to my 20 year younger, beautiful Ukrainian wife. 2 years $24,000 including all official documentation and legal fees. Here's a hint. If people have been here unsuccessful for years, why would you taketheir advice on how to succeed?