I was just chatting with a buddy of mine, and he was telling me that if I was to meet a lady and was to meet her parents that it is a custom to bring gifts to them, and also to the ladies that I would meet, if that is true, what would be some ideal gifts to bring with me on my trip to Russia from the United States. Like one of a kind type of things that Russians good never get in Russia. Please give me some insight to this or any other customs that I am not aware of. OH yeah is it also true that when Im finished drinking a brew that is conisdered a bad omen or somthing if I dont sit it on the floor?
Tyson well you CAN bring gifts when meeting your girl's parents for the first time, but it's not a MUST. But when meeting them for the second or third time I would advice to bring gifts, that would be polite, and will show that you won't hide their daughter from them:)
As for gifts...giving them "Like one of a kind type of things that Russians good never get in Russia"...woudn't think it would be a good idea, they might think "oh he shows us what a bad life we have if we can't buy this here" or " does he think that we really can buy that here?? hahaha". Well not all will think that way, but many may have such thoughts. So be very careful in that, talk with your girl about that. And it would be better to buy small gifts, but to your girl, her dad and mom, if she has sisters or brothers to them as well, then a big gift but for all!! People here like the private attention, though how much they love each other, when there is a private attention towards them, they are getting very happy:)))
And if you will talk with your girl (of course you shouldn't talk her present with her:), think how happy would be her parents if you will bring her dad a think to enter his collection (for example), or something like that. It will show that you and girl talk about her parents as well, and not only about you two!!! :))))
Tyson- the only reason I have ever sat on the floor after drinking is because the room was spinning badly. Fortunately those days are long gone. I have never heard that before and can't imagine it being a custom in any country. But then again, I could be wrong.
"...is it also true that when Im finished drinking a brew that is conisdered a bad omen or somthing if I dont sit it on the floor?"
Tyson, I've never heard about such an "omen". The only thing I know that they say in Russia "Do not leave an empty bottle on the table you are sitting at - it is a bad omen, there will be a deceased in your family".
Believe it or not...
Thanks for the info, I am planning a trip in September, well actually not planning, The date is set, but I am trying to gather all the info I can. My buddies are trying to help I just need some first hand knowledge. So thanks to you all, if there is anything else please let me know. =)
Thanks Marina: I learned of the tradition of not leaving an empty bottle on a table the hard way. It was a CocaCola Lite (their version of Diet Coke) bottle made of grey plastic with Russian writing. No big deal - but it was interesting so I intended to take it home. Her mother came into my room - lifted the bottle - discovered it was empty and nearly freaked.
Also - when you pour someone something from a bottle, never pour backhand. Always turn the bottle in the direction of your thumb. To turn the bottle backhand (which seemed convenient from the chair I was sitting in) is considered an insult. Though I have to admit I am not sure why...
It's a bad omen to pour something from a bottle into the glass which is not put on the table, but which you hold in your hand. You should put the glass onto the table and then pour something into it.
Jet it all depends on people, as for me and the majority of my friends we don't follow many of the things which others thinks are a need to follow...it's just that it to follow all the traditions and avoid all the bad omens you will never have the chance to eat, drink or will never have enough time:)))
In the left hand??? I know when once we with a company sat and had a drink, there was much laughing when one was holding a glass in a left hand...most of all it's right hand...as far as I know:)
Dale E,
re. chopsticks - ask people who use them.
re. Knife *and* Fork: some people actually 1) cut the food 2) shift fork to right hand 3) eat with *fork only*
Now: if there are two forks next to my plate??
Sancho of course we use knife and fork, no there are no 2 forks next to the plate, I guess that some people may put 2 forks next to the plate, but not the majority of people.
Yes some people "1) cut the food 2) shift fork to right hand 3) eat with *fork only", and some use knife and fork all the time during eating, but usually people don't pay any attention to that, it's just a trifle and not something really important.
No I don't believe in that, I may accept that some silly people make jokes on how people use knife and fork, and such silly people here are too, and they make jokes...but as for me I don't care about such people and never pay attention to them.
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