"Lift up your hearts and sing me a song
That was a hit before your mother was born,
Though she was born a long long time ago,
Your mother should know,
Your mother should know."
Well I suppose we are all trying to get up and sing the old song about men being men and women being women. And we'll let our western mates who some how got in touch with their femine sides have all the western women who have got in touch with their masculine sides. (good riddance!)
What made me think of this song was that I figured that it was time to let my family know what kind of weird trip I'm on.
My little kids, no problem. They have been with me all along. My five year old wanted to know why I kept looking at all yhose womens pictures on the computer for. My 8 year old girl is "into it". I was unsure when and how to tell my older kids. But that took care of itself when my 20 year old daughter snooped on an entire phone conversation I had with the Lovely Lucy. (Good thing I am unlike good ole dma and I keep my converstaion rated pg!) She did hear a good bit of romantic conversation and about my flight plans. She confronted me and demanded to know what was going on with me. So it was time. After giving her a hard time I told all. She was cool with it. My fifteen year old son was awesome. He said "Dad, you deserve to be happy to."! And he thought she was quite pretty (I'd better keep an eye on him should Lil Lou and me be an item one day>) Now my 18 year old daughter, who is the most compassionate creature I know, gave me the third degree, because she did not want me to make a mistake, and that she was to young for me (31). But she was happy after we talked for a while. Basically my kids were happy beacuse they feel sorry for me. The witnessed first hand my ex wife's swine-ishness towrds me for 20 years. And feel bad that she ran offleft us all to be with some brainless fool.
Getting long, sorry, if bored don't read further.
To make it short, yesterday I requested an audiance with my parents , brother and sisters. All the typical jokes about mail order brides, concerns about scammers and blood suckers, and women that want thgeir 23 relatives to move once they get a toehold the U.S.. But my parents were happy for me. My sister wanted to know about mail order husbands. And my poor happily married brother could hardly contain himself as he devoured Fiance.com, and viewed all the women that I have written to!
Any one else in need of telling their families about your maddness? Any one else with tales to tell about telling MOom and Dad?
I have one problem left, how and when to tell my lolay congregation that I'm flying to Moldova in July, and that it's not for missionary work! (pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death LOL).
"Mom" not MOom "loyal congregation" not lolay. (maybe some freudian slips. My mother is a trip though, emotional, reactionary etc... But she waits hand and foot on the old man (who is the greatest man I know) and are very happily married 53 years.
My conversations ARE rated PG...if PG stands for "P"retty * "G"reat! ;)
WOW - Yes, it's lucky I don't have a snoop, I dread to imagine what your daughter (assuming she was mine) would be doing on the other end of the line other than I imagine it would be difficult for her to hold her silence. I even have to close all the windows securely to stop the street eaves dropping as it's all too easy to get carried away.
I also told my family a few weeks ago; and got total support all round, even my brother after a fair bit of expected ribbing but he's been warned by his other half to stay away from Fiance.com LOL
It seems a contrast if different family/friends opinions. Some supportive, want happiness and the best whilst others offering caution.
I don't know - I am sure if you explained to your congegration that you had a 'missionary position' to fulfil abroad that they would understand. ;)
With 4(?) kids I can't see that you would have a problem 'getting it over' to your flock.
If you like, I could cover you for a week or so?...although I can't make any promises how many of your regular congregation will be left by the time you return. Who knows, I may find a way to have them queuing at the door to get in, standing room only. I have some ideas...
I have begun the journey into the dark night (explaining to family). My mother had the typical reaction, but then began to soften as I explained the process. She's never liked anyone I brought home anyway.
My son has known all along (4 years old). He just checks to make sure there is a son of appropriate age. He once told his grandparents (late wife's parents) of the pictures of the ladies on the computer. Of course you know what they thought. Mother-in-law had to say something to me to tell to do those things after he goes to bed. I had no idea what she was talking about until a few days later when he said something to her and I was there. I explained it as dating sites, but did not tell them where the ladies were from.
I will have to though, as they will be the ones to watch him for a week while I travel.
I think these threads are made of something very cheap, 'cause they sure do disintegrate fast. lol
On computer?? On desktop I have just calm blue color:)
If to think theoretically I would like the picture of a waterfall or a cat, or something like. I also have pictures of my friends, of me and my boyfriend saved on the computer, but not on the desktop :))))
D. I know what you mean with your son. My 8 year old daughter is happy that Lucy has a daughter (7yrs). She will be the only girl in the house after her older sister goes to college in the fall.
Speaking about mothers-in law, listen to this trip: My ex inlaws think that their daughter (my ex -wife) is off the wall. I get along well with them. My 8 year old daughter was sleeping over their house. Grandma told my daughter that her brother (uncle Mel who I hired to do some house repairs) read one of the letters that I printed out from Lucy (I left it in thje bathroom). Grandma just wanted to tell my daughter about my girl friend (and pump her for more info). She was cool, just told grandma that it was my pen pal. What is wrong with this old lady? I am not sure which letter he read (the one inviting me to visit Moldova, or the one saying I could stay in her apt. with her. Or the "flower" letter. Maybe the nosey old man read em' all! I know that my ex-inlaws are dieing of curiosity. Have they told my ex-wife who could hassle me in some unfortunate ways? I don't know.
D. these threads are weak. They have a short shelf life, become mini chat rooms and then go into obscurity. They do seem to serve good purposes though.
As it turns out I "think" my son was born last month - a long complicated messy story courtesy of it's totally irrational and irresponsible mother using the child as a weapon. How unoriginal.
It's nice and unusual to read that ex-inlaws recognize their child as the one with behaviour problems. Blood thicker than water usually runs true regardless of the facts. I suspect he read them all! Temptation as you know is a weakness in man. All my letters are under lock and key when relatives or friends visit. The key is well hidden. :)
"My son?" sorry to hear the story. I hope it all turns out all right.
"totally irrational and irresponsible mother " There is a lot of that going around. My ex has absolutely zero in the way of maternal instincts. Lucy loves my kids already and shows genuine care, interest and concern about each one!
I spend a fair amount of time at the computer. You know writing sermons and all. I have found a lot of good sermon material talking with you all here! Especially Tim and dma. lol (helps me justify my time logged on).